would you share a bank account with your boyfriend?

Philippines
August 2, 2008 12:12pm CST
life is too uncertain and things tend to get ugly when there is money involved... so would you still share banks accounts with him?
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14 responses
@nanciem (1106)
• United States
2 Aug 08
Nope! Never again! I had one with my ex-fiance and he used our over draft, we broke up.. he took off and I was tuck paying the 2,500.00 (plus fees) for his charges, just to keep my credit clear.
• Philippines
2 Aug 08
you learn from your lessons huh, but i totally agree with you that it is a no no... thanks for the post!!!
• Philippines
3 Aug 08
so sorry to hear that!!!!
@nanciem (1106)
• United States
3 Aug 08
Aww TY it's ok now :)
@shiloh_222 (5480)
• Philippines
3 Aug 08
hi there... how sensitive is the topic of money... i guess only married couples should share... hehhee...
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• Philippines
3 Aug 08
it is.. what i am thinking is.. even if i am married i won't share my bank account with my husband... though i am going to share with his bank account.LOL. thanks for the post.
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• Philippines
3 Aug 08
hahahah..okay..that's a good idea... hahhahaha
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• Philippines
3 Aug 08
q wife is a responsibility of the husband and not the other way around... LOL. just my two cents.. hehhehehe
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• Malaysia
3 Aug 08
Hie Kenchiprincess, even if I am married I would still prefer to have my own account. And a mere boyfriend will not have any better advantage either. As you said, life is full of uncertainties and we, girls have to think of ourselves if any mishaps happen. But I would surely like my future husband to let me share his account for the sense of security as mine will always be mine while his is mine as well too Cheers,
• Philippines
3 Aug 08
i like your way of thinking!!! LOL. thanks for the post!!!
• Malaysia
6 Aug 08
You are welcomeBest wishes to you. Cheers,
@shlooper (309)
• United States
3 Aug 08
I would not share a bank account with my boyfriend. It isn't that I don't trust him, it is that I am a control freak. Plus, a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship getting a bank account together seems dangerous to me. It is too easy for one or the other to leave and take all the money then it becomes a case of "he said/she said". I won't get a joint bank account until I am married, and even then, I plan on having a separate savings account. One thing that being married adds is that in a divorce, someone else is involved in dividing up the assets, its more difficult to just take everything and leave.
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• Philippines
3 Aug 08
it really feels good with a woman if have financial independence... it is not a question of trust but again it is our security that is in store. thanks for the post!!
• United States
2 Aug 08
well that's tough question to answer, a relationship should be about trust, and you should trust each other enough to share a bank account, but... and this is a big but... I was in a relationship and thought about getting a joint account I mean why not we did have a child together and were even talking about marriage, soon after my son was born we split up and that got ugly. I'm in a new relationship now, we've been together almost 3 years now and also have a child together, and even though I love and trust him very much I probably would never get a joint account with him, there's always that uncertainty like you said. even if we were married that's why they have a prenuptial agreement.
• Philippines
2 Aug 08
thanks for the post. :) have a great weekend ahead of you.
• United States
2 Aug 08
i think it is a very healthy thing for each person to have their own bank account. people can help each other out when agreed to. and then if someone messes up he or she doesn't affect another person.
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• Philippines
2 Aug 08
it feels good if we have financial freedom and not other people controlling on our finances... thanks for the post!!!
• United States
6 Aug 08
Has nothing to do with trust if they dont. If both sides handle their own funds and expenses, nothing wrong with paying thru two accts. Each person is in charge of how much they spend on their own and it doesnt affect the other person since they have seperate accts.
• Philippines
6 Aug 08
i agree, i agree.. thanks for the post!!!
@Dsraven (151)
• United States
2 Aug 08
my Dom and i have a checking account and a savings account together..it all comes down to trust and honest i suppose...neither one of us would keep the other away from the account or if we did break-up we would just split the $...and i know this as a fact because at one point we did talk about breaking up and how we were going to handle all the finances, house and things...
• Philippines
3 Aug 08
what is good with you and your partner is that you really talks and you trust each other a lot. thanks for the post!!!!
• United States
2 Aug 08
No i would share one with my boyfriend.. now i would share one with my husband.. I think that you should share a bank account with a boyfriend... He could do something to your money... I would want someone that i didn't know share a bank account with me.. Personally i would be scared of him stealing my money and stuff like that..
• Philippines
3 Aug 08
i totally agree with you. thanks for the post!!!
@lrglara (1343)
• Philippines
2 Aug 08
i would not recommend this to someone... actually to everyone. its not a matter of distrust. i am not saying that i do not trust my bf when it comes to money. its just that we've done this before and it never works out. we tend to obligate the other person to contribute to our savings. in the end, we just withdrew all the money and have it separately. i have a system of saving money and he has his own. we tend to clash because i cannot accept his idea. up to now, he still tries to convince me to have joint accounts... i always say "NO"...
• Philippines
2 Aug 08
thanks for the post!!! i commend you for you stand not to share bank accounts with your bf!!!
@LimoChang (193)
• China
2 Aug 08
No,of course.I think it's really important to keep financial independence to avoid unnecessary troubles.Like what you said,life is too uncertain.Also,i don't want the money issue to come in between us and our relationship too soon.So i definitely wouldn't share bank accounts with him,at least till we are ready to commit to each other.
• Philippines
2 Aug 08
i know a lot of married couple who have their back accounts separate.. i feels good to have financial independence as what you have said. thanks for the post.
• Philippines
6 Aug 08
If he is just a boy friend, not a husband? I would definitely say.. no. I would sahre bank account to my husband not to a boy friend.
@delabam (97)
• Canada
6 Aug 08
i would share my bank account with my husband but there 's no way i would share my bank account with my boyfriend.
@rocker21 (2717)
• India
2 Aug 08
There must be trust but not BLIND BELIEF in some one. Tats where people get stuck on. They forget what they are doing and hand over like they dont need it. Especially girls do that alot. Coz they are innocent mostly!(not all).