Isn't it hard to love a best friend/closest friend???

@kissie34 (2296)
Philippines
August 1, 2008 5:20am CST
Falling in love with a best friend/closest friend isn't as easy as when you fall into someone else whom you just met.. I can say this because when you are in love with your best friend you need to keep secrets to him/her, you can't share what's in your heart.. Not like if that person is not your best friend, you can be open to him/her in all the happy and sad things happen to you.. You can easily tell him/her that you're hurt or you are really falling in love with him/her.. Of course, you cannot tell to your best friend that "I am in love" definitely he/she will ask you "to whom??" Can you tell him/her "ITS YOU"?? Well, me?? 95% No because I am scared but of course I want to tell him but not that high percentage or have a good guts.. Isn't it hard to love a best friend?? What do you think?? Feel free to share your thoughts/ideas/opinions here..
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@rkrish (3003)
• India
1 Aug 08
Expect love at first sight, in all cases friends are becoming lovers. If you have the feel of love with your friend, we need to just make the friend to understand your feeling by motions not by words/expressions. When you started making him understand, the day he starts feeling your love rather than friendship. And if attraction passess then sure it will end up in love. Its of experience not by words
@kissie34 (2296)
• Philippines
4 Aug 08
Well, I think no matter how you express your love to that person surely there is still need to tell some words to him/her.. Because words are more easy to understand than feeling.. Base on my experience, it is more difficult to understand to know what he was trying to tell me everytime he makes some moves like being sweet, or being care about me.. Well, sometimes we gave different meaning to the feeling that we feel to that person.. We thought that they love us the way you were expecting but then we were wrong.. So,for me it words is more clearer to understand than expressing it.. Anyways, thank you for sharing your opinion.. Happy posting..
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• India
1 Aug 08
Yeah its hard to tell your best freind that you love him/her. Many hesitate b'cause they don't want to lose their friend, if he/she feels bad after saying so. But my personal experience says that one should not hide his/her feelings. They should speak up before its too late.
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@kissie34 (2296)
• Philippines
1 Aug 08
I agree that it better to speak out before its too late... But telling how you feel to your friend is not that easy especially if you know that he/she is in love to someone else.. I think it is not we are scared to tell him/her how we feel but we are scared on how he/she reacts on it and what will be his/her reply.. thanks for sharing...
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@ayessa (1586)
• Philippines
2 Aug 08
Let me say it in two different ways. It is really hard. Cause you need to choose whether to keep it or to express it.If you choose the first then better put some padlock on your heart and emotions so that it will not be shown to him and to other friends of yours. If value friendship more then you will definitely keep the feelings and continue the friendship but you need to be tough on keeping it. Sometimes it will just slip and some may notice it and it will be a cause of trouble. If you decide to express it better to be tough too cause this time you will not only bound to loose the friendship but also the love that you are feeling Unless you are lucky that the bestfriend of yours is inlove with you too. I have done it both. The keeping and expressing both are difficult but the saddest part was after the relastionships no other relationship will remain even the friendship will go away.
@kissie34 (2296)
• Philippines
4 Aug 08
Ouch! Well,base on my experience I choose the first one.. I try to keep it my own.. I don't want him to know because I know that his feeling for me is just as younger sister (since he is to me).. And also I know that there is someone who already own his heart.. It is really painful but I need to just keep it in me.. Actually, I had keep it for more than 6 years.. I had never told me that I love him.. But then one day, we had some misunderstanding and we both tell everything that we felt for each other.. Then I finally told him that I love him.. But because of that our friendship had changed.. We are still friends but not the same as before.. It's already 2 years from now that we had never talked to each other, we never see each other and most of all I don't know if we are still friend.. If I can still call him as my best friend after all the things that happened.. Well, I guess life is really like this.. And both of us can never be each other.. And I already accept it.. Now, I have already a boyfriend.. We are together for more than 3 years, I can say that I am happy and proud to say that I somehow forget my feelings to my best friend..
@ayessa (1586)
• Philippines
5 Aug 08
That was somethng good! Atleast you found the man for you. Good luck!
@magojordan (3256)
• Philippines
4 Aug 08
Yes I have to agree with you. I fell in love with a close friend years ago I told her that I love her and then after a week she dumped me. She said she wanted to spare me the feelings of false hopes, that's why she gave me that quick answer. It took me almost a year to forget it all and actually talk to her again. Right now we're still close friends and since I have my own girlfriend right now, we just laugh about thatI used to love her.
@kissie34 (2296)
• Philippines
4 Aug 08
Well, that's good at least you still save your friendship.. Thanks for sharing..