What are friends for?....

@dogsnme (1269)
United States
August 4, 2008 6:56am CST
Has anyone ever had a friend or friends that spent a lot of time with you...I mean 2 or 3 days a week for a number of years...tell you how important you are to them, how much they need you, seem to really enjoy the time they spend with you, and it makes you feel good and special because you feel really needed, and suddenly because of things that have come up in their life, they seem to start pushing you away, or putting you on hold, and expect you to just understand and wait until they have time for you again? How did that make you feel? How did you handle it? Do you think the way you felt was right or wrong?
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15 responses
• Philippines
4 Aug 08
Yeah, I have a friend who stood beside me even in tough times. It makes me feel somehow confident knowing that there is someone who will support me even if the world is against me.
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@maryannemax (12174)
• Sweden
4 Aug 08
i also have those kinds of friends, too. in fact, i have three people i consider my bestfriends in the whole world. even if we're now oceans apart, we continue to communicate hoping that one day we will meet each other again and spend much time together like we usually do.
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@randiss (149)
4 Aug 08
i have a lot of friends and just like other people, my friends are also individuals who hold interests, hobbies, skills that are different from mine. i'd encourage them to pursue what they want or whatever makes them happy. and with that, i know that they won't always have time for me. and if i'm a true friend,i'd understand that. i know that my friends also need their space and that they need to do what they need to do in order to have a sense of fulfillment, happiness and all sorts of good feelings. like for example, most of my friends from high school are taking nursing while i'm taking a business course. they've separated themselves from me and i'm in a different crowd now. we still do see each other, say hi's. and when we're not packed with work for our studies, we grab the time to hang-out and chat, to catch up on stuff. everyone's got to live their own lives. but i assure you, when friends are true, they'd coming rushing to you in your time of need. and it always brings a wonderful feeling. =)
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@gsgopp (2)
• Australia
4 Aug 08
Well I guess the reaction and handling it will depends in a situation. If what was the reason behind them acting like you feel that they pushing you away or why they are having less time hanging out with you. For my experience I noticed that when one of my friends get involve to someone as in a relationship boyfriend or girlfriend they tend to spend more time with them than with me and our friends not like before where we can just ask him/her to go hang out or something. The other reasons will probably their family situations or career... Anything can happen that can make them more busier to do things at times... but you see Even though this is happening that doesn't mean that they are not your friend anymore or that they wont be there for you. They may not be there physically but be assure that in one wholed day they will be thinking of you and hoping that all things are doing good in your life and if not hoping that it will get better soon. With me since I got married and have kids I only see my friends even my bestfriend once a month 2 or 3 times would be lucky... but hey when we see each other it's just like the old times... My suggestion is try to always handle it in a possitive way.. and just be supportive I guess... hope it helps... =)
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@NrgDfenZ (1810)
• Belgium
4 Aug 08
Yeah I have a very good friend, I have known her for almost my entire life, have had lots of adventures with her and many stories to tell, I see her almost every day, mainly because she lives next door :D I think we will stay friends forever, at least I hope so..
@ketan_ (39)
• India
4 Aug 08
frds r the steel pillars who make u rise up in ur life ,but if this frd gets rusted then its quit sure, structure which stood on steel pillars before is gonna weeken .....,i have suffered the same stated above....,,,,it was really a bad experince of my life ...,that shattered me ..,really there wasn't ny more happnies left in my life...,, i wd really hd gt the oppertunity to hang out tht person....,, im right in hanging out tht person .....since he tore out the sweetest bond i ever had ....,frd supports u .....he lifts u frm ur back ...,,but wht if he stabbes u frm back jst for his worth ......isnt it...the hatred act.....whch cud pirece ur life ....,, relly i wd like to kill tht person if god gives me .....one chance of killing single person in my life
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@Lore2009 (7389)
• United States
9 Feb 09
I think it's ok if a friend needs time off or other priorities to take care of as long as they communicate it to me in one way or another. I should be worth the struggle to just inform their situation in honesty that they made found someone special and needs more time with them. I'd respect that, but if they cut cold suddenly then I'd be pissed and know that I'm not worth it for them after all that I did.
• United States
17 Sep 08
After I had my daughter I realized that the people that used to call me frequently before I had my daughter stopped calling and answering my calls and I was confused. Most of these people are people who do not have any children. I did feel bad because at a time when you need them the most they turn there back but who knows what there real reasons were because when I asked some of them they always say oh it's because you are busy with the baby what they do not understand is that one still carries a life with or without children. I guess they will not get first hand experience until they go through it. I have continued to carry my life as normal as possible and have just allowed it to be
@reckon21 (3487)
• Philippines
5 Aug 08
There are many types of friends. there are friends that are fake,opportunist, and back bitter. True friends is hard to find they are very rare.For me, I did not pay so much attention to my friends,I know they will only fade away if you are facing serious problems.
@_sketch_ (5711)
• United States
5 Aug 08
Yeah. I've had that happen to me a bunch of times. at first, it really hurts, but I get over it pretty quick. I don't need to be friends with people like that. Friends are people who are there for you no matter what, even when you screw up and a true friend will always tell you that you're stupid when you're screwing up. They are not the ones who encourage you to do dumb stuff. Those are the people who are going to ditch you when you get caught.
• Philippines
5 Aug 08
Yes, i do have that kind of friend. We've been friends for almost 14 years now, way back in fisrt year College. We became friends because everyone else doesn't want her to become their friends. I understood her in a way, her actions may seem odd at times. Always misinterpreted, misunderstood. However, i stood by with her. It been years now, and i still can't figure out why those people wouldn't want to be her friend. In the end, i figured, they were just purely jealous of her achievements, and her wealth. She's a very brainy person. We've been through good times and tough. I haven't seen her lately though, but it doesn't mean that we're out of touch. She just gave me space. Because now, i have a husband and a child to raise.
@Nar_87 (181)
• Mongolia
4 Aug 08
i know this song by 123greetings that says that's what friend's for! it's very nice. goes like. no matter what fate has in store, i'll b ur friend forever more.
@CJay77 (4441)
• Australia
4 Aug 08
I had a childhood friend that stayed with me no matter what. I would definitely say she is my friend. And then I got married and moved so I lost contact with her but I would love to think that we are still good friends! And then we moved to India last year because of my husband's work and I made some new friend's in the neighborhood. They always knocked on my door everyday to check if I'm alright, the other lives quite far, but we do see each other at least 3 times a week. For almost a year I was there they stayed the same towards me. Now i'm here in Egypt and I still have contact with them. About those friends that will put you on hold and contact you when they want..... I dont think they are really friends. I've been in the situation that you think you have a good friend, but suddenly they change because something came along and they lose interest in you. Of course it upsets me but I will stay the same! At least I know who my real friends are.
4 Aug 08
Yes this usually happens when a friend meets a new partner and is getting to know them, or when they are getting married. Unfortunately despite my efforts and patience we ended up not stayin friends. It made me feel a little sad, but then all relationships end sometime. I handled it okay, it helped so much that my mother supported me through it all. I can see now that she was being selfish and taking me for granted. The way I felt was normal, some people may have acted differently though. Personally I choose friends who make me feel happy, if they don't do that then it is time to change something.
@maryannemax (12174)
• Sweden
4 Aug 08
i did have those friends before. at first, everythig was fine. we loved spending so much time together and we had some misunderstanding as friends usually do, they started talking bad things at my back. one day, i found out and confronted them about it. at first, they won't admit to it but later, they did and said that they only wanted me back. but after that, we never became bestfriends again. i do think i have the right to feel that way. besides, friends should be helping each other and not ruining each other's lives.
@nutanjain (898)
• India
4 Aug 08
hi how are you friends are usually for making comfortable the other person in good and bad times and let one know that is anything happens or helps and friends also accompany you to any social gathering or social festival and they also guide you towards your future and thee current activites you are doing are whether good or not or does it needs any type of improvement