My names is Robert, not Bob.

United States
July 27, 2008 2:15pm CST
Do you have people shorten your name when you prefer the original?How did you handle it? The name I was given can be shorten and the short form isn't that bad. But I could see having a great name like Margaret and not liking Peggy or Margo.
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@tentwo67 (3384)
• United States
27 Jul 08
My name can't really be shortened, so I don't have direct experience with it. My son's name has many different possible nicknames, though, and people seem to try all of them without inquiring as to our preferences. It's not so bad, really, because none of them are bad, but it's interesting. I have always tried to make sure I know what someone likes to be called so that I can use the proper name. I am also really picky about spelling (this comes from my maiden name having a very unusual spelling). I realize that not everyone is like this, though. It has been my experience that if someone is very particular about what they are called, they will generally make themselves very clear on the point, so that does help. Was it Groucho Marx who said something along the lines of "You can call me whatever you like... as long as you call." I don't remember if it was him or someone else, but there's something to that sentiment too. As long as it's not unpleasant, hopefully we can remember that at least the person is paying attention to us?
• United States
27 Jul 08
I am good at faces and slow at learning names. But when I ask your name, whatever you say first is the name I will call you until You tell me differently. so if you say Robert, then you are Robert, not rob or Bob.Whenever I meet a Eric, I always ask " With a c or a k?".I heard a quote," Call me whatever you like as long as you don;t call me late for dinner."
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@tentwo67 (3384)
• United States
27 Jul 08
That's good, I like that! Sounds like we have similar feelings on the nickname front.
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@shlooper (309)
• United States
27 Jul 08
My name is Rachel, and people call me "Rache" all the time. I don't mind it enough to correct people, but it is funny to me, when my friends call me by my full name and the only people who shorten it are people who don't know me very well at all. It seems like a gross reversal of logic.
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• United States
27 Jul 08
I agree. I thought it was friends and family who would give you a nickname , not strangers.rachel is a beautiful name. it doesn't need shortening.
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27 Jul 08
people take it upon themselves to shorten my name and i hate it my name is Lucy and i always get Luce and i cannot stand being called that it really drives me crazy and i mean lucy is not really a long name anyway so to shorten it even more is just lazy i think lol
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• United States
27 Jul 08
Lucy, I hope you tell friends and family Not to shorten your name. That way you will know who your friends Really are. I would Never Shorten Lucy.Isn't it already a short form of Lucille?
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@maximax8 (28490)
• United Kingdom
27 Jul 08
Yes, many people like to shorten my name. My name is Maxine and French people call me Maxime or Maxima. English people call me Max or Maxi. My sister called her two boys names that can't be shorten but her girls get called Lee Lee and Bree Bree.
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@Angelwriter (1956)
• United States
28 Jul 08
It depends on what they're shortening it to. There are at least three nicknames that can be formed from shortening my name, and I'd only have a problem with one. Since I've become an adult though, not many people do shorten my name. I actually had more of a problem with someone making my name longer, and I really didn't like it.
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• United States
28 Jul 08
I hope you correct them when they try to make your name longer.
@cripfemme (7718)
• United States
20 Aug 08
No one ever shortens my name. I don't allow it. If they did I would even know they were addressing me. In elementary school, people called me Marti for a bit and when I moved to Massachusetts, a good friend took to calling me Tina until I told him I didn't like it. I've always preferred regular old "Martina".