the first love
5 Aug 08
Hi i recently got out of a relationship for about 4 months and man she was my first love. She really was everything i could have asked for tall, beautiful, smart, a model, man she was everything. She started to give me less time and less time as she got busier and busier. Whens he had free time she would give it to her best friends and completely neglect me. She broke up with me and then i kept running back and back and was such a fool about it. I decided that it would best to be friends after the breakup and then for about a month we were just friends but i could not forget about me loving her and neither could not she. We would talk about parts about our relationship all the time and we still both loved each other, but she still wouldn't change and give me more time. I really couldn't understand. Then i woke up and realized that the only true way to get over her would be not to speak to her. I haven't spoke to her for about a week and she tells her friends that she really misses me, i really don't even give a damn because if she missed me enough like she said she would try to change for me so that we could work things out again, but i guess that's her choice. I would mope around and always be sad, but i'm finally moving on now and i feel a lot better.Word to the Wise -- After you break up with your ex realize that you broke up for a reason, and if you try things over again the same problem will indefinetly come up again. When you break up with your ex, don't talk to them until you know you are completely over them. I speak from first hand experience, trust.
5 Aug 08
It will hurt definitely, at least from my point of view. But it all depends on why we broke up, how long has it passed when we meet again and whether i love him or not. One thing for sure that your first lover will never be replaced by someone else, he's special, no matter how bad he is. If we meet again, i will pretend to be an old friend but in my heart i know well that my feeling is unnatural. I still remember the happy past, yeah, while still one thing i will bear in mind is that we can never go back together. Heartbroken but i've no other choice.
6 Aug 08
Yes u are right. at that time when you meet your first love after so many time you have to pretend that you are simple good friends. and yes the feelings of first love can't be dump off. just tell me how will you forget that person whom you love so much.
7 Aug 08
I won't contact him for the first weeks. Cause if he's good to me, i'd start to think he's still loving me and i'll woolgather how can we be together again. If he's cold, i'd be sad and heartbroken. It inda of like asking for troubles myself. Nobody can help you if you don't open your heart and put the past behind. Ex is absolutely not able to do it. But i will miss him and be eager to know all information regarding him. I just don't talk him, don't meet him, don't sent txt message either.
• United States
5 Aug 08
Of course everyone at some point will have a first love. What I would say to my first love if ever I were to see him again is "Great to see you again. I have missed you so much. I do have a question for you though, who messed up the lists and why am I here in heaven?"