What sacrifice have you done for your kids?

Philippines
July 30, 2008 6:45am CST
Is it true that as a mother, you would do everything for your kids? I have mentioned in my post before that I am planning to leave my job to focus on my child who has ADHD. But I don't know how to tell the school directress regarding this. They would tell me that I don't have the heart to leave the poor pupils there... But whom do I choose-- the pupils in our school or my kids? Leaving my job would mean less income for the family, but if you are in my shoes, would you sacrifice for the sake of your kids?
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11 responses
@meggan79 (436)
• United States
30 Jul 08
When you have kids you do everything in your power to make them happy and to grow up to be the best person they can be. I think a good mother will sacrifice anything to do the best for their children. The second you start putting other kids and people above your own is when your family starts slipping away and you lose your closeness.
@riyasam (16582)
• India
30 Jul 08
mothers are sacred!!!!
• United States
31 Jul 08
As are fathers! :-)
@zeny_zion (1284)
• Philippines
14 Aug 08
i stopped working because of my daughter. her dad cheats on us. we left him and i carry all the obligations. so what i did while im still at work i always check my daugther by calling her over the phone. ask the teachers how is she in school. hard to be a single parent but i always have a feeling of contentment and satisfaction cause i can do it alone.
@mstgmagic (126)
• United States
31 Jul 08
I know how you feel my child has adhd and autism. I chose to be a stay at home mom because of the fact that my child can't talk and he's 4 years old. I just really don't trust anyone to keep him. Maybe when he gets through with therapy i'll think about getting a job but for now i have his best interest at heart and my mind at peace.
@roanne05 (1294)
• Oman
31 Jul 08
first of all, can the family survive with lesser income??? sometimes you have to think outside the box...as someone who will sacrifice anything for my family, i definitely understand you. but sometimes you have to think outside the box and be practical. yes, your child needs you..but he also needs financial support as emotional support...if you think the family can survive with a lesser income then i support you. this is just my opinion the decision is still up to you..hope you will have the correct one for the happiness of your family.
@lynnchua (3416)
• Singapore
31 Jul 08
Hope you make a right decision. If I'm you I will stay at home to look after my kids. Kids are everything to me and they depend on us to take care and protect them. If as a mother I don't look after my own kids who has ADHD, who will. They need love and encouragement from their parents. I understand that income will be lesser for the family but don't you think that what your kids need is more important. Take care.
@soooobored (1187)
• United States
31 Jul 08
I don't have kids, so I'm speaking for my father here. We were in a bad situation living with our mother, and the courts being in favor of the mother (at the time) left him virtually without option. My mother agreed to give him custody in exchange for 1. The house 2. $1,000/week alimony payments. This crippled his business and eventually cost him everything he has worked for (materially, anyway), but ultimately it is what he needed to do to protect his children. And we are so thankful! Good luck, I'm sure you will make the right choice!
@bizmom24 (163)
• United States
31 Jul 08
Hi, I knew a teacher who did just this, her son was not doing well in school, she figured it was because she spent a bit of time at school and not enough time at home, so she quit her job and helped in with him with his school stuff, so I know as for her she has no regret, but everyone is different. she did understand how it was going to affect the $ problem just having her husband work, but she made that sacrifice. so not everyone is in the same position, I guess, I quit working as well when my 2nd oldest was 2, back then we were only making $3.35 cents and hour and to have me quit my job to focus on him, it was hard, but we now own a business and it worked out really well, I still am a stay home mom, just because my hubby works for the city and cannot leave work when needed, so it's all on me to be there and get them where they need to go and be. so I wish you much luck on your decision on whatever you decide. I'm sure it will work itself out. Good luck Bizmom24
@riyasam (16582)
• India
30 Jul 08
hats off to you for taking such a decision.mothers are known to be sacrificial lambs for their kids.no matter how the kids are,they will always be great in the mothers eye.
@mary463 (146)
• India
30 Jul 08
i too have two mischievous in my home .And my mother was the person to deal with them when I went for 3months in a company .And after 3 months I gave up my job to look after kids .Now one is going school.So I am planning to go for a job.
• United States
30 Jul 08
My kids are my life. I would do the same thing as you. If you don't stay true to yourself and the needs of yourself and yourfamily then it would be very hard to continue in the field your in. I also work in a school. I am an teacher's aid in the special education room. From experience working with children with ADHD I commend you on your efforts to stay home with your child. The challenges and hurdles that you over come now, while your child is young will only set you up for a rewarding future. The school that I work for is very family oreinted and supported of the staff members playing an active role in their own childrens lives. I think once you take some time with you child and figure out what works for both of you, you will be more of an attribute to the children that need you as a teacher. I beleive you must make yourself happy and be true to yourself before any needs of others can be filled. I think you are making the right choice.
@palonghorn (5492)
• United States
30 Jul 08
First off, and I don't mean to make it sound trivial, but you say your child has ADHD, am I right in assuming that this is the only condition your child has? If so, then no, I would not leave my job, not when jobs are scarace these days. There is medication and other rememdies to deal with ADHD, and your child also needs to learn to 'deal' with this condition, as for the most part it does not just go away. Now, if it was something more serious, and the child needed more care, then yes, I would leave my job for my child. However, this is only my opinion and what I would do. I was a stay at home mom for 18 years, and we did 'just get by' at times with only one income in the family. But that was the choice we made, that I would be a stay at home mom until the girls got into high school.