What would you choose? Your children or help your husband to earn money?

Philippines
August 6, 2008 1:41am CST
For example, you need to work but you don't like to leave your children to nannies because you like to focus on what they are doing and what they eat in short, you wanna focus to your children but your husband who earn enough for your family ask if you wanna work to have extra income. You already search for work at home and other kind of extra income while your at home but the bigger income are in the city. What would you choose and why?
5 responses
@ayessa (1586)
• Philippines
6 Aug 08
That is what they say you can't have the best of both worlds. Why not try to look for a job near your house and then try to talk to the employers if you could bring your child to office. That is what I do. Before I work realy far from home and I was missing my baby so much so I decided to leave the job and look somewhere near so that I can still look for my baby every now and then. Also if you can find a good online job why not do that instead. That way you can also help your husband and at the same time watch for your kids. Now, if you can't still decide btter ask yourself what is your priority your child or work? Then your actions will depend on your answer. If you choose your child then forget about working or just like I mentioned above work at home find something that will make you earn. But if you choose work then find someone whom you can trust about the child's needs.
@ayessa (1586)
• Philippines
12 Aug 08
Thanks for appreciating my response!
@zeny_zion (1284)
• Philippines
14 Aug 08
mothers are really the best. they can do two things at the same time. theres on choosing what they can do. they can do both at the same time. i can do that. helping the husband to earn money while still taking care of the kids.
@dani27 (545)
• United States
6 Aug 08
I love staying at home but once my daughter was two I worked part time for a little while to get me out of the house and give my daughter time with her daddy. It is rare that my daughter has to get babysat we worked it out pretty well. She does like having time with a babysitter it is fun for a lot of kids. But I do agree I would rather being the one home with her. In our case I am able to stay home and we just have to make adjustments to our budget, but I do know some things are not possible and I don't think it is a horrible thing to work. There is a difference from working because you HAVE to and working because you want toys and material things. Also I think some people prefer working. It is a personal choice. While staying at home it is still important that I have time away and girls nights out. Do what you need to do.
• Philippines
6 Aug 08
If i could do both, it would be better. I tried to help my husband to earn money, but i have neglected the kids. I just talked to my employer so i could have a part time job, a MWF sched (half-day) so i could look after my kids and earn at the same time. The salary is not big enough, though it could cover the monthly house rental and electric bill.
@schilds (410)
• United States
6 Aug 08
I chose to not have children until we could afford for me to not work. It was also made very clear before we even married that if there were to be children they would be raise in our home by us, not babysitters. I work part time from home, and when my husband is home with our children. I realize not everyone has the choice, but it doesn't make any sense to me to choose to have children then pay someone else to take care of them. Why have them in the first place?