My future problem in love... PLEASE HELP!!!

India
July 27, 2008 11:59am CST
My girlfriends a muslim n me a catholic. neither of us have a problem wid d caste. but its her family members... dey've told her dat she could marry whoever she wants but on 1 condition dat he b a muslim. frankly speaking i don wanna force her 2 do anything. she lost her dad whn she was in d 3rd std. she now lives wid her mom, uncle n her aunties.she said dat she wont run away frm home cause she feels dat shez responsible 2wards her family 2 n i completely agree wid dat. b4 she'ld say dat she'ld commit sucide if dey force her 2 marry sme1 else but dosent think bout such crap now as i used 2 get very angry whn she'ld speak like dat. she says dat she will try 2 convince dem but if she dosent succeed she will sit unmarried at home for d rest of her life. dis is my problem...if any1 could help on this den please do... m waitin 4 responses frm ya'll.
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• Malaysia
28 Jul 08
hey mate, ya it isn't easy when it comes to religion. In Malaysia too, to be married with a muslim means, u have to abstain from pork, gambling, dogs as pets..etc. Also, ur name will need to be changed to a muslim name. But love is blind :) there's always a way and options. the question is if u r willing to fight for her and to grab her and go some place where u both can live peacefully and maybe start a family. Anything's possible :)
@sedel1027 (17846)
• Cupertino, California
27 Jul 08
It is really her choice who she marries. If she can afford to support herself and they aren't paying for the wedding, why does religion even matter?
• India
27 Jul 08
i must say its a serious problem my 2 frnds had the same problem. my friend was hindu and her boyfriend is muslim. they did court marrige and not told anyone about it after some time when myfriends parents start forcing her to marry she told the truth. now after 3 months both of ther families accepted them. and now they are happy.
@shamzy18 (2316)
27 Jul 08
well you probably dont want to do this but what if you converted to a muslim would the family approve then? and if they dont even approve of that then i guess shes either going to have to choose between her family and you.. but personally i dont think running away is a good idea.. how old are you two? what if you just wait a few years, i mean if she doesnt marry anyone and she tells her parents that surely they will let her marry you if they said she can marry anyone so she doesnt be unmarried all her life? does her mum know about you?