Cheating on the Down Low

@lisa0351 (303)
United States
August 6, 2008 10:35am CST
I guess I have been thinking about this incident since it happened a few weeks ago. We went out with my brother and sister and law to a night club. My brother in law was getting wasted, and my sister in law was just hanging out with a few of our mutual friends. She asked me to walk to the bathroom with her, and then as soon as she got away from my brother in law, she started hitting on guys. She told me that as long as she looks and doesnt touch, her husband doesn't care. Well, she was getting phone numbers while I was standing there. I felt really bad about it. So then after all of that, she went back and danced with her husband. She would walk away every once in a while, even got another guy to buy her a drink. She told me not to tell, but I don't think thats a secret I should have to keep. My husband and I are close to them, should I tell him what I saw? My husband doesn't even know, I feel like I should tell him too, its been weighing on my conscience.
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5 responses
• United States
10 Aug 08
you should tell your husband but its probably not smart to put your nose into their marraige cause they'll only end up distancing themselves away from you. If you think she is cheating then the 1st person you should talk to is her. Let her know you don't support her behavior. If she doesn't listen then let her make her own mistakes but atleast you know you tried to help.
• United States
6 Aug 08
That's a sticky situation you know why lisa, because it's what I call a damned if you do and damned if you don't type of situation; one that I am currently in. No one wants to hear that they are being cheated on or deceived by their partner but at the same time, they don't want to be left in the dark either. There have been situations where the friend would tell her girlfriend that her boyfriend is cheating and the girlfriend would get upset and I saw it the other way around where the friend wouldn't tell and the girlfriend would get upset saying, why didn't you tell me. So it really depends on the person who you are going to tell. It depends on whether they would like to know or if they don't want to know and the only way to find that out is by risking it and tell. I have been hearing about my man being with this other woman, a woman I know, and I mean, I am hearing so much till I don't want to hear anymore. It is a long story but right now I am confused and don't know what to do. I wish you the best with your situation and God Bless!
@carolscash (9500)
• United States
6 Aug 08
If it is bothering you,then tell them. Her husband might be fine with the idea as long as she is not calling them or going home with them, but I don't think that it is acceptable for married people to act like that. I wouldn't want my husband to get other girls' numbers.
• United States
6 Aug 08
Sometimes husband don't care that there wifes get phone numbers and guys to guy the drinks but if it is weighting on you conscience than i would tell him if it thats bad.. I don't think my husband would get mad if a guy gave me their phone nuber as long as i riped it up in front of him and throw it away.. Now on the whole buyng of the drink thing i don't see any problem with that as long as she isn't going hom with them... It saves money is guys buy you drinks but really if you feel the need to tell him that go ahead i don't see anything wrong with it... If you really feel the need to than tell him no one is stopping you...
• United States
6 Aug 08
Wow, Lisa! That's really rotten. If I were you, Id avoid going out with that couple again. She's turning you into an accomplice, and you're clearly unwilling. She really has some nerve! These aren't behaviors you should have to be concerned with.