Does it bother you when your Mylot friends fight?
August 1, 2008 4:48pm CST
I have a number of friends here of diverse backgrounds and various beliefs. I post and reply to a number of controversial discussions. I respect the views of everyone, although I will debate if I see something that I can provide a different insight. But, because my friends are so diverse, occasionally, there is a dispute between one or two. I want to play mediator, although I have found that it does no good. Still, it bothers me when 2 people that I respect argue. They might have differing viewpoints, but it bothers me, because I love them both. I generally try to stay away. I want to reply and to make them see each other, but it is not my place. They have to see what they see. It's not about me. I can love both. It still bothers me. So, what about you? Does it bother you when 2 people you respect argue. FYI, I do have a childhood problem with this, so it might just be me. THanks. All respectful replies welcomed.
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• United States
1 Aug 08
I try to remain neutral if I can. But if it's something that I feel strongly enough about I will put my 3 cents in. I don't go out of my way to hurt anybody's feelings and I don't think a friend would be hurt just because I don't agree with a particular point of view. But if I had two people I really respected and saw that they were in a heated argument I,like you, would try to play peacemaker. It either works or it doesn't. If it doesn't then I let them hash it out by themselves. I suppose I'm fortunate that most of my closer friends on myLot basically agree on most subjects or can at least agree to disagree on the ones we don't agree on. I don't like arguing, it gives me a headache, but I do love a good debate. The only people I will argue with are the ones who don't look up facts, call other people names for disagreeing, misquote others or flat out lie to try to prove their point. Then look out! Crafty is coming thru and taking no prisoners! I've had two people in 2 days just flat out lie and misquote something I said so I've had a few snippy angry moments the last couple of days. Oh well, I expect it so it doesn't surprise me, but I won't keep my mouth shut when that happens, though I never call anyone names or go too far out my way to upset anyone.
• Olney, Illinois
1 Aug 08
I try to stay out of the middle as much as possible. If things are getting too heated and I can think of a diplomatic way to possibly defuse the situation, I might speak up, but I do my best not to actually take sides; unless I feel really strongly about one side or the other.
1 Aug 08
At the end of the day we are all here to write our little bits and pieces ,not here to fight!we have to accept that there are always going to be different opinions,and personalities that will clash,but thats the way that life is,its a forum,its meant for different opinions!it doesnt worry me too much ,there will always people that will fall out,but im sure that they wil lend up friends again at some point.