How do you get out of a game that a child wants to constantly play with you?

@swirlz (3137)
Philippines
August 4, 2008 7:14am CST
My niece likes playing dress-up games on the internet. We've played yesterday until I got tired, and today we've played again for two hours! I'm so tired and hungry. I was able to stop our game for today, but she said, "Let's play again tomorrow, okay?" I don't know if I still have the energy to play again tomorrow. So, if you were in my position, how do you get out of that one? You know, a way to turn her down but not disappoint her a lot?
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22 responses
• United States
4 Aug 08
Your niece really shouldn't be spending that much time on the computer. She needs to connect with the "real" world and also get more activity in her life. Get her to go for a walk in the park, go swimming, play frisbee-- anything that gets her outside and reconnected with the non-online world. I love computers, but technology shouldn't take the place of actual life experience. Computers are a great tool; you can learn new things, chat with people from around the world, research academic subjects, earn money, be exposed to different cultures, and have fun. They are a life line for some. However, they should be used to enhance life, not replace it-- and that is especially true for children.
@swirlz (3137)
• Philippines
5 Aug 08
I agree. I think being addicted to the computer at such an early age is really unhealthy. Going to the park or swimming would have been a good idea, but that would mean that someone had to go with her, and that's the problem. Everyone is busy. As for frisbee, we don't have one. Anyway, I think I can arrange some activity for her on our front lawn. I think she will enjoy it. Thanks.
@Sillychick (3279)
• United States
4 Aug 08
Set a time limit. Say 'I'd love to play, but I have xx to do too. I can play for 20 minutes' (or whatever time is reasonable to you). Then when the time comes, stop. Tell her, 'Ok, I have to stop now. That was fun. Thanks for playing with me.' If you want to let her, you could allow her to continue playing by herself. You could offer her some things to play dress up in real life. Get out some purses, shoes or clothes that you don't wear very often, whatever you are willing to let her play with, and tell her to dress up for different things like going to a wedding, or to a costume party, or the beach. See how creative she can be. This may get her attention away from the computer for a while, and she may end up being interested in something else for a change.
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@swirlz (3137)
• Philippines
5 Aug 08
Thanks. I think setting up a time limit would be really helpful. And I don't think I can lend her my clothes, I'm scared she might stain them or something. But I think I can make her some paper dolls and she can play with those, she can even draw some clothes for them if she wants to. Thank you for your response.
@yogeshdhusa (2237)
• India
4 Aug 08
Hi swirlz, i think you should introduce any other game and set a time limit. And tell her that if you are able to complete the game then you will get to know more games. hope this helps. and i think she should play other games. children should be kept under a timetable so that they can enjoy outdoor games as well as indoor games.
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@swirlz (3137)
• Philippines
5 Aug 08
Thanks. I would certainly do that. I agree with what you said, children should spend equal time indoors as well as outdoors. And setting a time limit is really the answer so as not to get bored with playing with them.
@sudalunts (5526)
• United States
4 Aug 08
I have been in that situation with my god children. I would say, play with your brother/sister for now. I do not want to play anymore. Be truthful with them, so that understand that you do not mind playing with them but sometimes it does not stay fun for you like it does for them. Don't make promises that you do not want to keep. I know it can become tiring and boring when playing with children and they do not want to stop the game
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@swirlz (3137)
• Philippines
5 Aug 08
It is boring. I guess I have to watch what I say when I'm with my niece, because even if I didn't exactly make a promise, she seems to believe I did. tsk tsk. Thanks for your response. I do wish she has siblings so she can play with them rather than with me.
@Tasche (138)
• Ethiopia
4 Aug 08
I was in a similar situation, also with my niece. Finally I told her: "!Listen, it is not all about what you want. If you want to play do it and I will share when it is fun for me too. Right now it is no fun for me anymore. Think about another game for us...etc." Honestly children have to learn that there is not always a yes and that not everybody acts as they order ! Not only kids have a will, as a grown-up I am allowed to have a will too.
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@swirlz (3137)
• Philippines
5 Aug 08
Yes, I think it would be good for them to get used to being told no once in a while.
@bamakelly (5194)
• United States
4 Aug 08
Yes, children have a way of doing that don't they? They like to play and it can be tiresome to us adults. I guess you should be glad she likes to spend time with you and you might be someone that she looks up to. I am not sure how you can get out of playing again and it is hard to disappoint children. You might have to turn her over to a different kind of game that she can amuse herself with. Maybe she can color.
@swirlz (3137)
• Philippines
5 Aug 08
It is tiring, and boring too. But it's flattering to think that I might be someone she looks up to. I guess I could give her another activity. Coloring could be good. Thanks for your response.
• Indonesia
4 Aug 08
yes, even a cute cheeky little girl can be annoying if she don't let you to stop playing games with her. my niece don't play computer games. she plays 'conventional' games like hide and seek, scrabble, etc. usually when it's time to stop, i will just tell her that i have to do another thing, an 'important' thing (it doesn't mean that playing with her is not important ) and usually it works.
@swirlz (3137)
• Philippines
5 Aug 08
Conventional games would have been too tiring for me, good thing she didn't want to play those. hehe. Thanks. I should try telling her that I have something else to do. I know she'll understand. I hope.
@jazel_juan (15767)
• Philippines
30 Sep 08
hmm what website is thatt swirlz? i need that for my kid hahaha..opposite:D but really what site?hehehe
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@jazel_juan (15767)
• Philippines
2 Oct 08
thanks..that is for jazel hahaha she loves it, i tried it yesterday, and she wont get off the computer, buts its nice to let her play it when i am doing something important and she wont bother. plus she is learning more about computer and she enjoys it a lot! thanks:d you really gave me an idea. i let her play it when she was here at the office yesterday and she wasnt a nuissance at all hahahah
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@swirlz (3137)
• Philippines
22 Oct 08
Oh, so you're bringing her at your office sometimes? Cute.
@magnet (2087)
• United States
5 Aug 08
It does not sound that hard. Tell her no and give her something else to do. Believe me she will not cry. Children just love attention. Tell her that you are tired and you are going to do something different. Also tell her that too much internet can cause her to become addicted to the internet and that's not cool. Do something educational with her, better yet take her out on a playdate. It sounds like she needs other little girls to play with.
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@swirlz (3137)
• Philippines
6 Aug 08
Yeah, I think she does. But she doesn't have any siblings. And everyone of us here is too old to play with her all the time. I do have a cousin who's closer to her age. But she's now on the age group which loves watching cartoons all the time. Whenever she's around, that's all she does. So my niece would still turn to me for attention. I should just think up of more activities for her.
• United States
6 Aug 08
You could find a park to take her to! They may have children her age there.
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@NrgDfenZ (1810)
• Belgium
5 Aug 08
Something like a time limit could do the trick.. Or maybe suggest her another game ? So you can also do something else ^^ Have a good day :)
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@swirlz (3137)
• Philippines
6 Aug 08
I guess setting a time limit is a common solution for parents. I didn't know about this one, because it's my first time to handle a child.
• United States
4 Aug 08
Awe easy! She has to learn now or it will become harder on her later on to hear no, or I am not up to it today! Let her know it is a great game, but you would like to play something different, maybe get her a barbie or a kit to dress herself in! She would love that get her talking about what she would dress up in!!! Fun!
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@swirlz (3137)
• Philippines
6 Aug 08
Thanks. I thought it is difficult to stop a hyper kid, but I guess the solution is easy. Instead of trying to stop the hyperactivity all together, it's better to redirect it to something else.
• United States
4 Aug 08
I use to babysit three little boys- my boyfriends younger brothers and what I would do is I would have them change their activity to watching tv or have a snack. Off track their mind to something different.
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@swirlz (3137)
• Philippines
6 Aug 08
Thanks. Kids really like having something to do all the time. TV and snacks are easy lure so we can get some rest for a while.
@the_ruler (1446)
• Turkey
4 Aug 08
I think this is one of the hardest situations to have. I had this at school. One of our professors brought her child to school and I was at internship at school. Well, my imagination is not changed since my childhood so I still can think like a child but of course, for a limited time :) First, our prof. let her daughter to play a computer game in our labratory and we were also making some stuff on other computers with my friends who were also at internship. After a few minutes the little girl was complaining about the game she played and it looked it was so challenging for her. After that, I just sit near her and wanted to share that little game and my experience since my childhood :) I played some parts instead of her and then gave it back. However, I just couldn't notice I was being drawn into something that would never end! She wanted me to do every part of the game which she couldn't so I had to play the game with her until her mother came... I leaved once but she constantly complained and wanted me to come and play the game with her.. what a torture it was (after a certain time of course :) LOL
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@swirlz (3137)
• Philippines
6 Aug 08
Yes, it is a torture to keep playing something you've lost interest in for a long time. hehe. I guess that's how kids really are. And we just have to learn how to change the situation to our liking.
@ShellyB (5244)
• United States
4 Aug 08
I am not sure how to do that (I tend to disappoint my daughter a lot, but because she is 17 I do not feel that bad). Maybe setting up a certain time when you do want to play and then maybe explain to her that you are tired, I hope that helps
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@swirlz (3137)
• Philippines
5 Aug 08
Thanks. That's what I'll definitely do.
@kenzie45230 (3560)
• United States
4 Aug 08
I know. My step-daughter only visits with us one or two weekends a month, but every time she'll get into those dress-up games on the internet. For her, it's more fun if she's sharing that with her dad or me. We have to set a limit to the time she can spend online.
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@swirlz (3137)
• Philippines
5 Aug 08
I guess it's not only my niece who's addicted to those dress-p games on the internet, huh? You're right, setting up a time limit would be the answer.
@secretbear (19464)
• Philippines
28 Sep 08
hi swirlz! i experience that too when i'm playing with my nephew. not just playing games, sometimes i'd let him watch his favorite metal heroes on youtube and he wouldn't stop until he'd drop! i would usually tell him to take a break, go to his mommy who is calling him and whenever he goes away, he'd find other interesting things and forget about what we were doing. ^__~ but if he comes back, i'd just tell him we'd play again or watch again on some other day and then coax him that there are other interesting things like something in tv or something outside the house.
@se7enthbird (8328)
• Philippines
7 Aug 08
i have a two year oldson and sometimes if he is ina mood to play with me.... and as you know kids there games are very tiring for us adults. the thing my wife will do is get something to eat and so his concentration will focus on the food and no longer with the game. and while me and my son are eating my wife will keep the toy for the mean time. then tomorrow we can play again.
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• Taiwan
5 Aug 08
I will say direct "i'm hungry or i have to do something, if i have free time, i would play with you. "
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@SHAMRACK (8532)
• India
5 Aug 08
Dear friend, There may be some of transfer of moods and this moods may vary due to tiredness, lazy, etc from individual to individual. Hence I feel if one has patience to go smoothly one may have to adjust to others will. But if one is too intolerable it might be better to avoid. while avoiding it would better to avoid without hurting other , I hope that is problem for most getting avoid without hurting. Hence there may other much better things that can be diverted like tasty food, better movies, books etc this is found which is much better for that person to be individually concentrated. Hence that might be given to that child for while until one is able to give company.
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• China
5 Aug 08
to find an excuse to run away.If I were you ,I would say to her I'm not feeling well when playing so often.My eyes will get dry that make me very uncomfortable.
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