How do you deal with tactless people?

Philippines
July 29, 2008 12:06pm CST
I have the tendency to be really tactless. I must admit that there have been many people (including my friends) who already confronted me about this. Somehow, as I grow older, I am becoming more careful with the words I use. However, no matter how tactless I am, I have met people who are more tactless than I am. There are those who can really be very annoying. There are also those whom I can easily ignore. How do you deal with tactless people?
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21 responses
29 Jul 08
I dont care for tactless people,it is always wise to think very carefully before you speak out aloud,and consider if the words will hurt anyones feelings.It can sometimes cause needless stress and anxiety for people when they are dealt with in a thoughtless manner, so thats the reason I try to give thought before I speak out.
• Philippines
29 Jul 08
You are right. It can really cause stress and anxiety for people. I think that's one of the reasons why somehow, I have been able to control my being tactless.
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• United States
29 Jul 08
Well, that would be my mother. She has absolutely no regard for anyone's feelings but her own. She will say anything on her mind to anyone whether it hurts their feelings or not. I grew up with this type of person and learned to just stay quiet. I wouldn't exactly say that I ignore the comments, I just don't speak out. I care very much how others feel and even if they are doing something annoying, I will not just blurt something out regardless. I guess I saw how others were hurt buy tactless people growing up watching from the sidelines and I normally will not say anything that I feel would hurt another's feelings, even though I am sure that I have, I don't do it intentionally. We are all human, we all have our faults and I just try to look over annoyances. Not so easy to do some times, I know.
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• Philippines
29 Jul 08
Thanks for sharing!
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• United States
30 Jul 08
Thats such a gift that you have, me I grew up being bullied so severely when I was younger that I will not stand for it as an adult and when I see others I will step in to help, sometimes people are just afraid to speak up for themselves and Im usually good at sensing this and will change the subject or something along those lines. The things you grew up really mold you and sometimes for the best.
• United States
30 Jul 08
Thank you revellanotvanella :) Your actions are quite commendable, also! I does seem like that what we deal with as children tends to mold us into what we become as an adult. Sometimes for the good and sometimes for the bad. Sometimes it is a real struggle to break free from a painful past. Trying to rise above it as adults are acts of feat! Thanks!
@Margajoe (4723)
• Germany
30 Jul 08
Hi, How do I deal with tactless people? I look in the mirror and remember who I am. I can be tactless too. I try not to judge and respect what these people are trying to say. Because I don't know what made them this way. Take care, Margajoe.
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• United States
29 Jul 08
Well I try to avoid tacky people although I have a couple of tacky people in my family. If they say something that I don't like I would either ignore (which I do most of the time) or I will say something (especially if it's towards my children). I just don't understand why people just come out of their mouths with rude and disrespectful talk. Once you say something, you can't take it back so work hard on remembering that okay dolce and God Bless!
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@checapricorn (16076)
• United States
29 Jul 08
Hi dolce, I have so many friends how are tactless and sometimes I am too..LOL! Actually, different way applied to each group of mine.. I have this group whom I love since we can just make fun out of our tactlessness..We can insult each other with no hurt feelings, we always make fun of it, and maybe because our long years of friendship, we are very comfortable with each other.. Another group of mine, I have to apologize since very sensitive and they also do once they can utter words which are hurtful but for me just nothing since I always been with people who are very flexible and open-minded~
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• Malaysia
30 Jul 08
Don`t Care for it!
@Bugsey (775)
• United States
30 Jul 08
Don't care specifically for what? Do enlighten me...
• Malaysia
30 Jul 08
Don`t care for it! just be same with all even with tactless people! hope that`s make sense!
@faith210 (11233)
• Philippines
1 Aug 08
Hi dolce_vita! There are times that I can just easily ignore them but there are times that I can't help but look them with dagger eyes. haha..I get hurt too, y'know. haha..There are those remarks that can just be shrug off but there are remarks that really makes you snap! Take care always..God Bless!
@faith210 (11233)
• Philippines
6 Aug 08
Hi MariaD! I just wish that fire can come out of my eyes! haha...So I can burn their tongues! Take care always MariaD..God Bless!
@Bugsey (775)
• United States
30 Jul 08
Join the club. It seems that I was tactless from the first day I let out my first cry. I actually like tactless people, they seem to be a lot more honest.
@Bugsey (775)
• United States
30 Jul 08
Not taking crap or BS is not being tactless. It's being "wise".
@msedge (4020)
• United States
4 Aug 08
I have friends that are tactless people also.They never care about they say if it hurts other people.Well, i get use to hearing of them being tactless and just ignore them.I am already aware that they are like that so i just take everything as if i don't hear anything.Actually those words were not for me but for our other friends and i know it hurts them but changing topic i guess would divert everything and start funny topics.
• Philippines
31 Jul 08
i,for one,am a considerate person.thus,i can hardly tolerate tactless persons.but,i don't really have to deal with them.if a person that i'm talking to is being tactless,i find a way to leave right away without being tactless myself.if there's no way out,i try to stop the conversation,or look for a way not to participate thereof.
@ngaspero (851)
• Italy
30 Jul 08
I'll be more tactless then them...without thinking about.. Nun
@skbh12 (2952)
• Philippines
30 Jul 08
normally i stay away from them if their being tactless only talks of negative issues resulting to insulting my whole personality. sometimes a tactless person can be alright if they are in the right place to do so but if they set it on a wrong foot, then sorry. i won't be speaking with that person ever again because i would always believe that i'd always get humiliated to other people whom i don't really know.
@Opal26 (17694)
• United States
30 Jul 08
I wouldn't say that I'm tactless, but I sure don't take any crap from anyone. All my life I was always picked on by people and I never did anything about it. When I got older I became angry and it showed. I lost my temper very easily and told anyone off that got me angry or annoyed, ok if that's tactless than maybe I was. I was not liked by alot of people for by behavior. In fact I was called alot of not nice things. But it sure beat being walked all over and disrespected. I am no longer like that. I have gotten my temper under control with the help of some anger management and therapy sessions.
@mimico (3619)
• Philippines
30 Jul 08
I don't like tactless people so I don't get chummy with them at all. For me, lack of tact has something to do with a person's sensitivity towards others. I'm also very non confrontational, so I never tell a person that he or she is offensive. I leave it up to them to see the error in their ways. But generally, I just ignore offensive people.
• United States
30 Jul 08
what does the word "tactless" means ???? and i dont deal with does peoples lol .. and i dont want to ... deal with them .... becaause i only deal with the nice and great persons =]
@Ravenladyj (22994)
• United States
30 Jul 08
Having the big mouth that I do I usually end up callign them out on it and making some sort of comment about their lack of tact...and for whatever reason more often than not it seems to sink in.
@roanne05 (1294)
• Oman
30 Jul 08
the best thing is to ignore them...if they are tactless for sure everyone knows they are one...so they will not bother them.
@anex08 (868)
• Philippines
30 Jul 08
I ignore them as long as I can. But since we are human and our tendency to lose patience are very fast I cannot just ignore them all the time. I may confront them once in a while and give them the nerve to be careful next time. Well, I am the person who would not just let someone go whenever they made mistakes, il make sure they know how I feel and they should learn to be more careful next time.
@nengs10 (3190)
• Philippines
30 Jul 08
I can be tactless sometimes. That happens to me especially if the conversation is really related to my affairs and stuff. Well, with more tactless people around, I just listen to them and nod at times. Talking while they're talking too would mean war. Just joking.
@aseretdd (13712)
• Philippines
30 Jul 08
I was also a very tactless person... but i have changed my way... and have somewhat mastered the art of being tactful... but when confronted by a really annoying tactless person... i let out my tactless manner to make them realize how annoying they are... good thing this doesn't happen very often...