The best way to deal with a troll ...

@guybrush (4662)
Australia
July 27, 2008 7:54pm CST
What do you do when you know a troll has followed you and has made a new account (which is not allowed on myLot anyway)? Is it best to call their bluff and 'out' them - or merely report them and hope myLot will deal with them? I don't like being taken for a fool, and it would be easy to just ignore this person and not reply to their comments or responses - but I don't like the fact they are targeting other friends of mine. None of my friends mind about losing their stars or money, as they're not here for that - but it's unpleasant to know this person is lurking around waiting to cause trouble. What would you do?
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@caramello (4382)
• Australia
28 Jul 08
It is easier said than done about ignoring people like this.....I know! In another site I was "friends" with someone and when things went sour (she did not believe I was having computor trouble) was the start of it and it blew up from there. To this day I cannot believe the emotional turmoil I went through but did realise that I was not up in the league as far as nasty people go. This person also attacked my family who she did not know, and so I ended up closing my account and the money still in there donated to charity. It is a form of bullying which I can tolerate if I am face to face with someone, but over the internet is very distressing even for an oldie like me! I feel for the young ones who experience this type of thing as I knw the affect it had on me! If it was me now in your situation, I would ignore and report any abuse and try and communicate with those you wish to and hopefully this person will give up! Your other friends' knowing the situation will most likely be able to deal with it themselves.....but it is not a nice experience!
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@guybrush (4662)
• Australia
28 Jul 08
I'm so sorry to hear that happened to you, caramello. What a shame it also affected your family and caused you to close your account. So unfair. You're right - face to face, it's easier to handle, but sly underhand activities are far more unpleasant. I'm old and very thick skinned - but this particular troll caused great distress to a lady I knew on the previous site, who became so upset at being bullied she was forced to leave. She really loved her onsite discussions, but this person even betrayed her confidence and posted personal things on the site as well as inventing aliases in order to have my friend's discussions deleted as soon as she posted them. Now she's too scared to join another site, even though we've told her about myLot - so it's amazing the emotional damage trolls can cause.
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@ellie333 (21029)
28 Jul 08
Hi Guybrush, This can be very upsetting for all affected and have experineced being hit in the past myself and think that perhaps still am as one person does seem to follow me around with different names too and whenever they appear I have numerous discussions deleted etc. I think to be report is a good thing if you know for sure but to get upset only fuels them more, to ignore seems a better way to go as they thrive on people getting upset. Sad really all the time and eergy they take to do this to others could be used much more positively but just like in life you get nasty people you do here to at myLot, keep posting, keep responding and keep having FUN with it. Ellie :D
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@guybrush (4662)
• Australia
28 Jul 08
Hi Ellie! You're exactly right - these are sad people who should be putting their energies into enjoying life. I've reported this one, so I hope myLot is able to weed her out. I don't mind if she keeps her original account under her 'proper' name - that way, we know who she is and can stay well away. She needs to be stopped from popping up with other names though, as unsuspecting people will soon find out they have targets on their backs. I hope your own personal troll gets sick of following you around soon!
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@ellie333 (21029)
8 Sep 08
Hi Guybrush, Thank you for the best response, I do hope this person has stopped hassling you now. Huggles. Ellie :D
@richiem (3647)
• Philippines
1 Aug 08
I have not known any trolls here yet. And I hope I would not encounter one. I don't like knowing someone like them. As others have pointed out, it is really difficult to pin-point trolls because they are "crafty and cunning". And do you think mylot would seriously take a report which is only a suspicion? I hope so.
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@guybrush (4662)
• Australia
1 Aug 08
I hope you don't encounter one, richiem, because you'll see your star go down and a lot of points disappear overnight! Trolls are crafty and cunning - and also jealous. I have given myLot the names of both accounts this troll has opened, and other information which gives definite proof of what is happening. Since I did that, the troll has stayed away from my discussions. I hope you will be safe from trolls on myLot!
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@richiem (3647)
• Philippines
1 Aug 08
I am hoping for it too. Good thing you have accumulated a lot of information about these trolls. I think myLot would act on reports with really complete and reliable information and not just hunches. You have been a good detective. Thanks to members like you myLot is becoming a more safer place.
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@GreenMoo (11842)
1 Aug 08
Thankfully, this is something that I've never experienced here on myLot. I think I'd be tempted to just leave well alone and hope they got bored. I've never understood why people want to make trouble.
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@guybrush (4662)
• Australia
3 Aug 08
My troll hasn't logged in for four days now ... maybe she's been warned, or maybe as you say, she's got bored. Ah ... peace and quiet ... She's still active on the other site, so with any luck she'll stay there now. We can only hope!
@underdogtoo (9600)
• Philippines
28 Jul 08
Trolls are like fairy creatures too. I remember seeing or reading about fairies where they said, remember us. If you forget us then we will cease to exist. It is us who give life to these creatures and they live or die by our will. You just have to choose how to use your awesome power. Adding fuel to the fire will make it blaze larger and longer.
@guybrush (4662)
• Australia
28 Jul 08
That's so true, underdogtoo. Something to remember when dealing with trolls. Hopefully this one will die by our will.
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@cmathias12 (1025)
• Armed Forces Canada, Europe, Middle East
28 Jul 08
I would simply push the exclamation button for report abuse. If you respond, then You will be the one penalized in the end by loosing what you earned. It is best just to report him and have your friends do the same.
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@guybrush (4662)
• Australia
28 Jul 08
Excellent advice, cmathias - that's what I've done!
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@Hatley (159401)
• Garden Grove, California
28 Jul 08
hi guybrush if a troll has followed me and has two acounts and I know this for a fact I will just hit the third button and left my lot handle it. I too do not like being made out a fool. I too have seen a lot of mylot friends getting' hurt by this troll. Ihad my innings a while back when' this thing slid my star from a ten to a 6 overnight by a lot of minusing and I had done nothing wrong. I reported this to mylot and they did act on it.I am now an eight.
@guybrush (4662)
• Australia
28 Jul 08
I'm so glad you're back up to an 8, Hatley! Yes, I've hit the '!' button. This person has now revived a very old story they used on another site over a year ago to gain sympathy. I hope your troll is long gone and won't undergo a reincarnation any time soon!
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@MaeTsuen (257)
• Philippines
28 Jul 08
try to convince the admin to ban his ip address.
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@guybrush (4662)
• Australia
28 Jul 08
I've reported the troll, MaeTsuen - so hopefully that will be the end of the problem - for now.
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@setrise (10)
• United States
28 Jul 08
Well...I would just like stop and tell them:*that its not right doing this to others you know?!What if someone did the samthing 2 you and u might not like it?huh?well if u dont want that then dont do it anymore it does hurt me and my friends!!!What if we picked on ur friends and start doin wat ur doin!!!trust me u wont like it wen we dont.*dats wat u should do say it with courage and streangth and a bit of anger!ok?its fine just talkin but botherin' someones biz is just like soooo uncoool and dats from da heart if u say'd irt like u feel heroic!^_^
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@guybrush (4662)
• Australia
28 Jul 08
I agree, setrise! We should all stick up for what's right and run the trolls out of town!
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@oldboy46 (2133)
• Australia
3 Dec 08
This is an old discussion I realise but still relevant and if some of the discussions I have read here lately are an indication, then there is still some trolling going on. There was also a fair bit of it going on here a couple of years ago and a number of my friends simply left, which was not good but they decided it wasn't worth the hassle of staying. At least here on myLot we have the option of reporting the "troll" to myLot admin and hope they can do something about it. My partner has also left a couple of sites/forums in the past because of someof these trolls who are actually vicious. In one instance she believes it was just the one person who used to follow all her posts and make really vicious and nasty comments. That same person was on another site as well but this time she was one of a pack who used to almost terrorise members. My partner was not the only victim of these vicious spiteful people whose main aim in life seemed to make as many people as possible totally miserable. In fact my partner never even knew what she had said or done to "attract" this vicious person. We know 2 people who will no longer belong to any internet site/forum because of the attacks made on them. Sadly in both these instances they thought that these people were friends which means they trusted them with information they would not normally disclose. One woman already has issues with depression, which was controlled by medication, but she ended up in a really terrible way. These is no way we cannot stop these people before they start but when/if they do, then we should report them immediately. That is the only way they can be stopped and hopefully before they do too mch damage. It would be nice if myLot could ban an IP but I believe they do not do that which means the trolls can just get a new account with a new name. Good luck and hope that none of us are ever bothered by these trolls again.
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@guybrush (4662)
• Australia
3 Dec 08
It would be an excellent idea if myLot (and similar sites) could ban an IP - the troll who followed me here may well have been banned from myLot, as she has had no activity for months under either of her aliases. She is still going strong on the original site however - being as unpleasant and provocative as previously. On that site, she 'flags' any comment I make - and then has them removed. In the end it becomes too much of an effort to be bothered posting anything, so I rarely go there now. There was indeed a pack mentality on that site - cliques of people ganging together against anyone who disagreed with them. I tend to stay away from religion or politics these days - the trolls are waiting to pounce on the unsuspecting!
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@rosdimy (3936)
• Malaysia
15 Dec 08
Banning an IP address may not be a good solution because there are still parts of the world where ISPs assign dynamic addresses. Every time I log off the Internet and log on back again I get a different IP address from the previous one. Several times I was given the same IP address which seemed to have been blacklisted by several sites. all the best, rosdimy
@oldboy46 (2133)
• Australia
20 Dec 08
guybrush was that an Aussie survey/poll site you are talking about? My partner used to be a member of one and she said there was a lot of drama there where some members continually caused hassles. Things like reporting abuse etc, so my partner no longer goes there because she thought it was worse than most primary school yards. lol It is awful when that happens and I hope you are still not being subjected to it. I know that some sites do not allow more than one member to have the same IP or a maximum of 2 with the same IP can be members.
@koalatbs (2231)
• United States
8 Sep 08
That is awful guybrush! I guess if I were you, I'd report them to myLot so that hopefully something can be done. I am sure you are frustrated and annoyed too. I hope you get rid of whomever it is so that you can get back to enjoying myLot as it should be and not have to worry about it anymore. Good luck.
@guybrush (4662)
• Australia
8 Sep 08
Thanks, koalatbs. Since I reported her, she hasn't posted on myLot under either of her aliases ... so maybe she was banned or warned. All quiet now!