Has not planned anything for are anv.........Why?!

United States
July 28, 2008 2:07pm CST
Thursday will be my 4 year wedding anv. Last night I asked my husband what are we going to do or if he had planned anything. He said "NO" because I thought we where going to do something that weekend. Which is fine with me. But why cant we go out and eat dinner by are self's to celebrate are anv. ? Then I told him I already know what I'm getting him then he told me we where not getting each other anything. Since we are going out. I was upset because It's just like another day to him. No planning no gift. I would love just a home made card from him. It doesn't have to be anything that cost alot of money or we don't have to go on some trip. I just want something. I mean it is are anv. I was planing on this scavenger hunt for him on Thursday and him ending up at a restaurant. I'm hurt now should I still do the scavenger hunt or do nothing? Should I get him a gift or not buy him anything? Please help I'm so confused. I want him to take the first step and do these sweet things that I do for him.
4 responses
@carolbee (16243)
• United States
28 Jul 08
Don't want to do any male bashing here so will say that some people are just not romantic and see things in a different light. Females have a different attitude about life, gifts, planning events or special occasion parties. Maybe you both can come to some agreement about eating out and be happy to spend time together. Is he against a scavenger hunt? Good luck and hope you enjoy whatever you decide to do to celebrate. Happy Anniversary, carolbee
• United States
29 Jul 08
Hello carolbee, Thanks for comment. I understand about guys and how they see anv,birthdays and so on. But being in a relationship you have to understand that your wife/girlfriend deserves a little special treatment. While I think so!
@carolbee (16243)
• United States
30 Jul 08
I totally agree with you.
@intimate36 (1416)
• Pakistan
28 Jul 08
Might be.. he is planning to give you a surprise...so he gave you a cold answer... Hope , I am correct...BTW a happy anniversary...good luck
• United States
28 Jul 08
Hello intimate, I hope you guys are right. Thanks for the comment!
@ishralene09 (2260)
• Philippines
28 Jul 08
I agree with krayzietam, maybe he is just planning something too. And don't bck out on your plan, it's cool. When you show him small sweet things you do, he'll definitely get back to you. I mean that's 4 years of happy marriage. He'll definitely plans on something. If not, well, just go on with your plan. It will work out eventually.
• United States
28 Jul 08
Well, I hope you all are right. I hurts my feels when he takes the specail days and act like is just another day in his life. Thanks for the comments!
• United States
28 Jul 08
Hey I can understand why you may be down. But did you know for a fact that he was serious? Maybe he is planning something and just wants it to be a surprise. Maybe he doesn't want you to know. I think you should still do what you planned for him. You can't decide to do something for your husband only on the condition that he does something for you. Get what I mean? Maybe he will come through and know that this day is important to you. If you don't think that it is important to him, then just ask him. Its all about communication.
• United States
28 Jul 08
Hey Krayzietam, I know for a fact that he is not planning anything because he got upset when I said something about going to dinner on Thursday. I don't do things to get something in return but it's getting old me planning and do everything. I want him to take the first step to surprise me instead me always surprising him. I think I mite just go ahead and do the scavenger hunt. I don't know I have mixed feelings right now.