How often do you say "I do love you" to your partner?

August 4, 2008 12:23am CST
One, two, three, four, five times a day or more? I often hear my boyfriend uttering those words and sometimes it makes me feel irritated...Yeah sure I do love my boyfriend but I find it sweeter if he would just say it once in a while. Hearing those words makes me feel as if the essence of those words are no longer as it should be. If I were to ask you, How often would you wanna hear your partner uttering those words?
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@Renee2 (8)
• United States
4 Aug 08
You know men have funny ways of showing things and are not great at it sometimes. This is something you can do, watch his actions and that's how you will know how he feels like if he pays the bills for instance you will know if he loves you.
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• United States
5 Aug 08
I agree totally
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@Jenaisle (3803)
• Philippines
4 Aug 08
As often as I can, because I don't know how much time we have together. WE have to take each opportunity given to say how much we love him/her; Not only our partners but all the persons we love, parents, kids , relatives and our closest friends.
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@devylan (695)
• United States
5 Aug 08
I agree with you 100%!
• Philippines
4 Aug 08
Yeah I agree with you, if we hear it more than what it should be, it can turn out as if we are making the word a little overrated. But in my case, me and my man, often say it. I just love hearing him say it even if he has said it many times during the day. I also love saying it to him and I guess he loves hearing it from me too. To sum this up, I believe that it is not an issue of how many times you say it to your loved one, it's the sincerity you associate to those words that matters, one can hear it and feel its genuine intentions, as if those words are being said for the first time. So despite of you entreatingly saying it, if it comes from the heart- one will never get tired of hearing it, over and over again.
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@misshoney (973)
• Philippines
4 Aug 08
hello :-) well i see nothing wrong in saying i love you to your partner multiple times. when me and my boyfriend are together he keeps telling that i think 5 times an hour and i also do the same thing. more than half of our text messages to each other have i love you's and all those stuff. well i will never get tired of it and i hope also my boyfriend. anyaway even without the words, what is important is that we are both secured in our relationship, that both of us love each other very much, it is also nicer if the love is expressed in action than in words.
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@metschica25 (5407)
• United States
5 Aug 08
I tell him daily it is like a second nature to say it You know when he leaves for work he always tugs at me because i am still sleeping, and says I love you and then he will give me a kiss . Some morns I feel so bad because I just mumble . You know on the phone we always say it too .
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@Ithink (10673)
• United States
5 Aug 08
It is the same with us and there is days I totally wake up feeling bad cause I know he gave me that kiss and said I love you and I dont really repsond cause Im still sleeping. As much as I love him thou Im not gettin up at 4:30 am .. lol
• United States
5 Aug 08
When I am half sleepy i can be very mood , but think he is used to it .
• United States
4 Aug 08
When he's here it seems like I say them every 5 minutes. He's got to get tired of hearing it by now. But, he keeps saying it back.
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• United States
4 Aug 08
use to say it ALOT but now probably once or twice a day... =[
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5 Aug 08
I agree and totally understand what you're saying. My boyfriend also likes to use this phrase way too often. It seems to lose meaning after awhile and seem like just a casual thing to say. I personally only tell him I love him anytime we part ways, and before we fall asleep at night. All the other times it should just be an unspoken thing because we both know that we love each other.
@bestie (1458)
• Philippines
4 Aug 08
Everyday.My boyfriend is very busy but he still finds time to say those words to me everyday and I'm glad about it.
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• United States
4 Aug 08
too sweet, that's the way it should be!
@jairgirl (2877)
• United States
5 Aug 08
hello there, i guess we are all different when it comes to hearing and appreciating the word "i love you" and i completely understand why you are feeling this way. anyway, to answer your question. my husband and i uses this words as often as we can, i guess it is more than 10 times a day and more at night LOL i used to believe like you do when it comes to saying the word, my late ex often complain why i rarely say it. i told him the same reason as you do BUT mine is more deeper than that coz my feelings and love is not as much as i want it to be so i cannot say and having a hard time uttering such phrase (NO i am not saying that you and me are alike in that way). i found a piece of me with my husband and i dont remember a day not saying this word. it's been almost 5 years now but the feeling is the same and it is even more as time passes by. if i am upset, my hubby can tell it (there are other ways for him to know it as well) coz i dont say that word as often as i used to. anyhow, i have lost someone (my late ex) and i have realized the value of such word and the fact that i need to show my love in any ways possible coz i dont know how long it will last. it is sad that i have to learn it the hard way BUT i am happy now and i am not letting a day end without letting him know how much he means to me. takecare
@gabbana (1815)
• China
5 Aug 08
for me, i seldom. and i agree with the saying that true love doesn't need to be spoken out all the time, it is from the bottom of heart and judged by actions. and sometimes we just need to say it, but not too often.
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@lynboobsy11 (11346)
• Philippines
5 Aug 08
I used to say it all the time, many times a day and even him also, yhea your right they say if you said more times you can feel that there is no essence with the meaning but maybe it depends on how you feel towards your love one and the way the sweetest you are. Were been very sweet to each other and I think we found the perfect love for us thats why even we said it many times it came from the deepest part of our heart and only we are oblige to do say it.
@cokyjazz (429)
• Australia
5 Aug 08
I think if the person means what they are saying,the more times the better!I do admit,when my husband and i were still dating..he would say it almost every 5 minutes and yeah,it did bug me..but i think it was because i thought he was saying it just to fill in the silence and not really mean it.8 years later and we say it to eachother all the time.I also think that it would hurt so bad if something happened to him and i hadn't said i loved him that day.
@dpk262006 (56104)
• Delhi, India
5 Aug 08
I think, when you are new into a relationship be it a marriage or any other relationship, these three words cast a magic spell on the other fellow, but when you grow older in a relationship, many other things, like gestures, mood and moments of your partner do tell you a lot about him/her. I love my partner so I show my feelings to her through my attitude and gestures and she takes it rightly even if I do not utter these three letters.
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@Ithink (10673)
• United States
5 Aug 08
My husband and I say it alot and when not saying it we are kissing, hugging or kissing when he is home from work. You never know what is going to happen and we want each other to know we love each other.
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• Canada
4 Aug 08
we don't say it very often. i would say once every few days. i guess that isn't really quite enough, but i'm happy :)
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@djoyce71 (2512)
• Philippines
4 Aug 08
I want to hear the words but not that often like five times a day, that will really be irritating. Even if my partner will not say the words often, I know well that he loves me, because I can feel it in what he does for me.
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• United States
4 Aug 08
Me and my boyfriend say it atleast once a day and sometimes more. :)
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• Philippines
4 Aug 08
When we are together I think I say it 20 times for a 24 hours that we are together. I love to say that I love him and he always respond back with "I love you too." There are also times that he is the first one who says I love you. It's a nice feeling to hear that word. But when we have arguement I don't hear him say I love you too when I say I love you.
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@riyasam (16578)
• India
4 Aug 08
i do understand what you are trying to tell.i have experienced it myself.anythin beyond a limit is very irritating and i beleive in the saying ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER THAN WORDS.happy mylotting.
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@magojordan (3254)
• Philippines
4 Aug 08
It really depends on the person being told how much they like it that they are being told "I love you" because my partner loves it whenever I tell it to her. NO matter how many times I tell her it seems that it is not enough for her. Well it's my style of showing sweetness, I think that your partner is just being sweet. Well whenever she says that she loves me it really sound music to my ears
@skbh12 (2950)
• Philippines
4 Aug 08
we always say it whether through landlines or cellphone especially in person we always say these words to each other. it feels so good when i say these sweet words to him and i know he believes me whenever i tell him these..