I am happy yet sad!

United States
August 4, 2008 2:07pm CST
My husband started to work 4 days last week for 10 hours and it gives him 3 days off...It was a great weekend really for us last week since we were together until Monday! But, last Thursday, he got a call from their Sister's company who asked him to work for them every Monday to help them in some areas..We are happy that it is an additional income for us but on the other hand, I am sad since our time again will be affected! I am sure working like 48 hours a week is too much and too tiring! ANyway, I have no choice, I am glad I have Mylot where I can also spend my idle time! ANy experiences friends that gives you mixed emotions this week?
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@howard96h (11658)
• New York, New York
4 Aug 08
Is the sister company going to be paying him overtime rate? They should shouldn't they, since he will be over his 40 hours and that should be time and a half for the 8 hours he will work on Mondays, unless they pay him with a separate check. I think he should be entitled to it, don't you?
2 people like this
• United States
4 Aug 08
Hi howard, yea he will be paid which is the good thing since it will help us a lot to save more of what we used to have as well as pay our bills! But, i am enlighten now since some of my friends here told me they used to work for 60 hours..So, I am quite relieved!
@howard96h (11658)
• New York, New York
5 Aug 08
Yes there are many people who work a lot more hours, my roommate works 60 hours every week and only has one day off a week, he gets no vacation and no sick days.
@kiran1978 (4137)
• Australia
4 Aug 08
It is hard I know, but the money could come in handy with living expenses. In Australia 48 hours a week work is quite the norm, some people here even work 60 hours a week. My partner will be doing taxi driving soon and he will be doing 4, 12 hours shifts which is also 48 hours a week. I don't mind as I know he is home for three days so we can enjoy quality time together then. Mixed emotions for me this week is my aunty and uncle have been visiting from the UK, I have not seen them in 10 years. Just when I felt really use to the idea that they were here, they are leaving today. I am quite sad as I know it may be another 10 years again before they visit. ALso my kids will be sad too as they grew quite attached to them this past week. So I am quite sad today that they are leaving, I wish flights weren't so expensive.
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• United States
4 Aug 08
Hi kiran, ohhh..I understand how you feel about it..It is truly sad and I know a couple of days without them will be quite difficult since you use to wake up each morning seeing them..Anyway, this is life, sometimes I will think why we have to be so far from our family and relatives...Why is it that places have to be this far!
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@leenie50 (3992)
• United States
4 Aug 08
Hi Che, Thats too bad. Hopefully it won't be a permanent situation. And if it does become permanent, maybe he can say no. Sometimes the money isn't as important as the time spent with family. Is there any way he can put it off for a few weeks to give you some time together? My husband has been out of work for over a year now and we are one of those couples struggling to keep our home. I would give anything right now to be able to get up in the morning and help him get off to work. Hang in there Sweetie, maybe it won't last. Anyway, we'll keep you company. Hugs leenie
• United States
4 Aug 08
Hi leenie, You're so sweet! Thanks a bunch,,It is not actually permanent, just for like 3 months I guess since the 4 day work policy of their company will only last for 3 months too! But, I was thinking 48 hours is already too much, I am learning here that some people have to work 60 hours..I am enlighten!
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@chrislotz (8203)
• Canada
7 Aug 08
That's too bad that it cuts into your time with him, but most people do work 5 days a week and a lot of people work more than 48 hours a week. My husband is in management and he works from 6 in the morning till 6 or 7 at night and works 5 days a week that long and then on Saturdays he works from 6 in the morning till noon. So he is working a lot more than 48 hours a week. Not that I am saying that your husband doesn't work hard, as I am sure he does, I'm just saying it isn't a lot of hours compared to a lot of other people. It is good that you can do mylotting when he is working so you have something to keep you busy while he is at work. I personally, would love to only have to work 4 days a week and have a long weekend every weekend. I can see why the two of you loved it, while it lasted.
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• United States
7 Aug 08
Hi chris, yea..after reading some of my friend's testimonies that they are working 60 hours a week..I was enlightened and makes me feel better that we are still lucky to have time during weekends!
@chrislotz (8203)
• Canada
7 Aug 08
You guys have a good weekend and enjoy the time you have together. I am off work now till Monday so I have three days off, myself, and I plan on enjoying them.
@SomeCowgirl (32270)
• United States
5 Aug 08
I am sorry that you are not going to be able to spend more time with your husband but atleast the added money will be there and you may be able to save up so that he can get a better job with fewer hours, or just get fewer hours at this job now! My fiance and I are kind of going to be experiencing the same thing. I haven't had a job since October, but will hopefully be getting another job soon. Even though I don't want to go back to work I know we need to for the money. I hope to save at the job and be able to buy more things that we need as well as just save for our future! Good Luck to you and your husband! Have a wonderful day here Checapricorn!
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• United States
5 Aug 08
Hi SomeCowgirl, I agree..we need money for our future! Anyway, I am also looking forward to have a job soon, I know it will be better when two people bring a check at home.. I wish you will be able to find soon, I am sure it will help you a lot since you both are preparing for your BIG DAY!
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@SomeCowgirl (32270)
• United States
5 Aug 08
Good luck in your own job search then. Now that you mention it I do believe I read you saying that you may find yourself a job. May wealth be brought to us both then! Along with good health!
@hellcowboy (7383)
• United States
5 Aug 08
I am happy to hear that you and your husband will have more income coming in but I am sad that it will effect your time together,and I am glad that you have mylot to help you pass the time,my fiance is thinking about applying at a restaurant not far from where we live,and I have mixed emotions,because if she gets the job we will have more money coming in,and we would also still have time together,but it also means that we would not be together all the time which makes me sad,and besides it is a real fancy place with a fancy dress code.
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• United States
5 Aug 08
Hi hellcowboy, Yea..it will really lessen the number of hours we will be together but we also need to have an extra income! ANyway, I am enlightened after learning from other friends here that they used to work 60 hours a week before! With regards to your fiancee, I hope she can find another place to work with,, I remember when my sister was accepted in a resort and she has to wear a very fancy uniform, she worked for a week or two and her boyfriend(now husband) was not comfortable for her, so she quit!
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• United States
5 Aug 08
I agree everyone needs some extra income and I wish the best for you and your husband during the times you do get to spend together,and yeah I also hope she can find another place to work,and that sucks that your sister used to have to work at a resort where she had to wear a fancy uniform,and I can understand how her boyfriend which is now her husband felt,because I am very uncomfortable with the thought of her working at this restaurant,have a great day,good luck in your life,and Happy Posting my friend.
@dpk262006 (56473)
• Delhi, India
5 Aug 08
Checa, we cannot have sweets in our both the hands. Either we get the money/earnings or peace of life. If your husband is spending time on earnings, that will definitely help you to strengthen your financial position, however at the cost of peace. It is upto you, which one you both prefer, enjoyment of life i.e. spending a long weekend togethar or raising your financial position. Nonetheless, mylot and friends are always there for your support.
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• United States
5 Aug 08
Hi dpk, Yea..I feel good now since we still got Saturday and Sunday together and I will just enjoy myself working here at Mylot to divert my loneliness!
@dpk262006 (56473)
• Delhi, India
6 Aug 08
Keep enjoying here on mylot!
@cupid74 (11394)
• Pakistan
5 Aug 08
Hi dear well all i can say that working 60 hours is alowed in Labouyr Law, But still u have 2 days togather, while here we have just Sunday Off think about it and feel happy that u r in much better position Take care
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• United States
5 Aug 08
Hi cupid, Sunday only for family day? WOW! Anyway, I am enlightened and realized that we are still lucky to have 2 days together! Thanks for sharing and I will just enjoy my idle time doing Mylotting!
@cupid74 (11394)
• Pakistan
7 Aug 08
Yeah u r right Always Thanks God that u r lucker than Billions of people living on face of earth
@secretbear (19464)
• Philippines
28 Sep 08
hi checapricorn! that's really sad but at least you'll get additional income. any additional income is a big help nowadays. ^__^ mixed emotions this week.. the same old thing/person. this guy that i like that' i've been telling you all about.. he's been giving me compliments and flatteries but its not like he wants to get serious with me. as time passes by and everything he does, just strengthen my idea that he's not into serious relationship and he just wants to play a game on me. i'm happy with the compliments but i'm sad with the realization. last night i dreamed of him and he was my bf in it. i was happy to dream of him but at the same time, i'm sad because it means i'm pathetically thinking about him every now and then and everyday, it gets harder to forget him, he's so near yet so far. don't be sad about me checa. if you tell me instead that i'm stupid, i'll probably just laugh about it. its better than feeling sad.
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• United States
28 Sep 08
[i]Hi secretbear, wow..I am trying to think how to give you an advice so that you will find another man and move on! hahahah! I know it's hard but...how about talking to him heart to heart about what are his plans in life? and why he wants to play game with you? if I am in your situation, I will do that..I will invite him for a dinner and will asked him all the questions in my mind and heart and will advice him not to do it to anyone since he has to think also that he needs to respect any woman as he respects his mom...LOL! Let's see about this strategy and maybe when you will know him deeply...it will be your way to move on without him in your mind![/i]
@Chevee (5915)
• United States
6 Sep 08
I think it is good for the work and if your husband is content with it. Jobs here where I live are scarce. There are a lot of people out of work due too lay off, closings etc. Just take advantage of it for now and maybe things will change for the better and you and he will have more time together. With the extra money you might find yourselves able to take a nice much needed vacation.
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• United States
8 Sep 08
[i]HI chevee, Yea..I was able to adjust now and at least we still have two weekends where he is staying in the house with me! Thanks for sharing!1[/i]
@Blondie2222 (22380)
• United States
6 Sep 08
Sorry about you're husband having 2 work soo much but atleast u guys are getting the income that you need. And have the time he does get off to spend with eachother. I know it may not seem like enough but a little is better than nothing at all ya know?
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• United States
6 Sep 08
[i]Hi Blondie, Yea..I agree, thanks for sharing and now I was able to cope up since Saturday and Sunday he has no work![/i]
@karjyo (830)
• India
7 Aug 08
I am thinking of leaving my job as my husband is going for a training and i want to be with him. The though of being with my husband makes me happy but the thought of leaving my job makes me sad!!!!!
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• United States
7 Aug 08
Hi karjyo, That is indeed a mixed emotions also! I hope you can decide for the best and I know you will! We know our priorities in life! thanks for sharing and Good luck there!
@ghall08 (121)
• United States
7 Aug 08
Hi te che, it's indeed goodnews that you have additional income. Shaun is looking for a 2nd job too. The fight against the bills seems so hard in a one income generating family. This week is the last week of my baby sitting days. I baby sit 3 children!!!! well, it's extra income for us but after this, i'll be back to boredom again :) We r hoping that our immigration papers will be done very soon :)
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• United States
7 Aug 08
Hi geene, [i]I agree with you, it's wonderful to have another income plus we are also used to work so, it's very difficult! great to hear that you have babies there to take care with! I am sure it's your hands on training for your being a mother soon! LOL! How did you find that job? that's cool! Hope you will be able to find another after that, we have no babies here in the neighborhood..I wish so I can baby sit too![/i]
@ersmommy1 (12600)
• United States
5 Aug 08
I know how you feel. I love any extra time I get with my hubby. And hate when it changes. It feels as though something has gotten stolen from me. Try to just enjoy the security of the extra income while you have it. Maybe send him a romantic note on Mondays. That way he will be thinking of you, while you a missing him.
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• United States
5 Aug 08
Hi ersmommy, Thanks for that...I am always doing like every week! LOL! I know I will be able to recover from this feeling and thanks for Mylot also!
@newtondak (3950)
• United States
5 Aug 08
We have went through a number of times when it was necessary for us to work opposite shifts or extra hours that imposed on our personal time. We did come to decide that the extra money isn't worth losing our time together.
• United States
5 Aug 08
Thanks for sharing tondak!
@dhangski (3194)
• Philippines
5 Aug 08
Hi che. At least you get to see your hubby everyday. If you compared yours to my situation right now, you'll say that you are more lucky. My husband and I haven't been together for about 1 year and 7 months now. We have to sacrifice for our kids to have a better future. He is working in Canada right now. Yeah we see and talk to each other on cam everyday. But last week was worst. I experienced connection problems for days and we really missed each other. I haven't even been on mylot on those days so I spent those days doing chores. Smile my friend, when your hubby is out, we are in. LOL. HUGZ!
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• United States
5 Aug 08
Hi dhangski, ohhh...Thanks for reminding me about this..Yea, I admire you in this way...My Mother and Father were in the same situation as you before and that was for 15 years... I feel good now, thanks for making me open up my mind!
@neildc (17253)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
5 Aug 08
hubby or mylot? lol. well anyway, being with the family in longer period makes us really feel better. but as you said, we have mylot. and we have lots of friends here that will makes us busy and will almost forgot that we have problems. (red star 91 @ 1453)
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• United States
5 Aug 08
Hi neildc, , of course hubby! LOL! your wifey or mylot? hahahaha! Joke!!! Yea, it's true, it's indeed healthy to found this site..great relief and divertion!
@yogeshdhusa (2237)
• India
5 Aug 08
hey checapricorn, even i was in this situation.. i got a job away from my home town.. was good job with good payout. and the second thought was that i will be away from the family.. . I was confused what should i do . then i decided to work for few month and then search a the same kind of job near my home.. but i got a job not that good but i was with my family. So at the end happness wins and it will happen with you.
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• United States
5 Aug 08
Hi yogesh,, Wow! That's cool! I know even if we will just have a simple job that will be fine as long as we are near with our loved one! Thanks for sharing!
@gr8life (6253)
• Malaysia
5 Aug 08
Hello checapricorn, Yeah, I have one but it is too personal to talk here *sighs* Whatever it is, I have to keep it to myself *sighs* Back to your topic....I think it is good that your husband is working just four days a week as both of you can spend more time together. Unfortunately, if financial is the main reason here, I think he has to do double job. Whatever dear friend, the most important is the quality of time that you spend together and it is not the quantity. By the way, you get used to him working five days a week and I believe nothing much changed as long as you are happy whenever you are together *smiles*
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• United States
5 Aug 08
ohhhh...I understand gr8life, Just express that by writing your emotions and burn it after! I am doing that also when I want to keep something for me,,LOL! Anyway, thanks for sharing!
• Canada
5 Aug 08
Mixed emotions? I'm looking forward to my husband coming up here next week to meet my family, but I am praying that something doesn't mess up at the border. When he's there I know where he is, but I WANT HIM HERE!!! It stinks when two people who are huband and wife live in two dieent countries. I know how you feel aout long working weeks. My husband works like a bugger for his company.
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• United States
5 Aug 08
ohh....That is exciting danish! So, he will be staying with you already? or just a visit? I understand your situation too and happy to hear you will have him in your Country soon!