are you still in love with the man you married?

Philippines
July 30, 2008 9:27am CST
i can say yes and no to that. yes because we have made a wonderful family, loving kids and being happy when everyone is around, until now we are still living together with all the hardships we have encountered and all the pains we have done to each other still we always come up with a happy ending and still have respect left in us, and for no because he is not the same man i married, i realized that when we are living together that not everything will come up the way you are expecting it to be, i thought he was like this and like that but in real life things are different, you just have to adjust to his worst and need to accept it the way it is, i just need to be patient and realize that he can never be the same man i married but he can always be my best friend.
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@kate635 (127)
• Philippines
31 Jul 08
Being in love can be learned. A life in marriage is a lot different from what we perceive when we were still singles. Living with a man is really a big adjustment to make and to stay in love, it is hard work. I love my husband, but there are times I wished I have never married him. But if I would ponder on things after a while, it would sum up to me really loving him as he has been my best friend and companion for the last 9 years.
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• United States
31 Jul 08
Most of my friends in the hospital I am employed by came from the philippines! Not only are they the best nurses - they're beautiful yet humble, the nicest people to the patients and coworkers and loved by everyone! Maybe you go back to school then come somewhere you will be adored for your efforts?
@kate635 (127)
• Philippines
31 Jul 08
I've taken up a course in medical transcription lately, but I really belong in the house. My kid and husband needs me and I am adored for that. Maybe if there will be a sponsor, I could go to other place and find some job that would make our life more comfortable.
• United States
30 Jul 08
I cannot say that I am still in love with my husband since I was not in love with him when I married him. That is another story. Mind you, I didn't say I don't love him. I love him dearly. He has been my friend for the past 30 years. We have weathered a lot of rough weather in our relationship, but, we have also had some beautiful moments together. What I feel for him has grown tremendously over the years we have been together. Unlike some others who responded, my husband is exactly the man I met and married. There were some things I didn't know about him when we married but, once I learned of them, it really didn't change who he was to me. The things I didn't know were just an extension of what I did know. Am I STILL in love with him? No but, I think I have started to fall in love with him after 30 years of marriage. My day brightens a bit when he walks in the door in the evenings, and my heart sings when we spend time together.
@nun9ke (42)
2 Aug 08
Things happens unfortunately.. nobody can understand it only you can.. I can imagine how beautiful it is and a wonderful feeling give you inside.. enjoy your life together.. Thank You & Best Regards,
• Philippines
30 Jul 08
I am sorry to hear that. As for me, I would say I am still in love with my husband and so does he. Though, we're also experiencing trials and problems, we're still inlove with each other. No matter how busy our schedules are, we make sure that we spend quality time for each other during weekends.
• Philippines
30 Jul 08
spending quality time really makes a lot and bring family closer and closer, thanks anyway...
• Sweden
30 Jul 08
I think YES and NO answer is right but that depend.. That is your reason why you say NO..Remember that you love your husband from the start and now you want him to change?? WHY?? In my view i would want if my husband will not change because i fall in love with him in that kind of altitude..I believe that nobody is a perfect so if your husband have some worst side just learn to love or accept that because that is the reality..:=)
• Philippines
30 Jul 08
of course if you think that what he's acting or doing right now is not what he said he was, wouldn't you not want it to change but of course we all have our own opinions when it comes to relationships, just my own realization. have a great day:-)
@sudalunts (5527)
• United States
30 Jul 08
bangwin, that was well expressed. I feel the same, my husband is not the man I fell in love with and married. He still has great qualities. We love each other, but of course not like it was at first. We respect each other and are able to fix the wrongs that have been said and done. I think that after time people get so relaxed that they do not go above and beyond for their relationships. Thank God, we do not argue any more, we have learned to respect each other's feelings and opinions., and he too is my best friend
• Philippines
30 Jul 08
well it's good to know that most of us wives consider our husbands our best friend:-)
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@izathewzia (5142)
• Philippines
31 Jul 08
We've been together for six years. many problems and trials already came along our way. But through all that, we work together to maintain our relationship and deepen our love for one another. We promise to stay for each other 'til we grow old and die. And we are working it out no matter how hard. By constantly reminding each other how much love we have for each other.
@dahlindy (13)
• United States
30 Jul 08
Actually, yes I am still very much in love with my husband... it will be 17 years come this Sunday for us! :) We value each other's opinions, talk about anything and everything all the time, care about how the other is feeling, and do things for the other on a regular basis. It's quite amazing that, even though we've had many ups and downs in the past couple years with long-term health diagnoses and business failures, we are actually closer that we've been for years. We now work at the same company together and love going to/from work together and eating lunch together each day.
• United States
30 Jul 08
I would definitely have to say yes, i will admit there are days i dotn like him..lol meaning i dont like how he is acting that day maybe his mood or whatever might be the case, but in love with him..yes just like i have been for the 13 yrs i have known him.
@walijo2008 (4649)
• United States
30 Jul 08
Yes, I'm still in love with the man I married, probably more so now than when we first got married. We've only been married 5 yrs. and we're still growing and learning new things about each other. I don't think he's the same man I married, at first when we were dating, I always thought that he was the perfect man, nothing he did could change my mind about that, but as we grew closer to each other, I found that he's not as perfect as I thought he was, but I learned to accept him the way he is, all his little habits, and I'm sure he feels the same way about me, I'm probably not as perfect as he thought I was either..lol. But we are best friends, and I think thats important in a marriage.
@austere (2816)
• Philippines
30 Jul 08
well, i dont know, am not married, but a lot of couples say that. maybe you both need a vacation or a date to ignite the fire in the relationship again. maybe because you get too familiar and comfortable with each other you see the relationship. maybe you need to excite and surprise each other sometime. but i really could not say about the relationship since am not a married person myslef and i still dont have any first hand experience about it. but i pray when it's my turn, it will be happy. i mean, i know there will be downs in the relationships, but hope i'll be happy with the guy i'll be spending my forever with