Now he's back!!!

@chechuva (1276)
Philippines
August 3, 2008 4:52am CST
just few days ago, i shared that my boyfriend is not coming back, he's not talking to me in 5 days and our relationship is ending.... now he's BACK! he just arrived yesterday, without even saying anything to me! i was so surprised that he came back without me knowing! He doesn't have any intention to surprise me. im just lucky that i discovered that he is back.. i asked him to meet me, but he made excuses that he needs to be home. i asked him to go to my place and he said it's far! i asked him how about tomorrow, he said he don't know.. he might go back in Dubai again... i'm crying right now! i just want to slap his face and let him feel that he's hurting me! he's so insensitive! he doesn't care about me! now tell me, is he worth waiting!
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47 responses
@a3sachin (531)
• India
3 Aug 08
first thing you have to do is ditch him. come on gal... there is more to life than crying over someone who doesn't care bout you... you cant lose what you never had. i would suggest you talk to him. one last time.... ask him what the hell is wrong wit him... if he doesn't respond. SCREW HIM! think of him as just another jerk. look baby, hez not interested in the relationship... not because you lack in some way but because he so immature and he does know the value of your smile. he lost someone who cares bout him. all you did was love him.... that aint no crime.... then y is it that you have to be sad? Dont be.... time heals everything.... trust me a few days from now u will realize what a waste of time it was to be with him... remind yourself that hez not worth being wit u. that loser doesnt have the guts to come n talk to u bout this. I know how you feel. it will hurt for a few days. just keep yourself happy. dont be alone. remember, you are special in your own way.
@KCash69 (37)
• United States
3 Aug 08
Cut your losses have a good cry slash his tires and move on.
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@mialei23 (2386)
• Philippines
3 Aug 08
Hi chechuva, my fiend well it's all clear that he doesn't make any effort to see you. In the first place If he came back here in the Philippines I guess you have the right to know it. And of course, If he still interested to meet and see you, you don't have to beg for him to visit your place. My friend, please be strong and just confront him and do what you want and say. You have the right to express your feelings because, this is not right that he's taking you for granted. Why don't he just tell you what he want. Girl, you deserve some one better. Take good care my friend and hang on and be brave. God bless.
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@stephcjh (32327)
• United States
3 Aug 08
I would not wait on him for nothing. I have been through this several times when I was younger. Either he wants to be with you ro he doesn't. Guys like to play that game and keep you hanging on for a long time. Some of them just won't come out and say they aren't interested. They like for us to keep begging them to be with us. Most of them are players when they do that to us. There are better men than him in the world. I know he is hurting you but he will continue to do so if you allow him to. I know from experience. I know it hurts to move on but sometimes that is the best thing to do. If you are meant to be with him, then he will wake up and realise it and come to you. Bless your heart.
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• Japan
3 Aug 08
hes not worth it at all! what kind of boyfriend is that? just ditch him and find a better bf :)
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@SomeCowgirl (32270)
• United States
3 Aug 08
no offense intended, sweetheart, but it appears to me that he is not so much back as he is jut back in town. I think the best thing for you to do, at least what I can suggest with such little information, is that you move on and forget about this guy.
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@academic2 (7009)
• Uganda
3 Aug 08
I think chech.. you dont need to be a rocket scientist to know that this man does not love you anymore-it is not surprising that he was simply avoiding you, he knew he was coming home, but did not want to meet you, my advise is that accept this situation and find another smart guy and show him off in his face-dont let him hurt you anylonger-just move on with your life-otherwise he will fool you into stress needlessly.
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@a3sachin (531)
• India
3 Aug 08
i wouldnt suggest you get another guy just to show off... u dont want to end up doing to this new guy what your loser ex did to u.... be carefull.... the best ting u can do right now is to not think bout it.... i know it can be hard...
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@academic2 (7009)
• Uganda
3 Aug 08
I agree with your oppinion entirely
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• China
3 Aug 08
Hi, sweetie, just ask directly what he wants? if he wants to continue the relationship or not? if the answer is yes, tell him that you are not satisfied with him in this behavior, ask him to improve, or you will reconsider this relationship, if the answer is No,forget him. I know it hurts, but this is only way to move on...
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@gemini_rose (16194)
3 Aug 08
OK, without meaning to sound too harsh and without trying to be too blunt I would say that he has no intentions of being with you. But also he has no intentions of doing the decent thing and letting you know. He is leaving you hanging on and probably enjoying the fact that you are running after him. He probably had no intentions of letting you know he was in town. To be honest with you, and I know that this might be hard but set a test to yourself. Do not chase him no more, leave it, let him come to you. If he does not come to you take it as the sign that the relationships over.
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@mentalward (14695)
• United States
3 Aug 08
You must forget about him! It is obvious that he doesn't care about you, or he would have been more sensitive to your feelings. Since he came back without telling you first, and he had no intention to surprise you, he is making it clear that you are not important to him. I am so sorry that this has to be so blunt but I believe we all tried to warn you about him in an earlier post of yours. I know that, where matters of the heart are concerned, it is hard to take advice when that advice is contrary to what our heart feels. But you must see this with your brain and not your heart. People can only hurt us if we allow them to. It doesn't look to me like he is trying to hurt you intentionally. He is going about it the wrong way, however. He should tell you straight out what his intentions are. But even if he did, I think you already know what he would say to you. Do not allow him to hurt you any longer! See him for what he is, and what he isn't. He is selfish and only thinking of himself. How can you possibly care for a person like that? There would only be a future of pain and sadness if you were married to him! Even now, you are crying; and for what? A selfish man who only cares about himself! You need to realize that there is no future here in order to be able to heal from this pain. Only then can you move on to a better future. The right man for you is there... probably wondering where you are! You will meet him when the time is right. I know it! So, dry your eyes, hold your head up and look forward to a MUCH better future with the right person!
@a3sachin (531)
• India
3 Aug 08
Dont insult your hand by slapping him! :D lol Enough has been said bout the sad situation. Ive already commented before. hope u read it. Now you know what to do. come on ppl, lets put a smile back into this gal`s face n let her know that we are wit her.:) We are all waiting for a smile from you :) right guys? SMILE SMILE SMILE :)
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@dhangski (3194)
• Philippines
3 Aug 08
Move on my friend. He's not worth the wait. The excuses that he says to you is a sign that he doesn't love and care for you anymore. Because if he still loves you, he exert an effort to tell you that he's coming back or go and see you though it's far. You deserve a good and loving man my friend. If you had a chance to talk to him, tell him what you really feel. Ask him if he wanted to continue your relationship. Tell him to be honest with his intentions and feelings towards you. Good luck. Don't cry anymore, we your friends are here to give you our never ending support and advice. HUGZ!
@scaflone8 (191)
• Philippines
3 Aug 08
uhmm i think he is no longer interested or he does not love you anymore my dear. Move on and leave that stupid guy. A guy like that doesn't deserve anything from you. At the end of the day he will realize how much of a jerk he is to leave someone who loved him for so long. Leave him Girl and move On!
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• United States
3 Aug 08
No he is not worth waiting for. He has made it clear that he doesn't want a relationship with you. I would not waste my time on him. I know you are hurting right now but he is being insensitive about your feelings. It sounds like he has no intention of getting together with you again. I feel sorry that you are hurting but sometimes it is better to find out sooner than later.
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@tammytwo (4303)
• United States
3 Aug 08
Move on with your life and don't let him control it. I say this from experience and years of living.
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• China
3 Aug 08
I think maybe at first you should not take so much to care to him , if there are some changes ?i can stand under a person who dn't take care of me ,if he do ,i will do that he do and i will let he to feel what i feel. maybe you should told him your feeling ,and attantion if he is still care you ,good luck!
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@shanemre (357)
• Saudi Arabia
3 Aug 08
you know what do you girl... just, let him go. I mean he is insensitive enough to let you know that, you're not that important to him anymore. You deserve more than this. you don't deserve a man like that. I know you love him, but will you continue loving a person like this? He doesn't even care about how you feel. He left without telling you where he's going. Now, he's back without you knowing, and he doesn't even cared to visit you and let you know he's safe. No he's not worth waiting, and he's not worth your love either. You deserve someone better. Continue with life, you have your friends and family, and surely, the right love will come soon.
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3 Aug 08
no
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@n30wing (4771)
• Philippines
3 Aug 08
Is he still here? Why don't you see him, really face him, if you really wanna talk and straighten everything find a way. Then feeling that way! Now it's up to you if you wanna slap his face. I think his making excuses not to see you. When their is a lot of excuses he doesn't want too. I hope you don't mind me asking you what was the real issue of your last talk. Sorry for asking. God be with you!
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@ketan_ (39)
• India
3 Aug 08
wel.......dear im nt gonna disturb u ,,,,but ......i think u hv never been his choice he was using ........u ,just for killing his time....,,these hatred excuses r a sign of his flirtness nt insenstivness dear.....,,, dn't be so bent to him so wht ur life hasn't ended here ur hv more to enjoy in rest of ur life ..........come on cheer up dear....chechuva
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