Here's a question for the ladies(I need help)

@jhl930 (3605)
United States
July 29, 2008 1:23pm CST
i am a guy, and if you have been reading my post lately you kind of know the story about the things that have been going on...so here is a question for the ladies and i want your honest opinion, before i start i want to say i want a relationship where nothing is hidden and everything is told...so earlier this week there was a girl that sent me a myspace message i had talked to her a few times before that through messages (beause she messaged me first and i didnt want to be mean and not respond)and then she sent me a message saying something like babe you can call me tonight if you want to talk and she gave me her number, well that sent up a red flag to me because most girls that i know when they call you babe and say that and give their number they don't just want you as friends...so i was upfront and honest about it and i told "her" about it and i was like heres the story and you can read the message...mind you i told her that so she wouldn't find it later and be like why didn't you tell me this...and then there was the night before last there was a girl and i was eating and she was like hey i haven't talked to you in awhile and i looked up and said oh hey how are you, she said fine i said thats good, she ask me, i said im good too, and she said what have you been up to lately, and i said nothing much its been pretty boring, and then she said well if you don't anything to do you could come over and watch a movie later, i said no i dont think "she" would like that and it would be kind of disrespectful to come over at like 1 am...i told "her" about it that night when i got done told her everything and she got mad at me and i was like what, she was like if she wanted you too so badly why dont you just go over to her house and we just hung up the phone, then last night i was like what was that all about last night, she said that just really irritated me when you told me about that...but i said i didn't want you to hear about it later and be like why didn't he tell me about that...she was like just don't tell me that anymore...so heres the question....was there something i was doing wrong(other people were around when i told the girl that i had her and they heard it too)i just wanted to be honest with her about it....thanks for taking the time to read my discussion!
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4 responses
• United States
29 Jul 08
Females are funny jhl930. I am a female and I have respect for you because you didn't have to tell her but out of respect you did. A woman doesn't want to hear from her man that some other woman has her claws in him. My man told me about this woman who wanted him. I mean she would buy him jewelry and cologne that he would refuse. Now I became upset of course because this woman is so hard up on him that she is willing to buy him. And let me tell you another thing about women........................they are wicked! They do not care if you have a girlfriend/wife or not, if they want you, then they will tell you in more ways than one and could care less about the wife or girlfriend. Women can be very devious like that. The way your girlfriend reacted would make you not want to tell her anything else but I hope I helped you out jhl930 and always be respectful to your girlfriend as you are now and God Bless!!
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@jhl930 (3605)
• United States
29 Jul 08
i mean i did tell her and i did tell the other girls that i had someone, i am going to tell her about it but i just want to come up with a different way of doing it, i just don't know how and yes you did help thanks for replying!
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@ravinskye (8242)
• United States
29 Jul 08
Well that is kind of a hard situation, especially if your girlfriend has been cheated on before. It would hurt her if she found out later, but it also hurts a little finding it out anyways. She's probably a little jealous and insecure. No one wants to think about other girls hitting on their boyfriends. And from the sound of it you didnt tell either of the girls hitting on you that you were dating someone. If she doesn't want you to tell her about that stuff anymore then i guess don't tell her.
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@jhl930 (3605)
• United States
29 Jul 08
i did tell them that i had someone(and i told her name) thats what i was saying to the other one that she wouldn't like it if i came over to her house at like 1 am(my "other" wouldnt like it if i came ot the other girls house)and i said anyways that would be disrespectful i straight out told them...i just don't know what i did wrong...thanks for replying!
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• Bahamas
29 Jul 08
That's women for you! We want our men to be honest with us,but sometimes blow up when they do. I guess that's why we're called complicated. I admire your committment to your girlfriend. And as much as we want to know the truth, there's no comfort in knowing that some other female is trying to get her claws into our man. But continue to be honest and communicate with her, that will ultimitly strenghten the bond between you. I know as far as i'm concerned, i always want my man to be honest with me..no matter what
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• Philippines
30 Jul 08
i think she was kinda hurt for what you did. although i see nothing bad with that. you still need to talk about it with her and clear the issue between the two of you. by doing this, you will know why she felt bad and you will understand her more.be open in communication with her, this is the only way two people could express what they felt, and the best way to understand each other. it could even ironed out the misunderstanding that you have with her. good luck to you.