Do you lock or confine yourself in a room if you're depressed?

Philippines
July 28, 2008 6:06pm CST
Well, I am depressed right now and I have locked myself in my room... I don't let people in and don't want to take calls either. I guess it is better for me to do so to avoid arguments and I wanna have some time to rest... im sick and tired of thinking and dealing about ptoblems.... Do you do that also when you're depressed?
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@philjas (1134)
• United States
28 Jul 08
Yes I definitely prefer to be alone when I'm depressed or upset about anything. The hard part is when you have people in your life who just don't understand that and try to get you to "talk about it", or they take it personally that you're shutting them out. My mother used to do that to me when I was a teenager and it was awful, she'd accuse me of blaming her for whatever was wrong then she'd be mad and I'd have another thing to be upset about. My husband is pretty good about it though, he gets that I just want to be alone and I'm not mad at HIM, and it's just best to leave me alone.
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@philjas (1134)
• United States
28 Jul 08
I wanted to add also, first I hope you feel better about things soon, and I think it's interesting that you don't want to talk to people or take calls, yet you've come onto MyLot to talk to us! :) That's good, and sometimes people online are SO much better in these situations. You can be alone and yet not alone at the same time, you know what I mean?
• Philippines
29 Jul 08
I know exactly what i mean... im still here in the room, i took a nap, just opened the computer and talk with you guys. at last i feel better
@yenwie84 (1345)
• Malaysia
28 Jul 08
I would do the same thing like you when I am depressed too. I prefer not to talk with anyone when I am facing problems. I want to get rid of everyone who keeps on asking and I would solve the problem myself. Maybe sometimes people will find irritated with my act,but I just don't bother. I have my own way. When bad things happen,I believe only we ourselves can solve our own problems. Do you agree with me? Winks.
• Philippines
28 Jul 08
Yeah, I agree. That's why I need time for myself to be alone and think for possible solutions.
29 Jul 08
No I don ot cope with it in that way,if I am a little down and the load has got a little heavy then I like to just take a rest for a while,if I take that rest I can feel much better,but it is not a rest where I am locked away from everone,but a rest where my family will more often than not bring me tea,and just be comforting to me.
@iyah10 (4116)
• Kuwait
29 Jul 08
When I am depressed I always do that go to the room and locked myself in to it but that was before that I do not know how to expressed my feelings to the person I am angry or upset of or in any reason it might be but now i always make it sure that I am always open in my feelings with my Husband or with my Mother or someone to avoid depression so that is the way i know and it works for me and now I also do some Shopping if I will fell that I knew that I would be depressed.......so guess try the way that I have because maybe it would work.
@Darkwing (21590)
29 Jul 08
No, I don't. That would make me feel even more depressed. I'm more likely to take myself off for a walk in the peace of the countryside, or beach, where I can be at one with nature, and can search my inner soul. Brightest Blessings.
@salonga (27973)
• Philippines
29 Jul 08
Well perhaps it's better to really be alone when angry so you can have some rest and have time to think better. You can avoid further argument when you do so. That's a good idea, however, it is not healthy if you dwell long time in anger or depression. As much as possible you have to do something to recover from depression or anger so that you can easily get back to your normal self and face life in a happy mood again.
• Philippines
29 Jul 08
Well, for me when i am depressed i don't know what to do. I only cry and first of all, I ask God for guidance...
@koolkate (242)
• Bahrain
29 Jul 08
Nop, I try to cheer up ! Believe me it helps alot, I mess with my family members and it's really fun.And I chat with my friends and watch comedy movies.I hope I helped you.
@dropofrain (1168)
• India
29 Jul 08
When I am depressed, I tend to lock myself in a room. I dont get close to people and don't even respond to them. Along with all this i tend to cry a lot. The extent is so intense that my eyes get swollen and I am asked many questions from my friends. I think this is not the right attitude and should be changed.
@raina21 (130)
• India
29 Jul 08
Yes I do so at times...Actually sometimes we need our own space and time to spend with ourself.So I guess we do this...and its very normal to do it...This way we can stop a lot of arguments and fights to start.
• United States
29 Jul 08
It is not because of depression I find myself confined to my bedroom. * My reason is because of heat. I cannot tolerate high temperatures. In the high Arizona desert where I live it can get in the high 90's to low 100's and I need a window air conditioner to avoid illness. My medication makes me heat intolerant, and my cheapo upstairs apartment doesn't have central heating plus cooling, and gets hot as Hades. The window air conditioner can only cool a small space as I purchased a low output economy model that is also energy star compliant. The rest of my apartment, my parents and I use mainly as storage and I've a container garden going on in the kitchen.
@artemis432 (7396)
• United States
29 Jul 08
Absolutely Goddess. In fact, I go to my room to sleep when I feel this way, turn off my mind have dreams of a life not my own. And I day dream alot too. I have a baby so I can't lock myself away often, instead I take him for a walk in his stroller - so I can daydream all I want - and he goes to sleep so I can take a nice shower when we get home. Showers are a luxury - anytime I'm in water its a luxury.
@coffeeshot (3786)
• Australia
29 Jul 08
When i'm depressed I like to sleep. I guess I can totally escape what I'm feeling by being asleep. I also find that I just laze around watching tv because there's nothing else that I feel like doing. I guess it is natural to want to be alone when you're feeling that crap.
@maddysmommy (16243)
• United States
29 Jul 08
Either that or leave the apartment all together and go for a very long walk. I like to get out of the apartment more than locking myself in our room. I don't know why but I do when I'm depressed.
@app3ls (63)
• Malaysia
29 Jul 08
ya, i do the same as you if I'm depressed. Just feel like to be alone, don't want to be disturbed. I'll keep quiet, playing with my own mood. Don't like to face people. Even if people talk to me, I find it lazy to reply them. Or just reply them in really short.
• Malaysia
29 Jul 08
Well if i am oin depressed or sad time i normally will go to my room to stabilise my emotion and to avoid anyone else to asking me that i don't like to answer or disturb me, well actually it is to avoid any argument. All i want to do in that time in my own room is solving my problem, thinking back what i have done wrong. I am not crying in my own room when i am depresed or sad, cause crying to me canot solve any problem but i rather chose to thinking to solve my problem.
• United States
29 Jul 08
Yes. It's my only way to escape. Most days I get annoyed with breathing and I don't really care to sit around with others. It's nice to have time to yourself, you know? It's hard enough dealing with problems, but it's annoying when I have to listen to other people's. Don't get me wrong, I don't mind helping people out, but sometimes it's a burden for me because that's adding more stress to the pile.
@lilaclady (28270)
• Australia
28 Jul 08
Yes I am like that, I live on my own so my room is my house, when I am depressed I am just not home to anyone and I don't answer the phone...or I go the other way and go for a drive or go shopping, all that doesn't involve other people as what usually makes me depressed is something I can't really share with other people...
@Bethany1202 (3434)
• United States
28 Jul 08
Yes I do sometimes when I am angry or depressed. If I know I am down or in a bad mood sometimes I just want peace and quiet and time to myself to calm down and reflect on everything. It gives me time to clear my head. Time usually helps everything, although sometimes it takes longer for certain things that happen in our life to heal. Also, aside from wanting alone time for peace and reflection, if I am in a bad mood, I don't want to cause others to be in a bad mood as well. It's my own problem and I don't want to burden others, or, if I'm in a bad mood, I don't want to be mean to others. It's not their fault for how I'm feeling.