how long do you consider long enough before moving in?

@jhl930 (3605)
United States
July 31, 2008 8:41pm CST
i know that we all have our own personal opinions on relationships but i was just wondering about all of you what you think...i mean i think if two people are really in love that they can make that kind of choice on their own but if it were me i would want us to be together at least five or six months before she thought about moving in...with me, i would want us to get to know each other for that long at least before i would want her to move in, and i wouldn't be mean at all by telling her i would be like i need a little more time for me so i was just wondering about all of you how long do you think? thanks for taking the time out of your day to read my discussion and i hope to hear from you soon, i hope that all of you have a really great evening and rest of the night as well!
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3 responses
• United States
1 Aug 08
I dont think there is a right time, if it feels right then do it, but only if you both are ready. If your not ready and she is then tell her so, she will understand, and if she doesnt then she is not ready for a relationship. I moved in with my boyfriend about 5 months after knowning him and we have been together for over a year now, so i think as long as you both feel its right have no regrets and do it. i great waking up to the one you love everyday.
@jhl930 (3605)
• United States
1 Aug 08
i think that you are right i don't think that we should have a time to wait for it, i think that when it feels right it just feels right to you, thats just my honest opinion!
@chrislotz (8203)
• Canada
1 Nov 08
Five or six months!!! That is not long enough in my opinion. I think that is part of the problem with todays society. People get into commitments without knowing each other. I think a couple need to know each other and date for at least a couple years before moving in together. To get to really know each other. Then there would be a lot less break ups and a lot less violence. Alrighty then, talk to you later, your friend, chris.
@SomeCowgirl (32266)
• United States
1 Aug 08
Um, two days (sheepish look) I started staying with my fiance two days after we started dating. I know that must sound bad on so many levels, and trust me I felt bad, his mom woke him up one morning and she goes "What is she doing here" and "what are you doing" lol, it wasn't nearly as bad as it sounds but what would you think if your gf's parent(s) came in the room and saw you there? I moved in with him officially on Nov 10th, but had been staying there since like mid October. Needless to say, I felt a little sheepish!