Why do women keep falling for the wrong guy?

China
August 2, 2008 9:41am CST
Why is it that beautiful,bright,and intelligent women seem to always fall for the guy who lies,cheat,take advantage of them?I have a female friend.She is a striking beautiful women in her mid-thirties who holds a great middle management position.She is a high regarded in her work capacity,and seen as a strong, determined women.But when she spoked to me,she was a emotional wreck,shedding tears as she expressed frustration over the latest jerk in her life!It's unfair,how do you think?
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@bamakelly (5193)
• United States
2 Aug 08
It does seem that way doesn't it. It seems that most of the intelligent women out there are falling for men who aren't right for them. It is almost like they gravitate toward them. My only explanation is that a lot of women just have a need to feel needed and accepted and become indiscriminate in their criteria in a man and will go with anybody that will show them attention. Unfortunately after a while these men have a tendency to take advantage and it ends pretty ugly.
• China
5 Aug 08
I hate the man that cheat\hurt virtuous girl.So it is necessary for the girl to assess carefully before she marry.Perhaps,you are right,I wish all the women can have a right man in her life!
@academic2 (7009)
• Uganda
2 Aug 08
Simple answer, they overvalue themselves and search pass the real men who love them for real-the put high standards over their heads and keep trashing real men in love-as they look for cosmetic men-in the end thy land men who have every thing except true love! Lokk at Princess Dianna-why would anybody have made such a beauty to sleep in the Master bedroom alone? Why? If Diannah had married an ordinary loving man like Dodi, they probably would have been very happy and Lucky!
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• China
5 Aug 08
yup,it is pity for Princess Dianna.My friend is just like her.Why do the same thing always "patronage" the good person?
• United States
2 Aug 08
Women fall for jerks instead of good guys because jerks possess the qualities that automatically make women attracted to them. Women can't help not falling for them because the attraction is created. Attraction isn't a choice when your emotions take over. Your friend probably doesn't like what her boyfriend does but i bet he has the attractive qualites that make her stick around.
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@shanemre (357)
• Saudi Arabia
2 Aug 08
There's nothing really wrong with your friend, it's just that she finds out late that she's falling for the wrong guy. When you're in love, you close your eyes for the things you have to see. When you truly love a person, you accept. That's what she does, she keeps on accepting the man she falls in love with. She keeps on thinking that the new found person will entirely be different with the last jerk. ... there's nothing really wrong, its just that the right love has not found its way yet... but of course, she can't be making the same mistakes, she has to learn also and prevent doing the same mistakes and keep hurting herself in the end for the wrong person.
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• India
2 Aug 08
I think women dont know what they need and how love life should be. I too seen so many girls falling in love with wrong guy. As per my study i understood that it is easy to impress a girl. what you need are you be talkie, should have sense of humor, and should make her believe that you are caring. girls never think and do because they dont have that much of capability fro their minds. Girls have no reasons to like someone because they never think.
• China
3 Aug 08
as long as you love her
• China
3 Aug 08
as long as you love her
@reckon21 (3486)
• Philippines
3 Aug 08
Simple, love is blind. It covers the eyes to see the hidden flaws in every person. The heart doesn't think, it just feels the emotion. Nothing more. Even if the mind dis-agree. The heart persisted. Since the heart rules, she always wins. But guys like him who cheats is just a waste of time. He is not worth it. She is very pretty and intelligent. She will be back on her own any given time. Let her cry because that's normal. We do that all the time.
• China
5 Aug 08
I think so!They can see the merit only when they are in love,so much faults can be accepted,so,the result for marrying is that!
• Philippines
3 Aug 08
how sad...its ok...it means, that guy is not worthy of her love...and she should be thankful for that experiences because she can be a better person as she mingle with other people...learn from her own mistakes...
• Philippines
3 Aug 08
yeah...its not the end of the world..cheer up!!! everything has a purpose and the purpose is worht living...
@mandykaren (2040)
2 Aug 08
Sadly i am like that :( every time fall for wrong one and only end up getting badly hurt.. Was in long term relationship with a man that lie, drunk too much and could be violent.. Then i almost do it again . i prefer nice warm man, and thats what i want, but it only becomes too good a friendship that i not want to spoil that by taking it further or maybe i get scared i don't know.. i also want to feel needed, and i suppose someone colder and so on its more work, and the more work you just find yourself getting deeper and deeper.. I am trying very hard to not fall for wrong one again, but finding myself pushing all away.. I think i become cold myself now.. You see, because i need to feel wanted, a wrong man will give you all you need until got you where they want, and dont care then, becoming heartless, then after that you see the real person.. his true colours.. But a sweet man dont do this, and so you unsure whether he do like you, as dont admit it as maybe scarred or think you wouldnt be interested and not want to spoil friendship.
• China
5 Aug 08
I'm sad to hear that you falled a wrong guy.I hope that you can walk out the unhappy shadow .Whatever the good man is always existant,don,t worry it excessively.All the best wishes to you!
• United States
31 Oct 08
I guess she is attracted to the bad guy. Why? Because they are exciting. It is more exciting for some women to have a guy who won't call or show up on time.If a nice guy asks them out, they won't go because they think he is boring. It is sad.
@lazeebee (5466)
• Malaysia
3 Aug 08
It could be strong, determined women always feel that they can trust their instincts and intelligence, just as they are often right about their business decisions. So at the beginning of every relationship, even when they know that the man is no good, they feel that they can manage the man and the relationship just as they can manage their work.
• Philippines
3 Aug 08
Hi! Women are basically emotional. When it comes to love, women follow their hearts. But this does'nt mean that women who follow their hearts have poor judgment or are blinded by what they see in a man. Breach of trust, betrayal, and false hopes are risks that may arise in a relationship, and the pain that comes with these is numbing to a woman's bruised heart, regardless of how smart, intelligent, or successful she is in other aspects of her life. So I guess, its not really a matter of "right guy" or "wrong guy" in a failed relationship. As they say, it takes two to tango. Right? Have a nice one sunny!
@kianli (546)
• China
3 Aug 08
Believe it or not, this do exist in our daily life despite race and religion. Here in China, we even have an old saying like "Nan bu huai, Nv bu ai" Means, ladies love bad guys. So it's unfair to both ladies and those unlucky gentlemen. It's really hard to find out the reason logically, because that doesn't make sense! But my friend told me that as we are all animals, think about this there might be some kind of answer. Female like strong male, ones that are dominant, ones that have male attraction, or whatever, because of biological factors, these women like bad guys. This is simply a quotation from a friend of mine. Have a nice day!
• United States
3 Aug 08
I wonder the same thing all the time. I have two beautiful daughters, ages 19 and 23. They are smart, funny, each works two jobs, both are going to college. They both have a couple guys each that are very interested in dating them. And these guys seem very nice, good looking, have decent jobs and are very respectable. "So what's the problem?" one might ask. Instead of dating any of these great guys, the girls seem to go after the ones that seem to be drunk half the time, jump from job to job, call them when they feel like it which could be a week or more. How frustrating it is to watch my girls chase after these guys. They literally treat the girls like dirt. So in answer to your question..I don't know. I have been trying to figure it out for awhile now. I thought low self esteem but they both assured me that is not an issue. I wonder if they like the chase? They don't settle down with a guy that is interested but chase after the ones that wont be pinned down for even a phone call. Good luck in finding an answer.
• Australia
3 Aug 08
man I can relate to that as I do the same thing. When I am getting to know a person, I fall and I fall hard and before I know it I am in a relationship where I dont know how to get out of it, and think it is best to stay in it because I am scared of being alone. Maybe that is what your friend is doing. Maybe because she is seen as a strong and determined lady, the men she gets involved with may walk all over her because of how strong she really is. Relationships arent easy, just as long as your friend has someone to talk to, that will be good for her!
• Philippines
3 Aug 08
Admittedly, we women are so emotional. If men are the heads, then we are the hearts. This is the very reaosn why we usually have mistakes in choosing the right guy. We are easy to please. But for me that must not be a problem. god created us like that and we have to embrace it. Based on my personal experience, I was spared from this common mistakr coz I allowed God to choose a partner for me. Besides, there's no perfect person. Everybody has his own scratches. But if we let God do the "thing", we'll surely end to a blissful relationship.
@charmeyn (83)
• Philippines
3 Aug 08
You're friend just haven't met the right guy for him. Getting hurt is just part of life. She may be shedding tears right now but for sure when he'd found the right guy, she would be very happy. :)
• China
3 Aug 08
I think the beautiful,bright,and intelligent women ,no ,every woman always likes be pursued and the feelings of superiority.Whereas the wrong guy always is the right person who can fullfill the women' desirability.
@slepart (207)
• Philippines
3 Aug 08
This are my analysis on why do girls keep on falling with the wrong man... First of all, men don't always cheat, but when they do, here are some possible reasons: 1.They are not ready to have commitments. 2.They no longer feel satisfied/stimulated in their current relationship. 3.They need to feel desired and their partner does not fulfill that need. 4.Men are sometimes single-minded and don't think about the consequences of their actions. 5.Lack of or poor communication with boyfriend/girlfriend can lead each party to cheat.
@ystel13 (18)
• Philippines
3 Aug 08
Yes its unfair, but as a famous line says "opposite attracts" right?. we shouldn't blame her it's not a fault to fall in love, its just that everyone has to face world's reality of today. let's not just look at the negative side of it, there's a positive effect too. Through her wrong decisions she was able to learn, it is at least the next time she'll fall in love she will know how to deal with it. Good luck to her search.
• Nepal
3 Aug 08
This is the law that positive and negative attracted to each other so this happens. All beautiful women are like by all people but most of them fall to bad guy. I also agree with you I have also experienced this matter so made my mind this sort of idea. The love chaps are always proud of their beauty but they can't understand their own value so they fall to bad guy in search of good guy.