ending friendship

Philippines
August 5, 2008 9:11am CST
If we can divorce a marriage, can we end a friendship? I know one has to work on any relationship... we must adjust, learn to forgive, allow for mistakes and accept our friends flaws. But can one get tired of it? There are times in my case that acceptance for one's mistake and always apologizing sometimes do not work..if a friend always commit same mistakes, same pride, same tantrums and same talk for let say 5 years, dont u think its time for the friendship to end???
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4 responses
5 Aug 08
I had the same bestfriend from 9th grade till age 20 and the friendship ended because all she wanted to do was take and I was tired of giving. The straw that broke the camels back was when she accused me of wanting her boyfriend. She called and has tried to contact me but I want no part of it so in esscence I overlooked all her flaws, and forgave her but just decided to end the friendship for my own sanity.
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• Philippines
6 Aug 08
Yes we can forgive but it is very hard for us to forget what our friends done to us because the pain will always in our heart. Some friends only want to received but dont want to give back the love and care we are giving them.
@nutanjain (898)
• India
5 Aug 08
HI HOW ARE YOU I THINK IF WE ARE ENDING A RELATIONSHIP LIKE MARRIAGE OR LOVE AFFAIR THEN IT DOES NOT MEANS THAT WE HAVE ALSO END UP OUR FRIENDSHIP WITH THAT PERSON but it means that starting a new relation like being friends and finding a new way to live in life and i now a lot of persons going through divorce stage and they find a new dimension to a life when they find a new partner
@dheal888 (283)
• Indonesia
5 Aug 08
I agree with you. We only change title if ending a relationship marriage or love affair. But the essentially of friendship is never ending. Friendship is brotherhood and sometime there is great of our life.
6 Aug 08
I had a very good friend for 3 years. our friendship ended because of lot of back bitting because of just one thing, I didn't allow her to use my cellphone because I'm lending it with my boyfriend. I have given her a cellphone but she has lost it. From then she speaks out of bad things about me. she even spread gossips that iam pregnant when i grew fat. I have helped her and her family a lot when it comes to finances but one day i have heard that she's telling everyone that I have owe her and that I don't want to pay. She even tell everyone that I will not be able to graduate because I'm stupid!
@poona_m (336)
• India
5 Aug 08
The way I look at friendship can be explained this way. Friendship is like a cart. the two people involved in the friendship are like the two wheels of the cart. the cart runs the best when both the wheels are well maintained and of the same size. Now imagine a cart with one wheel fine and the other wheel broken. How far do you think the cart can go? I don't think much because the broken wheel is being dragged by the good wheel which is causing additional stress on the good wheel and it won't be long before the good wheel also becomes broken. This means that if in a friendship only one person is putting the efforts to carry on the friendship while the other is only taking advantage of it the friendship is bound to break. Now consider a situation where one wheel is smaller than the other. what would be the result? the result would be that though the cart would run but it would be running in circles and wont go far. soon you would find the cart back in the same position. the bigger the difference in the wheel size the smaller the circle. This means if both the people involved are not putting their efforts then the result would be a friendship that doesnt have much meaning and sooner than later it would go the way of the first case where in one of the wheels will break first and then the second will too.