after helping your kids earn their degree what do you expect////

Philippines
August 6, 2008 6:12am CST
what do you expect from your children when you grow old. After years of hard work,do you expect them to pay you in return?
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8 responses
@Amanda81587 (3046)
• United States
6 Aug 08
I would not expect anything nor would I want anything! I would just be proud that I could help them succeed in life. I would hope that they would take good care of me when I get older and fragile. But thats just life in general, its important wither they have a degree or not. I would definitly respect and absolutly encourage and my childrens desicion about education. I am currently attending college and I feel I have no support. Its kind of discouraging but I know I need to do it for myself and my children. So when they go through the same process I will think back to how I felt when no one was there and go that extra mile to make sure they are aware of how proud I am of them!
@gwoman2 (711)
• United States
6 Aug 08
Hi Amanda81587, Dido on your comment! I also just want my children to be successful and be able to be independent, period...I don't need any kudos from anyone nor do I want anything in return from my girls, as a parent it is my responsibility to make certain that before I retire from life that they are ok with themselves and with a good paying job that will help them live the lifestyle that I have always provided for them. I admire anyone who continues their education and believe it or not there are many people who admire you and are proud to know you. You keep on doing what you are doing and the heck with the world...remember those who do not support you in your endeavors are just jealous, yep, jealous...the big green monster has bitten them...and that is their problem. I am proud to be writing to a fellow student! ~Stay cool, stay well and never, never stress~ ~G~
7 Aug 08
no, the only obligation of our children to us is to finish their studies
• India
11 Aug 08
I agree with you. For me the only expectation from my kid will be to complete his studies successfully. even after completing degree he has continue his studies and do higher studies. Thats what will be my wish as a mother. Give the best education to him/her. no other expectation from our children.
• Philippines
24 Aug 08
Do you really believe that after your hard work to help them finish their studies,they will leave us when we are old.Of course I do not want to oblige them to pay me back because life is a cycle children will have another obligation for their own children
• United States
29 Aug 08
I would never expect anything in return as far as finance. I would expect them to use it to their fullest advantage. If they get this education or degree in a certain field ,btu then never use it for anything, that would bother me. If they offereed though and i was struggling financially for reasons out of my control, i would accept the help, but expect it, NO
• Philippines
1 Sep 08
At least you expected their offer to help.We really should admit that as their parents we don't want them to leave us alone especially when we are worn out.It's not the financial reasons it's the love and affection.You know what I mean.
• United States
13 Aug 08
What the H_ll? I would not think that anyone would want for their kids to be tied down taking care of them. I want for my kids to make the most of themselves and of their lives. We work so hard for them to have a good life and to be somthing. NOT SO THEY CAN TAKE CARE OF US but so that they can have a better life than we did. If you so unselfishly do all you can for your children...why would you selfishly want to take from them? It is also our responsibilty as parents to make sure that we are secure enough NOT to have to rely on them in our old age. Make your old age and final arrangements so that your children do not have to be burdened with it. While you were busy raising your children and struggling to make ends meet did your parents demand for you to support them? That would be insane.
• Philippines
24 Aug 08
Do you really believe you do not want them to take care of you when you are old and weak.Well I took care of my mother when she was old and weak and dying of old age.Will you really be happy if you die in a home for the aged?I hope my children will not do that.
@Erssyl (617)
• Philippines
9 Aug 08
I expect them to be good citizen.There is no amount of money you can pay your parents.Just follow the good example they taught you to do.Always do the right thing and don't do any foolishness that will hurt them.Stay close to them and always be there like a guardian angel.Helping them earn their degree is your achievement.Be happy for them.It's like harvesting what you sow.If you plant good seeds then your plant will bear excellent fruits.Always be thank full.
• Philippines
24 Aug 08
That's a good point to remember.We always wish them the best.
7 Aug 08
No the only obligation of a child to his parents is to finish his studies and not to pay back when he have a good job, but for me as respect with my parents its only right to help them with their lives when they got weak and old.
• Philippines
24 Aug 08
That's exactly what I also expect of them not to leave me alone when I get old and weak.
• India
6 Aug 08
Hi Maricel! I personally think that after years of hard labour for them right from their birth to school to college to work , parents are instrumental to the level of success a child attains in life . It is nothing but the parents sweat and blood and hard work which is responsible for all sucessess attained by their child . So it is the first and foremost duty of the child to look after their parents in the most pleasing way as poosible when they become adults. Parents are our living GOD so taking care of them is their prime duty.
• Philippines
24 Aug 08
Well I agree to your opinion.I hope my children will not leave me alone when I get old.And wish I would still be of help to them and continue guiding them if they agree.
@savmot (261)
11 Sep 08
As someones child, but not a parent, I think degree or not it is only right that throughout your adult life you support your parents to the best of your ability, be it financially if you can afford it and they need it, emotionally, or through giving them your time and help when they need it, just as they have done for you. Despite this, I don't think a parent has a 'right' to 'expect' anything. You do what you do for a child because you brought them into the world and you love them and you can hope for the best. But thats it....