Do You Think a 26 year-old woman could fall in love with a 59 year-old man?

Philippines
July 28, 2008 3:58pm CST
I found out last December that my dad has a girlfriend, a 26 year-old woman... I allow him to have another wife, since my mom passed away 6 years ago. I know he has to be happy. I just have a different feeling about this one. He has lots of money last year, but we were all shocked when we have learned that the money is gone... Now, he's totally poor and he's living with us now. If he didn't tell that woman that he has the money, still owns a property and would be receiving his pension on january, i would believe she's in love with my dad. Even though the money is gone, I guess she's still eyeing on his property and would look forward to spend the pension my dad would be receiving. Do you think it's really possible for the girl to fall for my dad?
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@se7enthbird (8327)
• Philippines
28 Jul 08
anything is posible already. one of my singers is just 23 years old when she met her now husband who is 54. they are now living in australia and they have a one year old son. you allow? i mean do are parents need to ask our opinion when they want to marry again? sorry for the reaction but it just sounds wierd for me, har har har. people get married for a lot of reasons, and some marries with lame reasons. so sad that this happens to your dad. i think it is possible for a young lady to fall in love with your dad but he has to choose properly and he has to make sure he knows the person very well.
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• Philippines
28 Jul 08
it's because it's not only the first time that he has lost money. 6 years ago, he has fallen in love with younger girls, but it turned out they were just after the money. my dad was really miserable at that time... the beerhouse owner went to our place to get the computers in our computer shop, since my dad owed him a lot for maintaining those girls. Even the jewelries disappeared also... i have a feeling it's happening again.... first, his money is gone again... i know for him it would be all worth it because he has spent everything for the woman. But what if he cannot fulfill the promise to the woman, that he's going to give her an expensive computer and she would be the manager of the company my dad would be putting up? He's going to have this loan when he has received his pension to fulfill the promise to the girl... He cannot even buy his own medicines. I have to do so since Im the only child. he still has to arrange some documents to process the pension, but the problem is there is no money left. I have given money but that's not enough... a lot of relatives say if he has not given everything to the girl, he's not having this problem now. the woman still communicates with him, asking about the status of his pension...
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• Philippines
28 Jul 08
thanx maxemmo...
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• Philippines
29 Jul 08
ouch goddess, you did not tell the whole story on your discussion and now you are going to finish it after i said my views? . well if money is the reason why this girls are all over your dad then i think your dad is the one who needs to fix this up. old people are grumpy already and they dont want to be taught. they think they know all about life already. but you being there and keeping an eye on him will be a big help.
@LadyMarissa (12160)
• United States
28 Jul 08
YES, I know a 26 year old can fall in love with a 59 year old man. When I was close to that age I met a much older man. I adored him. He insisted on spending a lot of money on me even though I told him I didn't want or need some of the things he bought. I found out later that he felt if he bought me nice things I would never leave him. I did not love him just for the things he bought me. He was a good man. Also, I would have taken him into my home when he became broke. Maybe this younger lady makes him feel young & alive again. I'm sure he's missed your Mom terribly. He deserves a little happiness in his life.
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• Philippines
28 Jul 08
Even if the girl is just after the money? He has already spent all his money to the girl... now she is poor. But the girl is still waiting for his pension on December my dad will be 60.
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@n30wing (4768)
• Philippines
29 Jul 08
Well, I know your very much concern about your Dad cause his your Dad your just protecting him. I think what you can do why not talk to this younger woman straight to the point with out your father and let her explain before you conclude. It's very hard to judge someone, with out knowing the truth what had happened. Age is not a big issue I guess as long as they are happy and in love. I can't blame you thinking that way. But of course you can't give the happiness what that girl giving it to you father. That hurts I guess. We cannot teach an old dog new tricks. It's not easy to talk regarding this matter to you father and to hard to blame your father with his mistakes. Have a nice day!
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• United States
28 Jul 08
Yes it's possible but it's not likely. From the way things are sounding it appears the woman that is dating your dad is using him as a sugar-daddy.
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@roniroxas (10576)
• Philippines
28 Jul 08
maybe yes maybe no. base on your story i think your dad are meeting the wrong kind of girls. he must be careful on what he is doing because he is messing his life. yes, we children understand that our parents are feeling lonely and sad.... but they still need to be aware of what people around them may do or can do. he cant just meet someone and trust at an instant. i hope he can have someone who will really cares for him and not his pocket
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@seabeauty (1480)
• United States
29 Jul 08
Is his girlfriend still with him or did she leave him when he became broke? If she is still dating him than chances are they are both in love and she is not a gold digger. My feeling is it is possible to fall in love with someone much older. I have seen it myself when my ex boyfriends dad who was also in his 50's married a 26 year old woman that he worked at the same place with.
• India
29 Jul 08
I suppose it is really possible. Love is considered blind. There is no prerequisite qualification to fall in love. We don't force into love generally, but love happens. There must be something attractive in your dad the girl finds. So is the case with your father. He too got attracted to that girl and when there is mutual attractions, love is pure. I suppose your dad will love the company of his new young girl friend. You may find it abit difficult to address your step-mom. But let your dad be happy as you will have your own life with time. Every individual has his individual perception and so one can not predict what someone prefers. This may seem to be abnormal though it is normal. I too love older guys because of their caring attitude and are more patient than those of the younger guys. I am speaking about the majority though everyone may not be.
• United States
29 Jul 08
Well, remember the cliche line that "age is just a number"? This could very well be a real-world example. When you say she's still "eyeing" his property did you mean that she's told you this or said it straightforward, in which case she's probably after material possessions, or are you just assuming this based on her past behavior? Try to look only at what you know is true and judge her based on that- not on guess-work and suspiscions!!!
@metschica25 (5407)
• United States
29 Jul 08
I am sorry to hear about your mothers passing . I think maybe after all the sadness your father went through that maybe he is happy now . I know for me it would be hard , but i would try to think that she does love your dad , and age has nothing to with how you could feel about a person . Trust that this love is true , and that she will not hurt your father . That would be a very low thing to do to someone . if your father is happy , and living his life then it should be ok , but if he is worried , or sad , step in .
• Sweden
29 Jul 08
Theres is no POSIBLE WITH Love..because LOVE is a feelings that you cannot buy,you just feel it..doesnt matter if he/she is old as long as they love each other..
• United States
29 Jul 08
This never happens in my life. But we should know anyone has the right to choose love and happiness whatever how old he is. In china, 28 year-old girl got married 82 year-old Yang who awarded the Nobel Prize in Physics in 1957. Their marriage had been suspicious. However they prove their love using their action. I can understand you in this situation, trust you dad, he should follow his heart.
• Malaysia
29 Jul 08
I'm not sure about this, some said love is blind. But I'm not believe in this. Although some people will think that the age gap not a problem for the lovers, but I think it is. Over big gap in age may cause miscommunication for these 2 persons. A 59 year-old man can be a father of a 26 year-old woman. Fews years age gap can be acceptted, but not this big age gap. So if you say she is with the 59 year-old man just for his money, sure I will believe.
@shell1986 (405)
• United States
29 Jul 08
It may be possible, but in your dad's case I would say its highly unlikely that she's in love with him. I'm 21 and dated a 38 yr old who was fairly well off but I never eyed him for his money! Great personality, good in the sheets, and we had a great time together. I would tell your dad to look elsewhere and possibly try to hook him up with someone a little closer to his age with money of her own. Good luck...I can't imagine someone doing that to one of my parents.
• United States
29 Jul 08
Yes it is possible for a young women to fall in love with an old man. The way you describe your step-mom sounds like she is after his money and pension. But then again she could be in love with him. I did hear of women being attracted to older men.
• Philippines
29 Jul 08
good day.. It's possible and it can happen. why not? We all have our own preferences in age and in love
@Uroborus (910)
• Canada
29 Jul 08
Yes, I think it's possible. Is it the case with your dad and his girlfriend? I don't know. When it comes to subjective matters of love, you have to take ity on a case by case basis. Generalizations don't work. Look at the specifics of your case. If the money dissapeared shortly after he met her, then try and find out what it was spent on. If she is the one spending it, or him buying mainly for her, then there may be a problem, yes. As for the remaining property, try to convince your dad to use a lawyer to darft a written agreement that the property won't go to her. After all, she is just his girlfriend, not his wife. If she expects property, and she refuses to sign such an agreement, then you may have a problem, and love may not be what's at work here.
• United States
29 Jul 08
Id like to say anything is possible I just hope money was involved in the relationship otherwise it will fall apart.
@howard96h (11658)
• New York, New York
29 Jul 08
You might not understand how your father is feeling but it is his life and he has a right to do as he pleases. I am sure he misses your mom very much and maybe this younger woman make him feel happy, so no one has the right to stop this, he is not a child he is a grown man. You said in your discussion "I allow him to have another wife, since my mom passed away 6 years ago." Allow? You or no one else has the right to allow your father to do anything. He is the father not the child here. Goddessofbeauty I understand your concern, he is your dad and you want the best for him but you don't know the pain he is feeling inside. Your last question asks "Do you think it's really possible for the girl to fall for my dad?" maybe it's your dad who is the one who is falling for the girl. Best of luck.
@lazeebee (5468)
• Malaysia
29 Jul 08
Hi goddess, if you're asking if it's possible for a younger woman to fall for an older man - yes, why not? It's possible the other way too, for a younger man to fall for a woman old enough to be his mother. I believe that love (or attraction) has no age boundaries - the only issue, is whether it will survive the differences of the generations (interests, thinking, others' perception and gossips, and so on).
@jinxky (2251)
• Philippines
29 Jul 08
i have a 26 year old friend who's married with a 50 year old man, people say that love age doesn't matter.. well it depends on people. but for me age really matters.. maybe 4-5 years older than me or 1-2 years younger than me hehehe..