How well do you handle difficult first reactions ?

I am very bad with this, as bad as it can get! Even though I am trying hard I think I am the kind who would always take ages to recover from the setback. I used to get upset very easily, I still do and that's the reason I get unhappy easily. My boss says that we are not slaves to others ideas, so why should we get upset with what they think about us? They cannot control us in any way! Its true and I feel so much better thus. Alok, I think time is the best healer and its only with time that I kind of get over it. There are still age old scars which I haven't yet recovered from. It's tough but life must move on. Letting go is not easy and if or when we can do it we will live life in the true sense. Smiles...

depends what happened. If it's rage maybe the longest for me to compose back myself is a couple of days. Can't get mad for too long. If it's a disaster , the sense of disbelief probably would stay there longer..maybe forever..

Well I guess that like many people, sometimes my mouth tends to move faster than my brain and I say things without really thinking first when I am facing a surprise situation! I would like to think though that as I get older I am getting better at controlling myself in this regard. It is certainly not easy to always stay calm and it is actually amazing how differently you can feel about a situation even a few hours later than the event compared to when it immediately comes up! As for getting back my composure? Sometimes it can take me a while and it all comes down to the situation itself. But most of the time I would like to think that I embrace the "tomorrow is another day" mentality and wake up the next morning having moved on from the day before. But again, this is not always easy!

If i am in shocked i go into a motion of being immobile. Nothing will come out from my mouth. I just go statue like. But as the shocked wears of, I will be find then.

Well, usually I keep cool, and never react immediately.But , there were one or occasions , when I was really shocked...

I have come to gain patience in my life as I grew older. It can be hard to deal with drastic news sometimes but I just know that I have to move on. Talking to someone can also help. There have been a couple of shocking things in my life that I took hard at first but then I feel that I learned to cope easier with things as time went by. It is also good to keep faith if you believe in it.

at first i used to scream.now i have calmed down.i now keep quite and take deep breaths.it has helped me to a great extent.

Fortunately I am a very down to earth person and can handle stressful situations with a cool mind. I become more practical instead of hysterical, so thats a boon.

of course... these are the emotions that every human has to handle. there will be many things that shock us annoy us,or put us down. if things are really annoying me,i first think or speak to myself and then react or respond. earlier i used to react very angrily,but my teacher once told me that a angry human is similar to an animal,from then i do not react and make decisions in anger or rage...