Facebook, Friendster, Multiply account for kids... do you think it is good?...

@aseretdd (13736)
Philippines
July 28, 2008 9:16pm CST
My husband just asked me to make my two year old daughter a Friendster account... where we will chronicle her life from birth to present... of course it will only be available to our friends... but i still have a little misgiving about this... Do you think it is appropriate for parents to make their very young kids a member of a particular social networking site?... Have you ever done such a thing?... I hope you can share your thoughts about this...
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@SomeCowgirl (32270)
• United States
29 Jul 08
I wouldn't do this but I have seen people who have. I am not yet a parent but I would much rather chronicle my child's life on paper as I feel it's much more precious then an online site that can suddenly crash or that you forget the password and email address on. Also, if these things happen you would lose precious memories that you had not chronicled or noted on any other means. If anything a floppy disk or c.d. rom would be better, but to each their own. Of course the person who did do this had it on private as I noted above. Have a lovely day!
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@aseretdd (13736)
• Philippines
29 Jul 08
I did not even think that the site might crash... and all my daughters lovely details will disappear with it... this is one disadvantage of chronicling her life throught the internet... and i have a history of forgetting passwords... thanks for the response...
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@SomeCowgirl (32270)
• United States
29 Jul 08
Your Most Welcome, I do hope that if you choose to do this online that you will save all documents you add on a floppy disk or CD ROM so that you will always have a back up copy. I suggest that if you update once a week, you also add it to the c.d rom once a week! Good Luck with this project!
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@aseretdd (13736)
• Philippines
29 Jul 08
I will definitely keep that in mind... i wouldn't want all the data to just disappear... it is always wise to keep a backup file... thanks...
@roniroxas (10576)
• Philippines
29 Jul 08
i have four children and they ahve friendster account. i am the one who made their accounts. so i have access to go in and out their accounts. i think we need to supervise what they are doing. it is a jungle out there in the cyber world and we need to take care of our children. my youngest is 12 and i made her. her own account of friendster. most of my cousins had made a friendster account for their children as young as 3 months. if you know se7enthbird here at mylot his son has his own friendster and it is cute. why not try you can delete it if you dont find it cool or cute
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@aseretdd (13736)
• Philippines
29 Jul 08
I remember my friend telling me that she also created a friendster account for each of her kids... and supervises them when they want to add or change something... i guess that would be a good way of educating them in terms of internet use... my baby is only 2 years old... so everything will come from me... but like you said... i can always delete the account if i want to... thanks for the response...
• United States
29 Jul 08
I disagree with you...I know that kids learn certain behaviors at school and from others but personally I wouldn't encourage opening a friendster or facebook account unless they were at least in there teens. At that point, I would teach about internet safety...and would keep a password manager / list. So I would know the passwords and also to keep them safe would have them change there password frequently to keep them safe.
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@roniroxas (10576)
• Philippines
29 Jul 08
hi hon, my children are 17, 16, 14, and 12. the first born is already in college and the three are in high school. aseretdd's child is only two years of age what harm can a two years old do with the computer? but... that is your views and i respect it. welcome to mylot hope you like it here like most of us do
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@maddysmommy (16235)
• United States
29 Jul 08
I don't have a social networking account for my son but we do have a blog instead. Because we live so far away from immediate family, we set up a website on the adventures of our son since he was a baby and it's still ongoing (since 2003). Most of my husbands family keep in touch with us that way and a few friends as well. Not many people know the link but all it takes is googling his name and you come across it.
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@aseretdd (13736)
• Philippines
29 Jul 08
Wow... that is very nice... i just started a blog myself... i am still trying to get the hang of it... but i never thought of making one about my daughter... your friends and family must be enjoying that blog very much... thanks for the response...
@maddysmommy (16235)
• United States
30 Jul 08
His grandparents really enjoy it the most. We just update it with what he's been up to like birthday parties he's attended, his swimming lessons, fun things he has been doing throughout the summer holidays, stuff he does at school and things alike.
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@skinnychick (6907)
• United States
30 Jul 08
I don't see any harm if you know your friends on there. I would be nervous about something like that. There are just too many pedophiles in this world. I wouldn't want them even looking at my kids. Maybe I'm just too much of a worrier!
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@aseretdd (13736)
• Philippines
31 Jul 08
Well, you are not too much of a worrier... because there are really a lot of weirdos out there who pose a threat to our kids... and we need to always be on the look out for them... the internet is not such a safe place... and that is why i am skeptical in creating a social networking account for my daughter... thanks for the response...
@ABJones (34)
• United States
29 Jul 08
If I had kids I would be nervious to let out any personal information about them even if its privet. You just can't trust anybody. I don't even have a myspace formyself.
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@aseretdd (13736)
• Philippines
30 Jul 08
I don't have a myspace account... but i do have friendster... and i had it for years now... i communicate with friends and relatives through that... but i never let those who are not my friends see my profile or pictures... i had a hacker problem years ago... so like you... i am not very trusting when it comes to the internet... thanks for the response...
@checapricorn (16066)
• United States
29 Jul 08
Hi aseretdd, I guess it is okay as long as you will just set it as private, can be accessed by friends only...It will be great and I have seen a lot of my friends who are doing that!
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@aseretdd (13736)
• Philippines
30 Jul 08
Yes, it would be a great thing for friends and relative to see my daughter growing... and the internet is a good venue for that... but of course we still need to be very very careful... since there are not so good people lurking around the www... thanks for the response...
@cher913 (25890)
• Canada
29 Jul 08
honestly, i dont think its a good idea because i have tried to make an account on facebook for my 11 year old and she is too young to have one. (which i think is good) with all the crap that is on the net today, why start them that early? why not just start a blog and blog her life? (you or even him for that matter??!!)
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@aseretdd (13736)
• Philippines
30 Jul 08
I just started a blog... but not about my daugther... but about my experiences in customer service... and i am still trying to get the hang of it... it is much easier to just create a friendster account... but like you said... there is a lot of crap in the net today... so we have to take all precautionary measures... thanks for the response...
@MaeTsuen (257)
• Philippines
29 Jul 08
for a 2 year old it's ok.... it is the easiest way and the most convenient for your close friends and family who lives far from you to be updated on how your daughter is doing and what she looks like. Just make her account private =) That way only a choosen few can view them... in fact in friendster album you can lock the album for certain people to view them not all your friends can... it depends whom you are going to approve =) to view the lock album they need your approval
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@aseretdd (13736)
• Philippines
30 Jul 08
I didn't know that sort of feature is available in friendster... i only thought one can block none friends from viewing the profile or photo... thanks for pointing this out... this made me more confident in creating an account for my daughter... thanks for the response...
@underdogtoo (9599)
• Philippines
29 Jul 08
I've seen it done on Friendster and I think it's cute. They get to share their child with their friends and relatives. Everyone was delighted. I suppose it's alright to do it. Cheers!!
@aseretdd (13736)
• Philippines
30 Jul 08
I also have friends who have made friendster accounts for their kids... but they are mostly tweens and early teens... so i am still trying to decide... and if in case i do go for it... then it will only be available to friends and relatives... not for the whole world to see... thanks for the response...
• Philippines
29 Jul 08
not yet a parent, but just like you I don't think that its appropriate to create something like this for your child. Its not something that she can appreciated and I think this may cause some danger..you'll never know.
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@aseretdd (13736)
• Philippines
30 Jul 08
There is always a risk at anything we do... and in this case... with a social networking account... if i do create one for my daughter... i would take all the precautionary measure to limit all the risks... but right now... i haven't decided yet... thanks for the response...
@drannhh (15240)
• United States
29 Jul 08
If it is a private account with password access only to family and close friends, it is probably an excellent idea, but one needs to be very careful not to expose personal details about a young one (or anyone else for that matter) to the internet "community" at large as there are some very scary and rutheless people out there.
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@loveskie (20)
• Philippines
29 Jul 08
I think its very early for her to have it besides she's very young then. Maybe u can have a scrapbook or a cd to file-up all about her. For me i want my own kid to have his/ her own privacy, though im not a parent yet.. but still the end decision still yours... take care
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@aseretdd (13736)
• Philippines
29 Jul 08
I was thinking of the same thing... but my husband suggested a friendster account so that our friends and relatives abroad will see how she is growing... but i agree about the privacy issue... eventhough the account won't be available for the public to view... thanks for the response... welcome to mylot and i hope you enjoy your stay here...
@gr8life (6253)
• Malaysia
29 Jul 08
Hello aseretdd, I, myself don't even know about Facebook, Friendster or Multiply. Well, I heard about them before but I am not really interested to know more. I am not too sure why. I don't know how it works, so I can't share anything with you. Just wondering... for what reason a two years old kid needs to be a member of social networking? Maybe you should help me to understand better *smiles*
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@aseretdd (13736)
• Philippines
29 Jul 08
Well, since we have friends and relatives who live abroad... and the only form of communication we have is through the internet... it would be nice to show them how my daughter is growing just by looking at the account... because most of them have never even seen her... so that would be a very good way for them to get to know her... that is the very main reason why i am thinking about getting her such an account... thanks for the response...
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@mjmlagat (3171)
• Philippines
29 Jul 08
Hi there! We just have the same concern about this. My two teens (boy & girl)are currently having accounts with Friendster and I began to be impatient about the idea. At first I thought it was just okay, just some kind of socializing or keeping in touch with friends especially from afar. But lately, when I observed that they have been hooked to the community, my husband and i are nagging them already about it. I now don't think it's good to let our kids join in social networking sites like the ones you mentioned because they surely grab study time of kids. When my kids begin to browse for some research topics on the web, it really irk me to see them open the tab for Friendster because I am sure, they would be spending more time with the site than browsing for more valuable topics. Maybe in the near future I would ban my kids from going into these sites. Thanks for opening up the discussion, this surely guides many. Happy posting!
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@aseretdd (13736)
• Philippines
29 Jul 08
Teen and tweens have the tendency to be addicted to these sites... so it is important that they be monitored when they are using the internet... but my daughter is only 2 years old... so i don't have to worry about that for now... but for sure i will when she reaches that certain age... I think you need to set the time limit for your kids... totally banning them might lead them to just access the site in some other places... thanks for the response... and good luck...