are you always ready to listen to other peoples problems?

@heart4u (409)
Philippines
July 26, 2008 3:13am CST
well as i observed most of my friend confined with me and most peole also do well i have a heart on lendingm y ears to other who need attention a friend and a person to tell their problems and in return i will give them advice and then what makes me happy by doint it is the fact that in a simple way by listening to them im able to help them about their prblems how bout you guys? are you always ready to listen to other peoples problems? comment please thank you guys
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26 responses
• United States
27 Jul 08
heart4u, Yes, I am always ready to listen to a friend. I am usually asked for help from strangers, too, though. I may not be able to help with the problems, but I do listen to them. Sometimes, listening solves the problem, though. By telling others about the problem, the person gets to describe the problem, and by doing so, allows them to view the problem through a listener's ears, as well as their own ears, again. This gives the problem a brand new way to evaluate it, and helps to arrive at a solution to the problem, at hand. This is usually all that was necessary to solve the problem, in the first place. Yet, all I do is listen to other's problems, not solve them for people. But, if someone has a an issue they want resolved, I could be a set of listening ears for them. Thanks, for the question, heart4u. Chrystina
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@Hatley (164507)
• Garden Grove, California
27 Jul 08
hi heart foryou yes I love to listen to other peoples problems and try to help them. I try to give as good advice as I can t hing of and sometimes I have helped' as I get a response back thanking me for helping them. This makes me feel reallygood that I actually helped ' someone here on mylot. I may be elderly but my thinking is still very sharp.
@Hatley (164507)
• Garden Grove, California
27 Jul 08
stupid error, as good advice as I can think of not thing of
@quinnkl (1668)
• United States
28 Jul 08
I have always been a good listener and a very sincere listener. I had a relative comment once(after a conversation in another country with a family about their "holiday" and family) "you seem so sincere and involved when you talk to people". I was shocked. Because I never thought to feel/do it any differently! These days, I don't think I listen as well, and that makes me a bit sad.
• Philippines
28 Jul 08
yes, im always ready to listen to other peoples problems...especially with my friends everytime they have problems they always text me or call me up to ask for advice and i know in my own little way i can lighten their burden and same with me also i go to my friends whenever i have problems be it on love or personal problems.
• United States
27 Jul 08
Hi heart, yes I am also a listener. My husband and I talked about this just last night. One of my best friends called to cry on my shoulder about the problems she was having and kept appologizing for bothering me. I assured her she was not bothering me and just let her talk it out. I couldn't give her any advice but just listened and cried with her. I have felt like she is feeling right now and I know how it made me feel to be able to talk to someone. It makes me feel good to be able to listen and share my experiences with someone else who may be going through the same things I have already been through. My husband doesn't understand how I can listen to others problems and not let it effect me in a negative way, but I tell him it makes me feel good to know that I am helping them. I have always been this way, but as I've gotten older, I've acquired more wisdom. The only real way I can help besides listening, is pray for them and I believe in the power of prayer.
@umart13 (841)
• Ireland
27 Jul 08
Hello heart4u, I am not always ready to listen to other peoples' problems, but I am ready to listen to my friends' problems, because that is what I would define as one element of a friendship. I also like to think that my friends will also be there for me, whenever I need them. I would add that I also want to share and hear good news and to be in the company of people who want to laugh joke and have fun. There has to be a balance. Regards. Umart
• China
27 Jul 08
Yes! I don't know why my friends always like talk with me, especially about their love story. And most of these, I always act as a listener. But I like to be their ears.Because when I sad, I always want to find a friend to complaint with.I think if somebody like to talk with you that means they treat you as a family!!
@steeleIC (107)
• United States
27 Jul 08
Yes, I have always been all ears! My friends and family tend to come to me alot for advice. That's fine by me, because I'm glad to know they feel they can trust me to listen without being judgemental. My Dad was the same way. Everyone wanted to have his advice on everything! I guess I just inherited his great listening traits.(:
@ArchTech (45)
• Philippines
27 Jul 08
Not most of the time but I'm willing to help that person, I'm always listening to their thoughts & opinions....I like to advice them too if I can..
@fifileigh (3619)
• United States
27 Jul 08
not really. it just happens...whether i want to hear it or not...
@successlog (3172)
• China
27 Jul 08
i think listening to other people's problem is the best way to comfort his/her injured heart.isn't it? I always meet this kind of condition,some friend of mine sometimes has some unhappy thing,so i always tell he.she if you are unhappy, please tell the the truth,i would share with you.So he/she always say he.she feel better after talking with me.lol.I think this way it is helpful to people who meet a problem. good luck
• Philippines
27 Jul 08
always... and when there are secrets that are ment to be kept, I always promise that I would, and really mean it and do it. I gain my friend's trust because of this. and I am glad I do it
@subha12 (18453)
• India
27 Jul 08
i am. i can say in this case many friends also depend on me. many also share their problem with me. i help them whatever i can. for this many turn to me when they need help.yes, i am also able to make some happy
• Malaysia
27 Jul 08
most of the time i dont mind listening to other people's problem. i'd like to try to be there for them whenever they need me. if i can help, i will to help as much as possible. if not i'll just be a good listener and lend a shoulder to cry on.
@movicont (495)
• United States
27 Jul 08
For the most part I have no problems listening to their problems and giving out some advice as needed. However, I would say that there are times when I'm not in the mood for someone else's problems. In those cases I tend to listen and nod but I'm not actually absorbing the things they tell me.
@SHAMRACK (8446)
• India
27 Jul 08
Dear friend, As far as possible I would listen to other problems and moreover some people would have only time to tell problems only may be they are problem creator and their problems are almost endless and I could give almost my time wasted by listening on other side those who do want to end those problems I am really serious and would give my better part for better ending of that problems. I hope there is no one without problems.
@SHAMRACK (8446)
• India
27 Jul 08
Dear friend, As far as possible I would listen to other problems and moreover some people would have only time to tell problems only may be they are problem creator and their problems are almost endless and I could give almost my time wasted by listening on other side those who do want to end those problems I am really serious and would give my better part for better ending of that problems. I hope there is no one without problems.
@Elixiress (3893)
26 Jul 08
I tend to help people with their problems as long as I am not having problems myself, if I am having problems myself then I tend not to be in a very people person sort of mood. So no I am not always ready to listen to other people's problems, but most the time I am willing to help, sometimes I will tell someone I am not in the mood for people but I will talk to them later and they are usually fine with this.
@selece (2357)
• Philippines
26 Jul 08
I guess it's part of my nature. I've always listened to other people's problems. Often times, my friends share their problems with me and I'm always willing to listen and give advices if he/she needs one. It's actually a give and take relationship because they listen to me too when I need someone to talk to. They trust me so much and I do trust them whole heartedly too.
@dextornap (333)
• India
26 Jul 08
Yes i always ready to listen others and i help other whenever i can. But i think that listing is more important than help other. peoples always need a good listner. every one wants to talk one or other topic. yes about their problems also. If you listen to them carefully in their speech only you get solution for that problem. only there were not aware of that. So tell them about the solution. they will better handle rest of the thinks. One more thing is if you share your problem with other then problem will become half automatically.