How Important to have Self-Confidence?

@slepart (207)
Philippines
July 27, 2008 5:26am CST
Self-confidence is our attitude which gives us a positive and realistic views about ourselves. It helps us to trust our abilities and believe that we can achieve what we dream. Self-confident people have realistic expectations of themselves and others. Even if some of these expectations are not met they remain positive, accept themselves and look optimistically to conquer greater heights.. Have you experienced losing your self-confidence? How does it affects you?
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@izathewzia (5142)
• Philippines
28 Jul 08
It is very important to have a self-confidence. It will help you carry yourself properly. It will help you do and get what you want out of life. It will help you impose yourself. It will help you make a mark on your work, family and friends.
@kidjuwee (612)
• Philippines
27 Jul 08
when you don't have self confidence it's harder to become more successful in life. Some people have very low self confidence in themselves because of how they look like and I understand that it's hard but I always admire people who can have the confidence they need in order to feel good. It is true that we can do more with having self confidence but maybe too much will also harm us.
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@paid2write (5204)
27 Jul 08
I know what it's like to have little or no self confidence because that is how I was when I was young, and it did hold me back and stopped me from doing some of the things I could have done, or I would have liked to have done. When I stopped worrying about what other people thought about me, I began to understand that it's more important to respect myself, and not to want to be like other people. I have the confidence now and I know I can do almost anything if I really want to. I have become a more positive person and nothing is too much of a challenge to me. It may take more effort for a person who lacks confidence to learn how to be positive, but it can be done and it does make a big difference. I have a whole new outlook on life and my life is much better for it.
@crazy286 (269)
• India
28 Jul 08
self confidence is the only asset you cannot afford to lose even if you have to give away all the riches and treasures you have. your self confidence can bring back any of the riches that you have lost. but if you lose it, no riches can bring that back to you. so, stay confident.
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@mimico (3619)
• Philippines
28 Jul 08
Of course having self confidence is important. It's important in helping you find your purpose in life. It's also important in meeting and interacting with people. A lot of people can easily tell whether someone doesn't have enough confidence and this makes us doubt that person's abilities as well. Of course, I'd rather be friends with someone with low self esteem rather than an overconfident jerk. It's important to always believe in yourself or else no one else will.
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@magojordan (3256)
• Philippines
28 Jul 08
Losing self-confidence is really a very bad thing that could happen in your life because it is mainly a type of motivation that keeps you going. When I was starting in magic, it was really hard for me whenever someone in the audience would tell me that they know how it's done. Because of that I would sometimes fail the tricks that would follow. It's really bad to lose self-confidence because most of the time I lose focus, but I learned how to get over it and now I have more self-confidence than ever to accomplish what I really want
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• United States
28 Jul 08
I guess it's important, I've never really thought about it. And I'm not one that is concerned with self confidence. I guess I don't have any. Very few times in my life I have had a glimpse of what confidence is all about. I don't think it has affected me in any way.
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@roxanne271 (2035)
• Trinidad And Tobago
28 Jul 08
Hi slepart, Yes, I never used to have much self confidence but that has changed in recent year, especially since the beginning of this year. Not having self confidence really does put you at a disadvantage in my eyes, because you easily doubt your abilities and can fall prey to others telling you that you can't do such a task or fulfill that dream you have (only because they might be jealous of you) I read the secret around Christmas last year and have implemented some of the stuff I read into my life. I also went back to my own spiritual beliefs as well. I had decided to give someone else's religious beliefs a try (hey I'm open minded) but it did not work at all for me and they were expecting too much of me as well. I do still get involved and do volunteer work with their church and stuff (did it a week back) but I do not practice their religion, that's all. I have alot of self confidence now and even in low times i remind myself that I can create my own destiny and be where I want to be if I believe and work at it! It is a wonderful thing to believe in yourself, because if you don't, who would?
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@ratyz5 (7831)
• Philippines
28 Jul 08
It is very important for anyone. It helps out in enabling us to perform better socially. It also affects our skills in doing things. If ever one doesn't have enough self-confidence, even if they have the skill to do a particular task, they end up doing something that isn't really satisfying since one's own confidence affects the quality of the work that one does. There are plenty of reasons that some people don't have enough self-confidence. Sometimes, they are ridiculed by others which make them feel bad or they take constructive criticism badly that they lose whatever confidence that they have for themselve. Then again, it really depends on every individual on how they would look at every hurdle that they encounter. Though, it is always nice to hear compliments from others and encouragements.
@ratyz5 (7831)
• Philippines
29 Jul 08
Thank you for the best response
@lixiaos77 (1023)
• Shijiazhuang, China
28 Jul 08
It is helpful to concentrate the merits of yourself. when i was in a college, there are 2 classmates who are both not handsome. One of them is very active. He always smile to every one and help classmates sincerely. But the other is sensitive because he is not handsome. He will get offended even you merely don't contact his eyes when you meet. Caring more about others will help you gain self-confidence.
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@lingli_78 (12852)
• Australia
28 Jul 08
well, i think it is very important... self-confidence allowed you to be able to do everything that you want and achieve greater results... but the problem is, some people are too over confident and when that happens, they become too proud of themselves... so we always have to be able to know the limit and measure ourselves not to be over confident and underestimate the people around us... take care and have a nice day...
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@weng_08 (282)
• Philippines
28 Jul 08
My friends think that I am a very self-assured person, but there are times that I also feel weak. It is not always that you feel confident, we all have our shares of insecurities and disappointments, but being able to accept those helps. I always try to believe in myself, I guess somehow I've been able to prove that by being independent. It feels good to know you can carry yourself, but there will always be moments when you'd wish someone would be there to comfort you. It is therefore important to keep in touch with friends and family, that helps in building self-esteem too. Self-confidence is truly important. It is essential to be comfortable in your own skin, to accept your looks, for if we do not accept ourselves, who else will? Have a great day!
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• Indonesia
28 Jul 08
More self confidence would help me a lot right now. I have such low confidence nowadays, I often show them by nagging my husband. I need things to be fixed first so I could get my old confidence back. I think self confidence is a great thing to have for everyday life, for work, for almost anything, just not to get cocky though. Happy mylotting and have a nice day!
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• Philippines
27 Jul 08
Im not talking professional yah know but then, u see, in my experiences, when u look at urself a little bit OFF (dats wat no confidence people think most often).. thats wat people wud realy notice in you,,be urself if you want to fit into this world, coz this life of ours, the world is already fix, its like a tangram, each piece is wat that is in order to complete the puzzle, and if you, as that shape wud want to be a different ONE, then it wyd be difficult, for you, for everybody, and everone else... where all suppose to be different from one another... everyones differences make up a strong community, if u feel a little bit different then dnt be like shy about it..thats u... being confident cud help you MUCH.. ur life,,ur life style,everything!,, it wud elp u live normal, no more teasing wtsoever when u mit ur enemies or somebody u dnt like that dont like u.. did i answer ur question?... its a little bit.. nutzzzzz,,,^^
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@subha12 (18463)
• India
28 Jul 08
it is very important to have self confidence. otherwise you acn never progress in life. it is the thing that is needed in life to go forward. if you think you can't progress, then you need to build it. confidence in yourself in passing the hurdles is a must.
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• China
28 Jul 08
HI i think you are a self-confidence man..some people say once get a self-confidence,once get a part of success.No matterwhat you do a good conditing you must get, is a important factor that will put on you more or less.Sometimes i think i can do everything very well,but maybe at last a failed,and i will'nt lose confidance.A figure will nerve lose heart,so you should be strong.It's a posutive to ,everyone must get it!
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@SHAMRACK (8350)
• India
28 Jul 08
Dear friend, Many times there were situations when I had lost my self-confidence and I had tasted its bitter side too. Hence even we have all the resources to be success if we lack self-confidence I hope those resources or capabiliteis are mere waste. May the a confident person who do not have much capabilites may become success only because of being self-confident. Hence it is very much needed and it may also vary person to person. I also hope a self-confident person is much better than those who have capabilites and is not confident. Hence having self-confidence is helping hand in every place. It is also to be noted being over confident is another negative side. Hence keeping balance of confidence and using it at right place at right times is more needed.