Will your spouse use your computer when you are absent?

@youless (86613)
Guangzhou, China
August 3, 2008 10:26am CST
My laptop is better than my husband's. He seldom uses my laptop anyway as I "occupy" it all the time. Since I had an operation and I wasn't at home for more than a week. Now I am back and I am surprised that he didn't use my laptop at all It's no problem for him to use my laptop and I don't have any secrets. Perhaps he still respects my privacy
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@Hatley (157858)
• Garden Grove, California
4 Aug 08
youless you have a really great husband. we did not have a computer when I was married and I would have loved to havehad one but he was not into electronics at all. woe is me. Now I have a omputer and my son has one too. I never have used his computer as I am used to my own.he has put more bells and whistle on his than there is on mine.mycomputer is my love.
@youless (86613)
• Guangzhou, China
4 Aug 08
Thanks for your response.
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@maryannemax (12174)
• Sweden
4 Aug 08
my boyfriend and i shares one laptop at home. but he respects my privacy a lot. there are even times when i give him my passwords in some of my accounts but he won't want to open it himself. i don't find any problem sharing the same computer or laptop for as long as two people respect each other's boundaries. anyway, i hope you are feeling better now.
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@youless (86613)
• Guangzhou, China
4 Aug 08
That's a good boyfriend
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@checapricorn (16072)
• United States
3 Aug 08
Hi youless, We shared our Pc since I gave my laptop to my sister! He is not also opening my email and I am very sure about it but we both know our own password! He will ask me sometimes to check his mail but, I will not check it when I will not be asked for... My husband will not also open any my cellphone! It is nice really when there is so much trust! UNlike other situation, a lot of headache for nonsense jealousy! LOL!
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@youless (86613)
• Guangzhou, China
4 Aug 08
It's good to have a husband that trusts you so much
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• Croatia (Hrvatska)
3 Aug 08
i will have nothing against using my computer from anyone other except me, but i would like that all my files stay as they are ... nothing in the trash can, i mean :)
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@youless (86613)
• Guangzhou, China
4 Aug 08
Sure, that's the most important
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• United States
3 Aug 08
I only sit at the computer when im at home, i dont sit on the couches or at the kitchen table..if im not in the kitchen, in the bathroom, or sleeping, this is where you find me, if i am at home. Hubby wakes up long before i do to go to work, so he gets online, or if im not home he is on here, but he knows the minute i wake up or walk in the door, he better move it or lose it..lol
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@youless (86613)
• Guangzhou, China
4 Aug 08
That's very interesting.
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@riyasam (16582)
• India
3 Aug 08
that is good.he respects your privacy.i have seen spouses taking each others things for granted once they are married.my hubby would use the computer as when he finds it unoccupied by me.
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@youless (86613)
• Guangzhou, China
4 Aug 08
Thanks for your response.
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@faith210 (11233)
• Philippines
4 Aug 08
Hi youless! My husband does not use my laptop since his PC is better than mine. haha..However, I really don't mind if he uses mine for I have nothing to hide either. But at this time, it is me who is using his PC since my laptop need some repairs or maybe needed to be replaced already. haha..I haven't been active here lately and I am just sneaking here in mylot for a few minutes each day because my husband has so much work with his PC. Anyway, I am glad that you are fine now after the operation. I hope you will be a hundred percent well my friend! Take care always..God Bless!
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@youless (86613)
• Guangzhou, China
4 Aug 08
Thanks for your concern even if you use the computer for a short time lately.
@gemini_rose (16194)
15 Aug 08
I have a desktop computer, hubby has his own laptop. The desktop is on all the time, so sometimes he will go on the desktop when I am doing something else and just check his emails or go on his websites to save getting his own out. But other than that he never goes on mine.
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@youless (86613)
• Guangzhou, China
16 Aug 08
I am surprised your desktop is on all the time, do you let it work as a server?
@gemini_rose (16194)
16 Aug 08
No, I turn it on in the morning and then it is on all day, so when I get a few minutes spare or whatever I can just get on it!
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@ahgong (10086)
• Singapore
5 Aug 08
Being married, and sharing all our stuff most of the time, I wouldn't mind if my wife uses my computer. Like you said, there are no secrets between us. So, no reason why she cannot use it in my absence. As long as she puts it back where it belongs so that I do not need to go hunting for it when I want to use it, I am fine.
@youless (86613)
• Guangzhou, China
5 Aug 08
Will you also share your expensive DSLR with your wife? I think so
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@ahgong (10086)
• Singapore
6 Aug 08
Yes I do. In fact, some of the shots in the pictures I shared for my honeymoon, is taken by her. When it comes to marriage, there is no longer the your-thing, my-thing concept. It is usually out of respect that we do not touch or use anything which the other deemed precious. And this respect is usually mutual. But if the spouse were to want to use it, there should not be a reason why she cannot. Cos in a marriage, you SHARE! no?
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@williamjisir (22909)
• China
4 Aug 08
Good evening, dear youless. I don't care my laptop to be used by my wife and my son, though my wife has one of hers, which is better than mine. I asked her to use mine because this summer vacation, I love to use it in the sitting room as it is spacious and cooler. But I do not use my lap top in the morning. I usually it in late afternoon and evening for some time. Good night, youless.
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@youless (86613)
• Guangzhou, China
4 Aug 08
You are a good husband
• China
5 Aug 08
Thank you so much for your nice comment, dear youless. Good day.
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@Muelitz (1592)
• Canada
7 Aug 08
The laptop that I own is our conjugal property so my wife is free to use it anytime it is free. She does not have to seek my permission to use it. She only has to ask me if the computer or laptop she wants to use is owned by the company I work for. SFC
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@youless (86613)
• Guangzhou, China
15 Aug 08
Thanks for your response.
• Saint Lucia
6 Aug 08
my wife isn't a computer fan but she would take a snick pick at any oppurtunity to run through my computer.
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@youless (86613)
• Guangzhou, China
7 Aug 08
Thanks for your response.
@gabbana (1815)
• China
4 Aug 08
I won't mind people using my pc, but surely i do mind people peeking my little secret. fortunately i use my pc all by myself.
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@youless (86613)
• Guangzhou, China
4 Aug 08
That's good.
@palonghorn (5490)
• United States
4 Aug 08
It wouldn't matter if my s/o used my laptop when I wasn't around, or even if I was, but he never does. It's not like we don't have enough computers around here, 2 desktops and 2 laptops, his laptop is his work computer though. I'm sure that even if I was gone for a few days or a week, he wouldn't even think of using my laptop, for whatever reason, unless I told him too lol. I told him when I bought it that he was free to use it whenever he wanted, but he never has unless we were looking up something together lol. Of course, it would be rare that I would go out of town without it, since we keep in touch during the day mostly through emails, it's something we have done since we met 3 years ago.
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@youless (86613)
• Guangzhou, China
4 Aug 08
Obviously you use computer a lot.
• Philippines
4 Aug 08
Surely, my wife would. She's hooked on detective games. Even on off-work days, you'll see us arguing on who will use the computer. That's why I'm planning to buy a new one hehe. If possible, a laptop again.
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@youless (86613)
• Guangzhou, China
4 Aug 08
Yeah, it's better to buy a new computer. You know it's not funny to annoy a woman
@sags2008 (128)
• Philippines
4 Aug 08
yeah...he gives you a respect of privacy just because you suffered in bed after your operation.
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@youless (86613)
• Guangzhou, China
4 Aug 08
Thanks for your response.
@lynnchua (3416)
• Singapore
4 Aug 08
No, he doen't know how to use it. If he need to check something or do something he alway asked me for help.
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@youless (86613)
• Guangzhou, China
4 Aug 08
Perhaps you can teach your husband how to take advantage of the computer
@intimate36 (1416)
• Pakistan
4 Aug 08
Well, we all share the PC , which I have at home.....We are four members two + two, we all respect each others privacy, and never read , or have look for calls and SMS on our cell phones
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@youless (86613)
• Guangzhou, China
4 Aug 08
Thanks for your response.
• China
4 Aug 08
thats good ,trust is more important between a couple than anything else , and respect is a key of our marriage . hope we are lucky to get a good mate in our life !!
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@youless (86613)
• Guangzhou, China
4 Aug 08
I agree with you
@cjgrooms (4457)
• United States
4 Aug 08
We have a desk top computer and everyone in the house uses it.
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@youless (86613)
• Guangzhou, China
4 Aug 08
Thanks for your response.