Cold Shoulder for Nothing

@ladyjava (1185)
Malaysia
July 29, 2008 10:49am CST
What would you do if someone, for no apparent reason, gives you the cold shoulder? Would you have a confrontation or would you just pretend nothing is wrong and move on?
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7 responses
• United States
29 Jul 08
my boyfriend and I are kinda dealing with this with another couple of friends. I was not there but there was an argument between my boyfriend and the other couple (there are questions about her loyalty to her boyfriend) now my BF and the other guy have been friends for ages and ages. This girl is relativly new to the group and she likes to cause drama. We haven't heard anything from them since that night. Apparently we have been "cut off". My BF and I were headed to the mall the other day and he saw them sitting outside at the resturaunt, he immidiatly turned to walk in a different way. I would not have made that choice. I told him we should have just walked right by and if they wanted to talk to us they could and if they didn't they didn't. After we were all done at mall I made my BF walk right out the front door with me. They were still sitting there and they didn't say anything. We are not the ones who should be afraid, in my eyes we did nothing wrong and I will not go out of my way to avoid them. If they don't want to talk to us so bad then they can avoid us.
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@riyasam (16578)
• India
29 Jul 08
you are right!they are losers!
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@ladyjava (1185)
• Malaysia
29 Jul 08
You are right.. You and your BF are not in the wrong and you should not have to avoid anyone.. the problem is theirs.. if they want to walk away, so let them.. As far as I'm concerned, I did not do anything wrong.. so I fear nothing :)
@riyasam (16578)
• India
29 Jul 08
it has happened to me and the best way to deal with it is to ignore them.i know from experience that it hurts but act as if you do not give a damn.eventually they may see your point.
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@ladyjava (1185)
• Malaysia
29 Jul 08
It definitely hurts but sometimes there is nothing we can right.. it's them who's having the attitude problem... sigh!!
• Philippines
29 Jul 08
Hi there ladyjava! I have experienced this several times already. It can really get annoying when people give you the cold shoulder for no apparent reason. There were times when I lost my patience and ended up confronting the other party. Most of the time though, I just ignore the other party. I find it easier that way. When he or she is okay, I would talk to him/her about it and ask what went wrong.
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@ladyjava (1185)
• Malaysia
29 Jul 08
Yeah! Ignoring is the best.. I hate confrontation as well.. I would rather just let it slide esp since I know I did nothing wrong!
@intimate36 (1416)
• Pakistan
29 Jul 08
I just ignore it , not in a negative manner..Later many times it is cleared , what was the reason was..
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• United States
29 Jul 08
it has happened. you don't know sometimes what is going thru people's mind. i just think, okay, and go on. leave them in their world.
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@xanraven (145)
• United States
29 Jul 08
I tend to ask people if I've done something to them or whatever. I can't just sit back and wonder if someone's mad at me. I prefer the open honest way.
@jeanchia (138)
• Malaysia
11 Aug 08
hi LJ! If it is my close friend, I will have a confrontation with him/ her? But if it's someone i dont see much, i'll just leave it.