More difficult to become happy/satisfied as we grow up?

China
July 31, 2008 9:03am CST
Do you think it's more difficult to become happy/satisfied as we grow up? It might be that the more we grow up/older, the more we understand the world,the pressure,the truth etc., we feel more and more pressure and need to think more about how to make life easier... After I graduated from college,I found that I couldn't always be satisfied with my performance, and it's really not that easy to be happy after finish some task. The 1st time I was promoted, I felt quite happy and exicted, the 2nd time, I was also satisfied, but this time, I felt quite strange/calm, I didn't feel that happy any more. Maybe just understand the higher position I reach, the more responsibility I need to bear and also I still have a long way to go before getting to next level... When I go home and look at my 2 7 years old twin nephews, I feel quite happy when seeing them being happy without knowing any problems and just so naive...so pure a mind... Maybe it's time I should get back to the Children's heart and learn from them. With you all the best and wish all of us could be more and more happy even though we understand more things.
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@nokia6233 (937)
• India
31 Jul 08
yes after reading your post..i too feel that i am not satisfied by anyhting...what i used ot get satisfied in my early days... may be human jealousy and greed increases with years...and not satisfied by what we have...
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@maryannemax (12174)
• Sweden
31 Jul 08
since you've mentioned greed, nokia6233, most people believe that we are all greedy by nature. we always want to have something more and are never thankful with what we have in life. happy myLotting! anne
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• China
2 Aug 08
People are always greedy, and they always want more goods, and I think this is good sometimes since have this need could let us keep walking forward. If we are satisfied with who we are, we might just stay the same.
• Greece
1 Aug 08
As knowledge goes up ... happyness goes down!
• United States
31 Jul 08
I think it all depends upon your expectations. People now adays are pressed into thinking they require all these things that there's very little way they can afford. So they tend to think they don't have enough money when maybe they do. Often we compare ourselves to stereotypes and things we see on TV. Do you have food, house, power and are you able to pay for yours and your children's needs (not wants)? I dunno i've found a lotta people, in my personal experience, who think if they are not rich they are not successful and they hate themselves for it.
@msedge (4012)
• United States
31 Jul 08
When we were still a kid we were just happy and satisfied when our parents feed us and buy us toys and new clothes.Yes its true that when we become mature it seems like we don't have satisfaction.Our happiness just come and go.Theres no permanent happiness.I had tried shopping every week.I got all i wanted materially but after getting them the happiness just faded away.Thats when i realized that true happiness doesn't come from material things.Theres something else that would really make me happy.I guess i was looking for a family of my own.A kind and loving husband and children that would make me happy because my parents both passed away and my brother.I feel so empty and i guess i needed someone to love me and take care of me.Now,i finally have it.I am happy being with my family but i still want to do more.I still want to achieve something but my family will always here to inspire me.
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• China
2 Aug 08
Thanks for sharing, and I think my family also inspires me quite a lot. I am going to get married with my GF next year, I think I could be happy and satisfied with things from now on.
@msedge (4012)
• United States
6 Aug 08
Looking forward for your wedding,i am sure you will let us know.Take care!
@kingcrapper (1538)
• United States
31 Jul 08
Isn't it wonderful to see children and wish the best for them. Why is it that when we get older we find it more difficult to become happy? I think it may be because we come to realize that there is absolutely nothing we can control. It is easy to be a child and let others keep us safe and take care of us. We become adults and suddenly we are face the world on our own and come to realize: there is nothing I can really do! I am getting older too and see the excitement of my own children getting ready for the world. Happiness is going to be exactly where we find it. It is just a matter of us not looking so hard for it!
• China
2 Aug 08
Yes, it's important that we don't look so hard for something. And sometimes it's better to take it easy and let it be...
• United States
2 Aug 08
and then the government steps in....!
@Mirita (2668)
• United States
31 Jul 08
I think happiness is something that you have inside your soul ,and neither money or success can bring you happiness. Sometimes the simple things in life like going to the park with your family can bring you more happiness than any type of success.
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• China
2 Aug 08
Yes, the money couldn't give us everything, but to tell the truth, in a world like current one, one couldn't really live on without enough money.
@Mirita (2668)
• United States
2 Aug 08
Yes, I agree since life is getting very hard ,and money is essential to be able to survive in today's world.
• United States
31 Jul 08
I think it IS more difficult to become or be satisfied as we age. The things we were clueless abut growing up seem to slap us in the face when we are older and recognize it. We understand what is going around us and in the world better as we age and we can see how this effect us and our families. When kids..all we had to worry about was playing? But now with kids..in my case grown ones, I see the struggles of them over this economy and the war going on and he rotten folks out ther emessing around with and stealing kids, etc...All things I did not know about when I was younger. Getting older means being able to see more of the truth of what is happening in society around us. I makes it ALOT harder to be satisfied. (At least for me it does.)
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• India
31 Jul 08
i dont agree with u, even if life grew hard we can still enjoy it. we just have to find opportunities. maybe we can enjoy by working hard, spend time with the family. actually when we grow up our priorties change. dats y ppl think dat dey r not able to enjoy dere lives.
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• China
2 Aug 08
Thanks for your comments. I do think it's harder for us to do quite a lot of things including making a living, the living expenses are more and more expensive, more gradutes come for the same job... But let's still enjoy the things we are doing so that we could still have fun. Have a nice day
@chenmeiyi (973)
• China
31 Jul 08
i agree with you 100%.the more we grow,the more unhappy we are. yeah,so much stress,so much work to do,so complicated relationships to deal with, so many things need we to comb its place in our minds,so many so many,but life is still going on,no matter you are happy or sad,so i think we should find a best way to make us happy,to live a relaxed life,to reduce our pressure,to manage our daily life. put every small deeds into action and do it well,then we'll be satisfied,be oblivious to those small trivial chores and to be generous. take care,dear.
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• China
2 Aug 08
That's really good comments. Thanks. And let's be more relaxed and manage the daily life...
• China
2 Aug 08
thank you very much,dear andyliu..,for choosing me as the BR,i really appreciate it. we are the masterpiece of our own life,we are the achitecet of our own life,so be more confident to face daily life and be brave to follow your future dreams. may you succeed in the days to come. let's keep in touch. take care,dear.
• India
31 Jul 08
As we grow up our responsibilities will increase and our life totally changes after our school and college days.After completing our studies,next tension is to get a good job,then marriage,children..etc.
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@riyasam (16582)
• India
31 Jul 08
and thus the responsibilities go on.........
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• China
1 Aug 08
It's life. And we could be more relaxed sometimes, since we are just yound for once and never old twice...:) Responsibilities do we have, we might also be happier so that the others could be as happy as well. Have a nice day.
@petiksmode (2986)
• Philippines
31 Jul 08
yeah i agree with you, the more we grow as a person the more we realized the true nature of life, the pressure is building in most if not all aspects of opur lives...the desire to be a better individual as the days goes by, the search for contentmetn and happiness is all over..mainly becoz of life's complexity that not all people really understand... happiness is a gift but not all people realized it until it is gone and they will search for it again, not knowing that they let it slipped away..
• China
1 Aug 08
Yes, Life is complicated, and not all people understand it. I recalled the sayings in the book Little Prince, I think we are just like some normal grown ups, we are busy looking for something, but might don't really understand what we are doing and why we are doing that...
• Philippines
1 Aug 08
yeah i agree on you and good to knwo that you have that book i myself read that..that is a good book indeed.. thnks
@kissie34 (2296)
• Philippines
1 Aug 08
Yes, I agree with you... When we are getting older we learned and discovered many things in this world not like when we are still young/kid.. When I graduated college, I never new how cruel the world is, how difficult to understand the minds of others especially when you went to another city/country, and most of all I didn't know how value the time and money... Being a student is really different being an employee.. If in school the only problem that you might encountered are grades, accomplishing all the requirements, dealing with professors/teachers, and passing all the exams/quizzes.. But in the office there are many things need to understand such as dealing with your officemates and most especially with your boss, performing your work with what your boss wants and agreeing what your boss says even when you know that he isn't right.. Maybe, I am not yet used to in this kind of life because I had just graduated this year, and this is my first time in working and dealing with this kind of situation.. Being older means you need to deal with everything, trying to understand make your life easier in no matter means and ways, trying to be contented on what are the things that you have, and most of all being happy even sometimes you know that it is hard to be happy... Unlike being kid,when they mother/father gave them a new toy they are already happen even a cheaper candy can makes children happy.. They don't know yet what happiness really means.. For them, having a new clothes, buying their favorite toys, eating chocolates, chewing gum, and candies, playing with their friends, going to the picnic, and keeping once promises they are already happy and contented.. They won't ask for more.. When you told them enough they will stop.. Isn't it nice to be a child?? It seems that everything is perfect.. No problems.... Well, I guess this is what our world makes.. No matter what the life what we have, we like it or not, we need to accept it and just try to cope up with all of this things.. Happy posting..
• China
2 Aug 08
Hi Kissie, Thanks for so long a reply. Yes, No matter what the world is, we could stil like it and enjoy it, no matter what happen to us, we could still get something from it.
@pearl1003 (671)
• Philippines
31 Jul 08
Yes. As we grow up, it's harder to be happy and satisfied with what we have. We are more exposed to other things when we get older and we tend to know more. Because of that, we become envious and jealous, and we tend to dream impossible dreams and fly higher... When we were kids, we just play all day. We go to school, go home, watch tv, eat and sleep. Now we're older, we think of how to get money to buy food, to buy a new shirt, to make our crush fall in love with us....etc. We tend to ask for more. Kids just get what they are being provided with. They get what they need. They get what they want too. But adults like us now, we have to work for what we need... We have to work harder to get what we want. We hav more responsibilities now that's why it's harder to be happy and satisfied with everything.
• China
2 Aug 08
That's true. And I am thinking of, one day, if everyone has enough money, what that shall worry about? Hard though the lift sometimes might be, we could enjoy the happiness more after our hard work, don't we... Have a nice day. We will have a party tonight , forget about the unhappniess...
@maryannemax (12174)
• Sweden
31 Jul 08
i think the older we get, the higher our satisfaction level becomes. we become harder to satisfy. there are even times when instead of being thankful of the things we have, we end up not being happy because we want something more. it's really great to look at kids just happy with the lollipops or ice creams they have. happy myLotting! anne
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• China
2 Aug 08
Hehe, you said it. I think now I need to see if the more things that I want would bring me more happiness in future, otherwise, I might need to change my mind to in the end be more satisfied with what I already have.
• Philippines
31 Jul 08
When we are young...we always set our goals. When goals are attain...we set goals again to attain next level. But when when we are already in the levels that we set...then we realize that its not what we want. Maybe its time for you to think what your heart wants. what will really make you happy. Goodluck.
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• China
2 Aug 08
Ok, thanks. I am also thinking carefully these days for what I really need, who I really am. I think I could still find a lot of fun in my job since I do love the job...
@paid2write (5204)
31 Jul 08
It's quite the opposite in my experience. I found life very difficult when I was young. Life has always been a struggle but I as I get older I am finding it much happier and more satisfying. I was into my thirties when everything started to change. I did well in my new career, I had a great social life, I was more easily able to mix with people of all ages and backgrounds. I found love and I had a much more satisfying life. I have continued getting more out of life and I appreciate what I have now, rather than thinking about what I don't have, which is how I viewed life when I was younger. I may be getting old now but I do think the best is still to come.
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• China
2 Aug 08
Hello, Paid2write, thanks for the kind words. I think I could also have your kind of mind to think of the things,difficulties that I encounter, and I am now @ my twenties, I think I still have a long way to go and a lot of things to learn to become more mature and satisfied. Thanks, Andy
• Philippines
31 Jul 08
gardening - planting this will add beauty to your garden
when I was at the peak of my career, I found it hard to satisfy myself. i always wanted to achieve more than what I can do. Then when I became a mother, everything changed. I became more realistic and became contented with what I have.
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• China
31 Jul 08
That's a good example for how to become contented with who we are, we in fact are not that important in the company, but we regard ourselves too important, which already gives too much pressure to us. After we leave that place/company, we would find that we are very easily replaced by another guy, the company won't be much different due to our leave... With you all the best and have a nice day!
• United States
31 Jul 08
For me, it's gotten easier for me to be happy and satisfied as I've gotten older. I had a hard time figuring out my world and coming to terms with my problems when I was younger, but I've become very accepting of my shortcomings and more understanding on how to manage myself. Things aren't so shiny and new and exciting, but satisfaction is a lot deeper and gives a lot more contentment than that shortlived burst of happiness and excitement that I used to get.
• China
2 Aug 08
It's really good that you could be more satisfied and happier as you grow up. Great, and hope the happiness alway goes with you
@riyasam (16582)
• India
31 Jul 08
i really wish i could go back to my chilhood.when i am around my children,my craving increases.they are so innocent which decreases as they grow up.
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• China
2 Aug 08
:) Yes, I wish I could be the Child again, so that I could live with my parents everyday...
@reckon21 (3487)
• Philippines
31 Jul 08
Yes, that is true. When we were young we are happy if we receive gifts or anything from our love one. We are generally contented with our life. But as we grow old everything changes, we begun to see the world in different light. Sad to say, those innocent days is already gone. We can visit it in our memories but we can never go back to the tings they use to be.
• China
2 Aug 08
sorry to hear that but we sometimes have to face it. Good luck and I think there is still some way that we could be childlike sometimes, esp. when we see our parents, since we are their little children no matter how old we are... :)
• Philippines
31 Jul 08
Not really, It depends on how you see life. It's good that you are aware of the troubles of life. But still, in all of these conflicting stuffs, those that you consider hard, are not really that hard. The reason why we see it that way is we're just worrying. Free yourself from worries and you'll see, life is not that hard, after all, life is actually fun.
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• China
1 Aug 08
That might be true. It all depends on how we thinks of it, successful people learn from the failures while the falures just feel sad and fall off. Good luck and thanks for giving me a different idea.