Do you give everything when you're in love?

Give everything - Do you give everything when you're in love?
@mycharm88 (2292)
Philippines
August 2, 2008 5:10am CST
Good day everyone c",) My parents always told me NOT to give everything when i'm in love, always have a 50 percent left for yourself... But how do you know if you've given enough? How do you know if you've given your all. Honestly i don't really know. I use to think that i've given my all (my love) to the one i love. And many times love fails for me and it hurts so bad.I see many young people confused with love, is it just infatuation, attraction, or true love? Actually until now i am still confused, but all i know is that when i love a person i try to make them happy and understand them and accept them for who they are. Just a thought... How about you guys, what can you say about being inlove, do you give everything? How do you show your love? Thanks in advance friends.c",) take care
8 people like this
35 responses
• China
2 Aug 08
I WILL give 80 to my lover if i am in love , i think i will never give them 100, i can belive them so much, and i am nit sure if i have all of mine to them how will them treat me ,and if one day we get part ,how can i accept that . someone will say ,if you have give so much to your liver ,it shows that you are not love your partner ture ,i think there is not true love, can someone really love you forever ?
2 people like this
@Zelmarq (11503)
• Cebu City, Philippines
4 Aug 08
Ok dear, that i cannot answer if can someone ever love me forever...thanks for sharing that. take care
1 person likes this
@mycharm88 (2292)
• Philippines
15 Aug 08
yeah me too, i don't know if someone could love me forever. But i do hope the one i have now is the right one for me. tc always friends and thanks for responding c",)
• United States
3 Aug 08
Yes, but I feel as if the one that I am in love with does not. Today, and a couple of days ago, he lied to own mother. He manipulated her. I wonder if he would ever do that to me as our relationship goes on?
1 person likes this
@mycharm88 (2292)
• Philippines
13 Aug 08
Oh dear, i think it's possible that he would do that in the future but i do hope not. There are times wherein i feel that my boyfriend doesn't love me as much as i do to him, i did have a feeling that we're not meant for each other and i was right. We parted ways and i'm glad i found another one who's inlove with me more than i do to him. Good luck dear and all the best in your relationship!c",)
1 person likes this
• United States
14 Aug 08
Well, since this post, he has apologized to me and he told his mother the truth, thankfully, but I still worry sometimes about him. I know that I should not, but I do.
1 person likes this
@mycharm88 (2292)
• Philippines
15 Aug 08
My that's good to know dear friend... yes, i too worry sometimes but it's just normal. Take your time to get to know him more and love him and be happy together. c",)
@cupid74 (11394)
• Pakistan
4 Aug 08
Hi dear what i think ur Parents want to tell u that u should not Attach so much EXPECTATION from ur Loved one, as the more expectation u attach the more u hurt when some thing minor happen But sure its not controlable. however just try to think rationally as well when u r in Love Take care
1 person likes this
@mycharm88 (2292)
• Philippines
15 Aug 08
yes dear cupid, i am trying to have limits for myself and we do respect each other and also trust one another. i guess that is what's important in a relationship. We give love, respect and trust. Do you agree? take care my friend?
@cupid74 (11394)
• Pakistan
16 Aug 08
I do agreee the base of every relation is TRUST and Sincerity and can be grown to a stronger relation with love and care
1 person likes this
@roanne05 (1292)
• Oman
3 Aug 08
you will never know when you already given more than enough...i guess it is human nature to be blind when we are in-love...you can never tell..hey you already given 80%,,,now stop...this is the agreement, right??? we just need be cautious enough to not to be hurt but hurting is part of loving. you can never say you love someone unless you feel hurt...i mean, for sure you will be hurt if he/she has problem right and will automatically help him in your own way. if you are not in-love then it doesn't matter if another person is in stress or what...all i can say, love has a lot of meaning, description and also really depends on the situation you are in when you are in-love.
1 person likes this
@mycharm88 (2292)
• Philippines
15 Aug 08
Yes dear, but how do i know that i've given more than enough?lol oh well, i just want to love the person that i am with right now. I am happy loving him, i'm not qiute sure if i've given more than he has given me, but sure am glad to have him in my life... Thanks for respondng dear and do take care c",)
@roanne05 (1292)
• Oman
16 Aug 08
good for you that you are happy with him...i am happy for you,,,good luck with your relationship...take care!!!
1 person likes this
@kun2349 (23475)
• Singapore
2 Aug 08
Love can be shown in many ways and the greatest love of all, is not posessing that person u love.. But rather, let them be happy and be with the one they really love.. THought we may not be by their side, but we can support them in whatever they do and always be there for them, loving them in silence, let them know that there's always someone caring for them always ^_^ For this kind of love, it's not that easy because it's very heartaching to oneself, but what's love?? Love is making yourself heartache but seeing your loved ones being happy ^_^
@mycharm88 (2292)
• Philippines
6 Aug 08
That's sweet dear, you are truly noble...Being inlove and not being loved in return is really painful dear, i've been there before but i had no regrets. I learned from that experience. and now i am in love with person who loved me more c",)How about you, have you found someone to love? I hope you do, i wish you happiness and great love.
1 person likes this
@kun2349 (23475)
• Singapore
13 Aug 08
yeah, and i have found my love too, jinxky ^_^ hehe
1 person likes this
@zeroflashx2 (2491)
• Philippines
2 Aug 08
Hey charm! How are you? Well, I would also not give the entire 100%. I will leave a little for me and other aspects such as professional/educational. It really depends on each relationship and couple handle the relationship. I don't try to gauge how much I give though. I just make sure I give something in the relationship without expecting anything back. I still need attention to myself, my career, and other people as well. A good balance between all of those is what I'm really aiming for. Life is short and it isn't even near enough to experience a lot of things, more so everything else. Loving unconditionally. That's what really matters no matter how much we give and take. Take care my friend.
@mycharm88 (2292)
• Philippines
4 Aug 08
Well said dear, i like your point of view..."loving unconditionally" and yes life really is so short and we have to live it to the fullest. Thank you for your nice response my friend. She is lucky c",)tc
• Philippines
4 Aug 08
Don't mention it and thanks as well. It is better to love unconditionally. Expecting something and not getting it often leads to disappointment and start the fall of the relationship. I just give and then move on. Waaah.. I guess she is. Have a good day charm!
1 person likes this
@CatsandDogs (13964)
• United States
5 Aug 08
Yes I give everything I have when in love because I feel it's the only way to go. If I don't give my everything then I feel that I'm cheating my husband of my one and true self. However at the same time I stay independent and true to myself as well just in case if something were to ever happen to him, I can be self sufficent... God forbid if anything ever happened to him!
1 person likes this
@mycharm88 (2292)
• Philippines
15 Aug 08
YOu must be so inlove my friend, and i'm happy for you. For a wife it is a must for us to give our all, we submit ourself to our husband. And we will just pray that nothing bad will happen to him... Hugz to your family dear
• United States
4 Aug 08
I think that emotionally, you have to be willing to give it all you can. If you've taken the time to get to know your partner and become best friends with them before getting involved physically, I think you'll stand a much better chance of having a successful relationship. You have to see how they are with you when they are NOT trying to impress you. How do they treat their family members? Do they treat you with respect? My husband and I were best friends for 2 years before we ever started dating. Once we realized it was right for our relationship to change, we got married very very quickly. Our relationship has been totally based on our friendship first. And it's been a wonderful, incredible marriage. We have two beautiful children and a very happy life. But, I don't think you can get that if you aren't willing to give it your all. Part of building the friendship is also building the trust. When you trust someone, it's not hard to give it your all. I think the key is more about WHEN to give it all. It has to build up over time.
1 person likes this
@mycharm88 (2292)
• Philippines
15 Aug 08
Wow! An amazing love you have, I wish i could have a happy married life like you... Thank you so much for sharing that here dear friend. all the best for you and your family c",)
• China
4 Aug 08
Actually I am here I can say that I wouldn't give up everything while I am in love as I think there are so many things apart from love worth my treasure.we humans live in the world there are so many things ,not only love ..so when in love I do hope the person who I love will give each other their own space since I remember one of my friends said "the best way to keep love is to it wings.".. Now since I don't have boy friend ..I am not sure if I would sacrifice everything only for love....
1 person likes this
@mycharm88 (2292)
• Philippines
15 Aug 08
Well, lets just see if you would find the one dear.lol! Good luck and tc always c",)
@jingke (106)
• China
4 Aug 08
If it is,I will regret for finding your discussion so late.I have give almost everything about my other side that many people do not know to my lover.after which ,I have been rethinking about whether we should give everything to our lover.now ,I think it is necessary to maintain something for the lover.Every has his own night and secret.If the one you are in love is the real one,she or he will understand you.so,I don't think we should give everything to the one we love.
1 person likes this
@mycharm88 (2292)
• Philippines
15 Aug 08
Oh no, you are never late to be here. Thanks for responding dear friend... I do have my limits as of now. But i'm trying to show him how i feel and i am happy to be with him. tc always dear c",)
@Ohara_1983 (4120)
• Kuwait
3 Aug 08
if your inlove lot of people forget & give everything to thier boyfriend or girlfriend, but in my self i will never give to him all what i have because i know in this world keep on changing same like a weather, still i need to leave for ym self, yes im inlove but not everything he can have or she can have.to show my love is to be faithful to him,if what really yuor feeling for your loveone it will shown to your action even you say in a word.
1 person likes this
@mycharm88 (2292)
• Philippines
15 Aug 08
Yes, actions speaks louder than words as the sayng goes...inlove we have to show it and respect the person as we respect ourselves. I too does the same, i'm a one man woman and my heart belongs only to him. Thanks for sharing your thoughts dear c",)
• Philippines
3 Aug 08
I am a very demonstrative and passionate lover. When I am in love, I just make out the best of opportunity to show the person how much I love her, to make them feel always that they are special and being taken cared of. We spend a lot of time together, being open with other, helping one another in every way. Communication is important. My girl is also a sweet and passionate one so we don't have a problem. Just be true to yourself and live in the present, enjoy your life being with the one you love.
@mycharm88 (2292)
• Philippines
13 Aug 08
Wow! that is so sweet, you are both lucky to have each other. I too cannot identify how much i have been giving. I want to make him happy because he is loving me so much i could feel it. I just hoep he's the one for me. We do have plans of getting married. Good luck on your relationship, and thanks for sharing that dear. I'm happy for you both. c",) God bless and take care
@charmeyn (83)
• Philippines
3 Aug 08
When I'm in love, I love the person more than the love he's giving me. I don't really care if I've given too much. I just give my all, I don't think on how much love I've left for myself. :)
1 person likes this
@mycharm88 (2292)
• Philippines
15 Aug 08
Wow! I hope he knows that, and that you are special dear... he must be so lucky c",) thanks for responding my friend c",)
• Philippines
3 Aug 08
ah, ah, when it comes to this aspect I would really stick to my rule, 50-50.hehehhe..I know you know what I mean!hehehhehe
1 person likes this
@mycharm88 (2292)
• Philippines
15 Aug 08
Hmmm... 50-50? I cannot say if i could stick to that dear, but if you can then, good for you. Good luck and hope you'll find the right one soon. tc
@roshand8 (1481)
• Sri Lanka
3 Aug 08
Yeah I am a person who give everything I mean everything for a real love.Love is a magic..and I will change my mind a million time for love.But I want to keep it secret
1 person likes this
@mycharm88 (2292)
• Philippines
15 Aug 08
Aww... i wanna know that secret.LOL! Oh well, i do believe that it is magic and i am happy to have found magic in my partner. c",) take care always.. hugs
@Hatley (164450)
• Garden Grove, California
3 Aug 08
mycharm hi when you are really in love you give onehundred percent and you get back more thatn 100 percent as it multiplies and you get more than you gave,but if you are just in lust then I have noway of knowing how much if anything you should give. lust does not last, but love does.I am a widow now but I loved 'unconditionally and so did my husband and that was so wonderful as my own parents had never done that much. I showed my love through being there for him, cooking,cleaning, raising our' kids, and just being loving, and I got it all back all the love.
1 person likes this
@mycharm88 (2292)
• Philippines
15 Aug 08
Wow! that is so amazing hearing from you my friend. I guess i'm just confused, but i'm happy that you have shared that here dear. You are right! when we give love, we get it in return or even a hundred fold. I love your story and i wish i could be as you. Thank you so much for sharing that, your family is really lucky to have you and they must be very proud c",) Hugz and God bless you dear...
@SHAMRACK (8532)
• India
3 Aug 08
Dear friend, I do give all my positive side and tend not to give my negative side I do hope if give everything and if my love gets any hurt I too may be go done with that Hence I feel that that energy should be with me to heal my love. I keep all my mental stability of willpower and give the love of myself and sincerity in love to the person whom I love sincerely. I do also hope giving one's life cannot bring back the love but facing the love attaining it would bring love for that one needs to have something in oneself.
@mycharm88 (2292)
• Philippines
15 Aug 08
Well, it's not easy when we get hurt but as what they say it's the only way to live and truly be in love. Life is like that, a lot of emotions as we go on living. We are humans, we love, hurt but happy c",) tc dear
@elitess (5072)
• Ipswich, England
3 Aug 08
Yes, i give everything, and yes it is really painful if it turns out to be for the wrong person, but that's the only way to truly live and love. I don't like to love with half a glass and i don't think i can either - i tried it once, to be with a girl which i just didn't like just for the sake of having a relationship, and it didn't work out at all.
@mycharm88 (2292)
• Philippines
15 Aug 08
I think that is just so sweet my friend. I too want to give all my love to the person i have now, but deep inside makes me hold back. I don't know maybe i'm scared that he would still be the wrong one. But i do hope that he's the one. I'm still praying though... for guidance.lol! thanks for sharing that dear c",)
@zeny_zion (1284)
• Philippines
3 Aug 08
i can give everything when im inlove. except for my body. i want to give it to the right person. the person that im going to marry. im a very sweet person but im still using my mind when it comes to giving all.
1 person likes this
@mycharm88 (2292)
• Philippines
13 Aug 08
At least we're on the same boat dear. That's what i want too, to find the right one and in marraige i could give my all.lol! Cheers dear c",)
@izathewzia (5142)
• Philippines
3 Aug 08
I used to. Because when I am in-love then, I don't care about myself. I only care for the person i am in-love with. But now, I learned my lesson. I always reserve for myself. I now love myself equally.
@mycharm88 (2292)
• Philippines
13 Aug 08
So nice to know that you've learned from the past. Well, it has to be that way right?lol or else we'll be doing the same mistakes. I'm happy for you dear. tc always and good luck!