Do you give second chances?

United States
August 4, 2008 12:57pm CST
I want to know what you think about second chances. I am sure many of you have either been in a relationship in which you cared for someone, or truly loved another person. But sometimes in life, bad things happen... things that make your insides crawl. Example: I have a girlfriend that I dated for a few years. This was the girl I knew I wanted to marry. Everything about her made me smile and we couldn't help but imagine what our kids would be like! One day, me and her got into a rather intense fight. A fight in which she left me for two days under the impression that I never wanted to see her again. Which was not the case at all, in fact I regretted everything I said and was so worried about her I was going crazy. - but she wouldn't answer my calls. On the second night, I got a call at 2am in the morning with her crying and being ridiculously drunk, and then she hung up when a guy called her name. This infuriated me, I wanted to know what was going on. I spammed her phone until she answered, come to find out her girl friend's were grabbing her phone and telling her that I was a bad boyfriend. I pinpointed where she was, drove over to the house and when I walked up to the door - two guys were standing there. And I said where's my girlfriend? And they said she's not here with a smirk on their face. I said don't play games with me guys, and then I heard her friend's yelling "hey colleen!" in the background. At this point I just decked one of the guys at the front door and then 8-9 more guys ran out and started jumping me. - All I wanted was to get my girlfriend and leave, and she went and got herself into a horrible situation. So I left there bleeding, beat up, and rather heartbroken if you know what I mean, although I did manage to get her to come with me because I ended up starting a few more fights and they didn't want any trouble. The next day she was sober, she cried and cried and told me that the guy took advantage of her upstairs when she was trying to sleep. I took her back after some hard debating. I was hurt so bad inside that I didn't know what to do. I would of died for that girl. ****** - So honestly, answer this question with a full heart. Depending on the circumstances, do you give second chances?
4 responses
• Philippines
24 Sep 10
Im willing to give second chances as long as the person is very sincere about it. its depends on the situation you are in and depends on how you trust that person. if you want to take the risk you can give the second chance but be prepared for the consequences you might encounter. anyways, that's part of growing up!
@jbrooks0127 (2329)
• United States
5 Aug 08
A second chance depends entirely upon what the first offense was. If abuse, physical or mental, is involved there should be no second chance ever. If one or the other has cheated on the other all trust is lost and that makes getting back togeather very hard. No matter how you may convince yourself that it will never happen again a part of you knows it can and very likely will unless your relationship changes. If however a fight is over a miss understanding that neither can get by at the moment then sure everyone deserves a second chance. I would ask you if you have dated for several years and you both see yourself married why are you not? What is stopping you? could it be one or both of you do not trust the other enough to do that? REgardless of the reason you broke up there are some serious things you are not saying here that you need to work on. If you were the perfect boyfriend her girl friends would not be telling her to keep away from you. Step back and look at what happened. Look not only at your side of it but at hers. If you do that as you should you will have your answer.
@cecelgay (563)
• Philippines
5 Aug 08
Giving second chance depends on the situation, I can see that you still want her and so is she... you know what i mean. Learn to forgive and you'll forget. Just look on what you're dreaming. There's no such things as "start a brand new tommorrow" rather move on and continue life with her. Give yourself a chance to have her again. Dont worry if you really feel a true love it will conquer all things.... Also seek GOD's guidance, ask for his help to lead in a right decission. Have a good day..
• United States
4 Aug 08
I really don't believe in giving a second chance its not in my nature to do that.... I know that it good to give someone a second chances but i dont give people a second chance. I believe if i mess up than i don't deserve a second chance.. Now if you cheat on me i don't even think twice about a sexond chance..