do you have good relationship with your parents?

Philippines
July 31, 2008 9:27am CST
I never had a good relationship with my parents. we always yell when we talk and i am not comfortable talking to them in an easy way.. i just don't know why. I have a very stressful life, thus bombarded with a lot of problems makes us even more uncomfortable with each other. I can i made this broken pieces? I want to at least savor my time with my parents before it's too late.. please give me an advice..will appreciate it.thanks..:)
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@chenmeiyi (973)
• China
31 Jul 08
when i was very young,i always talked back to my parents and quite naught. but now i am 19,i think i have the responsibility to be considerate to my parents, to think about their difficulties,to think about their great pressure. i think you should bear your anger and be more obedient in the presence of your parents,you should cherish the time when you spend with your parents cause you never know what will happen tomorrow,life is really short,and you should cherish what you already have now. hope you make it and take care.
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• Philippines
2 Aug 08
hi..thanks for that..actually i am toning down my negative emotions towards them... you know i do love my parents.. but sometimes, i can't avoid to get irritated when they ask money from me over and over again... but then again i will try to understand them.. all it takes is a good communication among us..thanks again..
• Philippines
31 Jul 08
Hi there nastygurl435! I do have a good relationship with my parents. Of course there were times in the past, when I was a lot younger, when I would often argue with my parents. But that is water under the bridge. I have a very good relationship with them now. Sometimes, young people really find it hard to have a good relationship with their parents. Teens, most especially, have a difficult time dealing with their parents. How was your relationship to your parents when you were younger? Has it always been the way it is now? Perhaps, it would be nice to talk to your parents and tell them exactly how you feel about certain things. Opening up to them would be a good way of developing a better relationship with them. I hope you will be able to have a good relationship with your parents.
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• Philippines
2 Aug 08
I do have good relationship with my parents when i was still young...actually i am the youngest and i am the most favorite. Now, that i am quite older, I am already 22, i was a bit bombarded by the responsibility they are pushing me. I have when very stressed right now. i understand why they are doing this. but i wanted to enjoy myself, because sooner or later i might get married and don't have time to enjoy my being single. but i know good communication will solve this situation..thanks..
@munhozmib (3730)
• Sao Paulo, Brazil
1 Aug 08
Hello! I have a great relationship with my parents. Whenever I am talking to one of them alone, we get along well. I can ask questions about anything and they will give me advice, they will always teach me what I need to learn. However, my mother is a person that get stressed really easy. I have to be quite careful with her, because if I say that I disagree with anything that she says she starts yelling. But no, I do not yell back. We only do not argue because I do not reply when she starts yelling. Sometimes she is angry and starts throwing it all off against me. She says I do not help her, I don't do this and that, she blames me for things that I haven't even done, and I just listen. Well, what can I do? Arguing won't help. I think that there are people with a better relationship to their parents, but at least I do not get angry when they are yelling at me. I can control myself at all times. You should try it aswell. It's just a matter of having conscience about what are you feeling, being angry will help in nothing at all. Respectfully, Munhozmib.
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• Philippines
2 Aug 08
I really have to listen only... since they are my parents..they know best.. thanks for this thought.. greatly appreciated..
• Philippines
2 Aug 08
i just have to listen only, since they are my parents... they know best.. thanks for this thought.greatly appreciated...
@orissan (23)
• India
1 Aug 08
Indian contest is something different.Sons/daughters in most cases were loyal and obedient to their parents.But the time is changing very fast.Indians sons and daughters are also coping with changing of time.Joint family system is vanishing day by day.Macro family system is advancing very fast.Bond in the members of the is diminishing.Still major percentage of Indian sons and daughters are loyal,obedient and has respect for their parents. Have patience,understand your parents,think how they struggled to bring you up.Also remember as you sow so shall you reap.
• Philippines
2 Aug 08
thanks for that one..that sounds very deep.. greatly appreciated.:)
1 Aug 08
I do have a good relationship with my parents. What keeps us so close I think is that, we are very open with each other and we can even talk over unusual things. All you have to do is to approach them, try to be a li'l sweet to them...I'm sure they will appreciate every little nice thing you'll do to them...And if it won't work, try to tell them how you really feel...Good luck and Godbless...
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• Philippines
2 Aug 08
yeah..good communication really works..thanks
@fwangaa (3058)
• China
1 Aug 08
you can paly games with your parent for a good relationship.paly card or other games . or you can talk a joke to them .or buy some gift to them.i hope you will comfortable with your parents.
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• Philippines
2 Aug 08
actually we are doing it before..playing cards..i hope we could do it again right now though we are already grown ups..thanks for dropping by..
@dreamssri (1796)
• India
31 Jul 08
yeah!! im somewhat like you...my parents will always scold me something(mistakes!)... first of all,the thing that i hate to the greatest extent is advice....oh my god!!! i just can bear it....if somebody advices me i'll get irritated..... so now,i gotta solution for that....whatever they say i'll jus' smile.... SMILE IS THE MOST POWERFUL WEAPON IN THE WHOLE WORLD....if you manage to smile at any situation then,you will be the winner of the most number of hearts in this world... so keep smiling....and keep one thing in mind....they are your parents...whatever they do,is for your welfare(even scolding)... [b] just compromise...smile...be happy...[/b] Goodday, Sri
• Philippines
2 Aug 08
thanks... that's really great to hear... SMILE! yeah..i know it..hehehe... thanks again...
@ravinskye (8245)
• United States
31 Jul 08
I have a pretty good relationship with my parents. My mom and I butted heads alot when I was still living at home but once I moved out things got better. Maybe if you want a better relationship with your parents you need to tell them that. Explain that it makes you sad that you fight and try to work through your problems. If you can't talk to them try writing them a letter. If that doesn't work you could consider counseling. A third party to help with an objective view may help get through your problems.
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• Philippines
2 Aug 08
i really just to talk to them with a good tone of voice... thanks for dropping by..
@Theresam (1181)
• United States
31 Jul 08
I have a very good relationship with my mom. I would consider her my best friend. We talk almost everyday. It sounds like you need to take a step back and not complain to your parents and get into agruements. I don't know how old you are but take it one step at all and talk about your life as a need to know basis.
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• Philippines
2 Aug 08
I hope i can talk to my mom. My mom is really a great one. my friends love her as much. they are actually open to my mom. maybe i just don't have the guts to talk to her and be open to her. i am praying that we could have a good relationship and could mend the broken pieces. thanks for cheering me up.
• United States
31 Jul 08
well i never had a good relationship with my parents and i wish i did. i have tried and gave them chances only for it to end really bad. all i can say is try and give it your best shot and as long as you do what ever you can you cant feel bad no matter how it turns out.
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• Philippines
2 Aug 08
I hope you too could mend the broken pieces.. thanks for dropping by..I am currently working on it.
@austere (2816)
• Philippines
1 Aug 08
Yes, I do have a pretty good relationship with my parents. I can talk to them about how’s work is doing. They treat me like a matured person and I share my plans about life with them, though I have not been totally honest with them. Well, of course I cannot be open with them about everything that’s happening in my life. Sometimes you have to keep some things to yourself to keep them from worrying. I love my parents and we have a good talking relationship, but sometimes their being too protective makes me feel like a baby. Parents will always be parents!! I still remind them at times that I am matured enough to take care of me..:)
@nina0220 (73)
• Philippines
1 Aug 08
when i was a child i can say that i have a good relationship with my parents. but as i grow up there are a lot of things that we don't always agree about. i always feel that they are suppressing everything that i want to express. in a way, i was a rebel growing up. i gave them a lot of heartaches and i resent that. now that i am a parent myself, i realize that being in their shoes is not that simple nor that there is a special formula you can apply to say that you're a perfect parent. i just hope that my son can say that he has a good relationship with his parents.
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• Italy
1 Aug 08
yes i do..
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@mimico (3619)
• Philippines
1 Aug 08
That's really sad. I enjoy a good and open relationship with my parents. We argue once in a while about trivial things such as my lack of permanent employment..Overall though we're very close. We spend a lot of time together. I wish you could have that kind of relationship as well. It's great to have parents who support you all the time.
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• China
1 Aug 08
I really don't known how to describe the relationship with my parents. when I really need them, wanna them love me, care me and notice me; but, they did not; but when they wanna to love me now, I am so sorry to say: sorry, I am used to be lonely now. Do not pay more attention to me, I just like to be only myself!!
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@smilyn (2964)
• United States
1 Aug 08
I always have agood relationship with my parents. May be when I was a kid, I would had some issues..But I don't remember them. But as far I remember, I have a smooth relationship with them.They have brought me into this world. They have given me many things that many others do not have. They lived and are living for me. So I have a love and respect for them. That too after giving birth to a baby, I really understood the love they would have on me..Nothing can be done to bring this love.It is inbuilt and should be from within..You may have some misunderstandings now..But surely you will understand their love oneday.May be they don't understand you..So you shout..But just understand onething.They are old enough to understand things and adjust with you. BUt you are young at heart and you can adjust with them..So try to adjust, understand and love them.. May God bless you.
@bogo27 (51)
• United States
1 Aug 08
I've always had great relationships with my parents of course there are occasional arguments but if a relationship doesn't have arguments then some1 is faking something. i think the reason i have such a great relationship with my parents is because we talk and they treat me like a person and not a baby. by we talk i mean we talk about everything i know when were having troubles and everything. at the end of each day i ask my parents how there day was and we have full discussions. And them not treating me like a baby when i was younger i was a tv buff i watched everything i knew about all the shows and everything. they let me make decisions about what i do and if i screwed up id pay the cost assimple as that. and i learnedfrom this and just didnt get caught;)
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• Philippines
1 Aug 08
I am very close with my mom and never had a dull moment with her. Most especially when I entered the marriage life, I even became more excited of seeing her and my brothers who still live at her place. But with my Dad, It's really complicated since he left me when I was young. I was taught to hate him but I can't. Probably, blood holds deep attachments forever, some just try to deny and hide it.
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• Philippines
1 Aug 08
I do have good relationship with my parents.
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@izathewzia (5142)
• Philippines
1 Aug 08
I do have a very good relationship with my mother. I understand her better now especially that i am a mom myself. i am now paying my shortcomings and rebellions before against her. lol I am very lucky to have her as a mom. Becuase she is such a good one.