does people change?

@klaudine (3652)
Indonesia
August 4, 2008 4:16pm CST
some said that people would just stay just the way they used to, some said that they can change. How do you deal about people who really have a bad habit and they say they want to change... but somehow you just can't see the changing. You even can't see the effort of changing the attitude. do they really changing? or it's just the same people with the same attitude?
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5 responses
@NrgDfenZ (1810)
• Belgium
4 Aug 08
Well I have made a big chance myself, I went from depressed and sad, unhappy to Happy, cheerfull, more enjoyable.. People like me more now and I find it absolutely fantastic.. Love the attention ,although sometimes it can be too much :D But hey I just have to deal with that :D It isn't that bad ^^ Have a good day..
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@klaudine (3652)
• Indonesia
4 Aug 08
I have given the love and the attention, people around her also give her that, but she never understand that it was for her own good. Sound individualitic I know, but that's just useless... should I just let her until she get to the limit point where she has to change, whether she wants it or not then she can change? thanks for you response :) have a nice day
@kerriannc (4280)
• Jamaica
4 Aug 08
The question is Does this individual want to be change? There are times when we see someone with an attitude that will makes he/she be rejected in society but they are happy with it themself. As I said earlier a person has to want to be change from his/herself. Do you sit and talk with this individual. Let he/she that the attitude that he/she possess is damaging his/her character. Persons tends to like to be in a zone that they said is comfort. But does this comfort zone is protecting he/she to be a damage product in society. Counselling is a good thing but then again it depends on the individual. All the best. Kerry
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@klaudine (3652)
• Indonesia
4 Aug 08
so how do I try to change the state of mind so that he/she want to get out from the comfort zone? because the way she/he does is not heathy and it is bad for the society and his/her own social life. Can't we do something to change the mind? thanks for the response
@medicguy (307)
• Pakistan
5 Aug 08
In my opinion, individuality is something very hard to change. However, one can change how he/she express him/herself in public... For instance, if one finds a particular way of articulating rather unacceptable or uncanny, then by changing the way one present him/herself to others can certainly be effective. For i'm one with the opinion that no one changes overnight. I think or at least I like to believe that we are all unique and the answer is not a change in oneself but rather the output from each one of us should be in such a way that coincides with others beliefs and understandings. Just my humble opinion
@klaudine (3652)
• Indonesia
5 Aug 08
So, what can we do if we're facing someone like this? We can't just let her/him do whatever she/he wants to do, because we care to them, but if they never change so it would be a waste
@shamzy18 (2319)
4 Aug 08
well to be honest i think there are some people who can never change even if they wanted to !! but there are others who can change if they wanted to.. but if its like a habit or something .. it will be a very big change.. and i doubt they will change..
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@klaudine (3652)
• Indonesia
4 Aug 08
so how to deal with those attitude, since it was really bad and destructive? I need to know how to at least reduce the damage to her/himself, and to the people around her/him.
@kerriannc (4280)
• Jamaica
4 Aug 08
A person can change if he/she is willing to make it happen. Some person change for the better while other the worse. If a person is willing to change then the friends and family around this individual should assist he/she. Judging a person will only make he/she give up so instead of judging it is best you assist.
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@klaudine (3652)
• Indonesia
4 Aug 08
So by your statements, I can summarize that people wouldn't change if there's no will from her/himself? What if it was a really bad habit? People has told them that it was really a bad one and they try every possible way to make them change, and it seems that they are willing too.. but too bad, that was just useless... what about that? thanks for your response :) have a nice day
@diutay (1315)
• Philippines
5 Aug 08
Yes, they do. Not just physically but emotionally as well. Changes happen everyday but when it comes to attitude and behavior, the person himself has to consciously do it. Some changes though goes unnoticed.
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@klaudine (3652)
• Indonesia
5 Aug 08
If some changes are unnoticed, how do we know that he/she has changed? People can claim that he/she has changed but nobody know does he/she really changed?
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@diutay (1315)
• Philippines
5 Aug 08
Some changes are very radical so it becomes evident immediately but the subtle changes go unnoticed because it is happening slowly everyday. Other people and sometimes the individual himself has that opportunity to get used to the minute changes. But in case you are not in contact with the person undergoing metamorphosis, then you'll be able to see the changes easily.
@klaudine (3652)
• Indonesia
5 Aug 08
I guess you are right... I maybe I should compare how he/she is now with he/she was one or two years ago, so I can see the difference. Good point, thanks for your response, I am really helped :)