What do you do to make your kid move a little faster?

@kate635 (127)
Philippines
July 31, 2008 9:13am CST
My kid is already 7 years old but he is very slow in doing things. He spends more than half an hour in eating his meals. Needs to be reminded always, very slow in writing and in responding when being called. I am already getting frustrated. What do I do? How do you handle this kind of situation? He is a normal kid, wants to play a lot, in fact he is smart.
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@cher913 (25890)
• Canada
31 Jul 08
my youngest daughter was like that and still is sort of like that (but she is getting better). what we did was just encouraged her to be faster. how about setting an egg timer and making it a sort of game (kids love games!) and if he beats the timer, he gets a treat (a smartie or he can save up til the end of the week and hit the dollar store - make coupons even and he can use them as money??!!)
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@kate635 (127)
• Philippines
31 Jul 08
That's a great idea, I'll try that and maybe see the improvement after some time.
@kcbabez14 (967)
• United States
31 Jul 08
Have you taken him to the doctor to see if maybe he might be autistic? This sounds like he might have a small case.. Alot of people don't understand autism very well. They can be completly normal but with some minor flaws like not comprehending well (writing) and responsivness, not very social etc.. I would have him checked out.. If that's not the case try getting him movtivated with something that he likes. My children are small so what they want is how i get them moving. lol.
@property (453)
• United States
31 Jul 08
Yes! thank you for beating me to the punch... didn't know how to say that with out ruffling feathers. A child with an Autism Spectrum Disorder can seem normal in most aspects of life yet have a very hard time with writing or proccessing speeds. My son who is on the spectrum is brilliant...but get him to school on time...wow what a job. My son has asperger's syndrome. He looks completely normal but has some quirks. That said he has been programing computer games since he was 7, he is now 9. If your child is bright... but yet still slow you might want to look into this. There are ways to work with these kids to make them less symptomatic. By the way Bill Gates (the man who made windows for computers) is said to have aspergers. There is no shame in it. :)
@kate635 (127)
• Philippines
31 Jul 08
Thanks for being so straight forward. I'll have him checked again. We have him checked with a developmental pediatrician before and the only problem found was in his writing. He had undergone occupational therapy and was enrolled in a special school, but when his performance in school has improved, we stopped the therapy since it is very expensive. He finished grade 1 with honors. Right now he is enrolled in a regular school but I'm afraid he is not catching up with the lessons and is coming home without anything in his notebook. The teacher told me she he is easily distracted and is very slow in writing. I think, I really need to work out on this to have his therapy back and have him enrolled again to a school where he will be given attention.
@eihdra (3116)
• Philippines
31 Jul 08
hi kate..everyday, My husband and I have the same dilemma with our 9 year old. He too eats slow, sometimes just a few food on his plate and it will be finished after an hour or so..We constantly remind him to chew while he's staring into nothingness..That's why we don't allow him to watch tv while eating, because that would make him eat even slower..It seems he doesn't get it, even though we always tell him to eat faster so he could do something else afterwards.. That goes the same with studying his lessons and writing his assignments..I sometimes get frustrated too and ends up scolding him for being too slow.. It isn't part of his learning disability, but most times, he's so lazy to do his lessons at home.. So, what I did was, we pretended.. I am the teacher and he is my student...In that way, he cannot tell me he's tired or just plain lazy or doesn't wanna do it, because I know for a fact that he is so active in school and participates a lot and so fast in doing things... try it and hope it helps....
@kate635 (127)
• Philippines
2 Aug 08
Thanks for the advice. Nice to hear your son is doing fast in school, but my son is not. He's really slow in writing and it has a domino effect on his lessons. The teacher-student relationship is okay but I think it won't work for us as we have a very close relationship. I must try hard to think of a different approach to really keep him motivated. Anyway, I'll see if it works. Good day!
@property (453)
• United States
31 Jul 08
Check out autismhelp.info and autismvictoria.org :)
@kate635 (127)
• Philippines
2 Aug 08
Thanks for the link. I for sure will visit this site and dig more about autism. But I'm happy my child is not diagnosed as having such, he's just having some problems with his writing and needs occupational therapy to help him out. Good day!
• Singapore
31 Jul 08
My mom used to compare my sister and I. I was the faster one and she was the slower one. She eats very slowly and takes a very long time to finish her food. She still takes a long time now. We joked about it. She recently gave birth to a baby boy and said that she can no longer taker her own sweet time to eat her food as she has to attend to her baby. We told her 5 minutes is all she could afford. She grew up normally. Although sometimes she's a bit slow in getting jokes, she's getting better. She's smart. I seldom see her study for exams. She studies at the last minute, usually with eyes closed (sleeping). But she always manages to scrape through her exams. I study day and night before I can do well at school. She seems to be able to grasp what has been taught faster and retain information much longer than me. I got short term memory. We may not know how our brain works. Your kid may be digesting all the information he is receiving and retaining all the important information for later use. Maybe that's why he is slower. Who knows?
@kate635 (127)
• Philippines
31 Jul 08
Maybe you're right. Sometimes my kid tells me,"mom, don't disturb me I'm day dreaming." But if you would give him an intellectual question, he would answer that with ease. He also has a good sense of humor and is very charming. A child's brain is like a sponge, yeah, maybe he's retaining all the information he is having for later use.
@property (453)
• United States
31 Jul 08
Please note my comment above. i just wanted to add there are checklists for ASD (Autism Spectrun Disorder) online. If you are interested in looking into it, i'll find you a link. Good luck.
@kate635 (127)
• Philippines
31 Jul 08
Okay, this time I think I really have to look into this myself to find out what really is best for my kid. I'm beginning to worry. Thanks a lot!
@Elkeliini (265)
• Finland
31 Jul 08
be patient. :) Really, he is just slow. or then, maybe you are really fast. If you are worried you could have him tested, but you said yourself that he is a normal child. so probably, just slow. We dont all work on the same speed you know. I am for example really slow in some things like eating (everybdy is finished before I have started really)!! And I have always been like that. I am not stupid and my brain does not work slow. I am also not lazy and I can get a huge amount of work done in very little time. just somethings... slow.
@kate635 (127)
• Philippines
31 Jul 08
Your right. Maybe I need to adjust and be more patient with my kid because when it comes to learning things he really is fast. Maybe some motivation will do. Thanks...