I think I am having my second child

Philippines
August 3, 2008 8:37am CST
Hi. I think I will be having my second child since my wife hasn't has her period visit her for the month. She's three weeks delayed and we're somehow disappointed since it was an unplanned child, though I am excited too. Well, the thing is, we're having financial breakdowns and we think that we are not that ready to support a second child. We are just earning around 50,000 pesos or almost 1000 USD per month. But despite the fact that we might end up poorer, I still believe that children are blessings from the Lord. Some are actually trying to have one and here we are, fearing that we may have another one. Shame on us.
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@maryannemax (12174)
• Sweden
3 Aug 08
it's not really a "shame on you" kind of deal. as you've said, kids are blessings, right? so, just be thankful that you will be having a new baby after a few months. think of it positively so things will turn out better for you and your family. 50 thousand pesos a month in the philippines is really quite good. try to cut out on some of your expenses for the sake of the baby. you know... make some few adjustments and sacrifices. good luck!
• Philippines
4 Aug 08
I was ashamed of myself not because I am having a second baby but because of I am worrying a lot despite of my confessional faith to God. Thanks though. God bless. I just hope that we can finally manage our finances properly. ^_^
@subha12 (18472)
• India
4 Aug 08
it may be. see a doctor and then may be you can come into any conclusion. congrats any way. it will be all ok if the child comes.you are thinking but may be you can try to earn more in many ways.
• Philippines
4 Aug 08
Yeah thanks, As of the moment, I'm hoping that this time God would give me a daughter so we can have a ligation. ^_^ A son-daughter partner-siblings would make a good end for producing offsprings. Thanks though for your response.
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@riyasam (16582)
• India
4 Aug 08
yea,a son-daughter is a good combination.
• Philippines
4 Aug 08
Hi Jaypee ! I am married for almost two years now buddy but God hasnt been given me a child yet, which I long so much, but its okay, I still have to wait, He has His purpose with mine. But to you my friend, God has blest you! As Steve Green puts it, children are a treasure from the Lord, the Bible did also affirmed it to be truly a blessing. Its very wonderful to think that God has given you this baby since he would be born and raised in a Christian home and God-fearing parents, isnt that great ? I wish many of us would raise a next generation of people like ourselves. On the financial aspect, if you seen God has fed you this far, Why can't He in the next years to come? Worst comes to worst, the Bible did say that he never saw righteous man hungry. (Proverbs 10:3) We look into the things that we think could cripple us, God is there, He is greater than us, praise Him for that, our God is good at all times ! Amen bro? Send my hugs and blessings to your wife. Your Unashamed buddy, torch
• Philippines
4 Aug 08
Thanks. I just realized that I am being unfair with God. With all His grace and endless proofs of feeding me. I'm so stupid not to trust Him this time. Anyway, thanks. With all of the responses here, I'm so overwhelmed to know that God really speaks in different ways. First with the brethren in my local church then here in the forums. I just wanna say that I am now more excited than worried. All because of you folks took a chance of encouraging me. God bless. ^_^
• Philippines
4 Aug 08
Thanks for the BR, its a bonus actually, thanks again
• Kuwait
3 Aug 08
hello friend...i don't think you should get dissapointed for this...its a gift from god...i know about the financial conditions you are talking...but still want to tell you not to feel dissapointed and curse the child in any manner...try to work more harder than you usually do and everything will be fine...maybe the child will bring good luck to you and your family...and there is nothing to feel shamed about it...it's only your second child....don't worry everything will be fine...have faith in god...if he is going to bring a life in this world he must be having a way to feed him...thru you.
• Philippines
3 Aug 08
Hey thanks for the encouragement. My wife badly needs those things like those. ^_^
• Kuwait
3 Aug 08
anytime buddy....and tell your wife not to worry...and if it's positive...congrats in advance.
• United States
23 Aug 08
Everyone has made excellent points and I have to say hearing your response makes me have a better outlook on the human race. It's great hearing someone speak of God the way you do.... In my own life I unexpectedly had another baby and wasn't financially prepared for, but through the grace of God we have made it so far. It's hard don't get me wrong I have a daughter that will turn 2 in October and I just had another daughter, she is 3mths old right now. She's the greatest gift God could have ever given me. I was so worried before she came, but the moment I laid eyes on her I was extremely thankful! She is by far the best baby I have ever seen. Paying for two babies in diapers and 2 daycares is very tough, but luckily some how I am making it. Have faith and everything always seems to work out. Good luck and congratulations.
• Philippines
25 Aug 08
Thanks. I actually had my Ob-Gyne check my wife tonight. And she was diagnosed to have an ultrasound check for the baby's grip. Thanks again...
@Jenaisle (3803)
• Philippines
7 Aug 08
Yes children are gifts from God, so you must be thankful instead. They're the joy of our lives. Without them , life would be dull. You'll survive. Cheers.
• Philippines
25 Aug 08
Yeah thanks...
• United States
4 Aug 08
I think this is a positive outlook and you should be delighted that you maybe haveing your second child. I look at it as a gift from god you may have financial worries right now but please know that god takes care of what belongs to him. He has helped me in many times of need that I have really doubted things and he saw them through. Just last night for instants I was at my breakingpoint and was all confused,angry,physically and emotionally drained about a bunch of things that I felt have come crashing down on me. I went to bed and must have tossed and turned for 3 hrs. when I decieded to come out to the living room just sit down and spill my heart out to god about everything. Yes I cried for about 45 minutes but I told god "you know my heart and life better than I do you have plans for me what ever they maybe. I know I am just trying to do things all on my own not knowing what or where I am going and I can finealy say god tht I need your help and am comeing to you now knowing that you are going to help me out of these lost feelings I am having. I am handing over everything to you now knowing that you will provide for me that you always have and always will" I would just sit and truely talk with god asking him for guidence on all of this and trust him knowing that if you are to have your second child all will be ok for god will see it through nothing is impossible for him. I do wish you and your wife the best of luck and congradulations to you both if this what's in store for you. Take care and god bless :)
• Philippines
4 Aug 08
Thanks for sharing. I've learned more about myself and how I poorly view my God because of this site. THanks again.
@Hatley (137840)
• Garden Grove, California
3 Aug 08
hi jaypeemanuel congrats ahead and dont worry you and your'wife will somehow make it,but I would recommend birth control now so you do not have a third child until you could afford it. birth control pills do work, and you will be able to plan whether you do or do not want a third child.We did not plan and had two' children in ten months apart when we really could only afford'one but we did make it.Then I went on birth control as we had all we could a fford.
• Philippines
4 Aug 08
The problem with pills is that my wife's biological set up is not conducive to it. She may die with that's why we had to take other chances which are naturally more prone to pregnancy. Though, I actually have trashed my worries. I am now more thankful than worried. All because of you folks opened my mind. Thanks a lot and stay blessed. ^_^
@djoyce71 (2512)
• Philippines
3 Aug 08
You must thank God, you still earn 50 000. Other people could not even have a fourth of that money in a month. You must thank God, you have given the chance to have children when other couples, like us, were not lucky to have. You must thank God for that blessing. Good luck.
• Philippines
4 Aug 08
That's actually what i told my wife. Anyway, thanks. I got convicted by your message and ashamed too. Thanks anyway, God bless.
@rrdj71 (696)
• United States
3 Aug 08
You have really touched my heart because this is the same situation that I was in 14 years ago when I got pregnant with my 2nd child but I stuck it through and I am SO glad I did Wednesday she will be 14 and she is a BLESSING just like her older sister. It will be worth the struggle TRUST ME God NEVER forsakes His children.
• Philippines
4 Aug 08
I hope that my second child will prove him/herself more than a blessing, just as how my first became a blessing. My first is my medicine to my tiresome body after work. ^_^ Thanks.. I really appreciate it.
@babystar1 (4236)
• United States
3 Aug 08
congrats on your second child. I had four children myself and my husband worked many hours to just pay the bills. Everything worked out just fine for us. Everything will be ok, just take one day at a time.
• Philippines
4 Aug 08
Thanks for your thoughts. I just hope that I can do it. God's still there. Thanks for your reminders. ^_^
@kezabelle (2986)
3 Aug 08
Dont feel bad for fearing what might be when you have a second child, if money is a worry then of course having another child will make you worry even more, but everthing has a way of working out so try not to worry too much. Congratulations!!!
• Philippines
4 Aug 08
Thanks. I've never been encouraged since I expressed my worry here in mylot. Thanks, really.
@maximax8 (27055)
3 Aug 08
Yes, a baby is a blessing and bringing up a second child is easier it is also cheaper if you already have baby things. It might be possible for your wife to feed the baby in a natural way and for the baby to wear washable nappies. He or she will grow up in a loving family and having two children on a budget is possible. Good luck to you and your wife. I hope that things work out well for you.
• Philippines
4 Aug 08
Thanks for your encouragement. I'm now being more excited than being worried. I'm glad that I mylotters can encourage their fellows here. ^_^
@sasheikh (69)
• India
4 Aug 08
Hello friend I dont know your religion , I am an muslim and we belive in the verces of the holy Quran "Almighty Allah" saying that It is all the dessision of Almighty that whome when and where Allah brings in the world and before his/her appearence in the world ,Allah all his/her expences are send to the one.
@riyasam (16582)
• India
4 Aug 08
well first,congrats,children are definetly a gift from god but as a mother myself i can understand your anxiety to give the best to your child.