Newly Weds

@dlufel (424)
Australia
August 8, 2008 1:27am CST
Hi all, I'm about to get married in a few months. I kinda get a cold feet when i think about my future life and lots of example of failed marriages. What do you think people usually do in the early stages of their marriage that caused their marriage to fail? What do we really need to know to make our marriage last (just like the wedding vows) until the death sets us part?
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@dpk262006 (52503)
• Delhi, India
8 Aug 08
I see some of the respondents have given you very useful advice, before me. First of all please do not think too much about success or failure. Always think in the positive terms. Marriage is a union of two souls, ablbeit from different background. Even if you know your partner before hand, it takes considerable time to adjust after marriage. It is a 'give and take' relationship. It is said that - "It requires two to clap". So if you both cooperate with each other, your life will go smoothly. Mutual understanding and trust is essential between you and your partner. It would be better if you treat your partner on equal footing and give her/him due respect and regards. You will need to know your partner better and thoroughly to get along with him/her. If you are patient and make your partner realise your needs and place after marriage, you will succeed. My best wishes are with you.
@dlufel (424)
• Australia
8 Aug 08
Yes .. yes .. just like the phrase ' it takes two to tango '. :) Best wishes to you too.
@dpk262006 (52503)
• Delhi, India
11 Aug 08
Thanks for the best wishes and appreciating my quote! Have a wonderful married life, when you are into it.
• United States
8 Aug 08
In my opinion, so long as you communicate with one another, compromise and love each other, everything else is up to the course of life. Sometimes things just don't work out. I personally think you just shouldn't worry about it. Do your best and whatever happens, happens.
@dlufel (424)
• Australia
8 Aug 08
Thank you for your response. :) Communication really is important.
@SomeCowgirl (32273)
• United States
8 Aug 08
The first year is always the rockiest but after that all will be well. Have faith and love, and believe in not only your newlywedded husband but also yoruself as the bride and his wife. Be the person you want people to see you as but to thine ownself be true. Never fight, or go to bed angry. Do not seek revenge against hurtful words but seek answers to his anger. Love completely and truly. Love is patient and kind but one must be patient and kind before the love you share can be so. My fiance and I will also be wed soon. Good luck and I hope your marriage propsers! When you get to the altar, look him in the eyes and show him your soul, bear in in the glance and with each promise stare deeper and deeper. Remember this moment forever and treasure it, for each fight you have look back on that day and remember the vows you took. No conflict can set you apart, but it can only bring you closer! Good Luck! Have a wonderful and lovely day!
@dlufel (424)
• Australia
8 Aug 08
Thank you so much for your response and those beautiful sentences. Hope everything will be terrific too for u. :)
@lisa0351 (303)
• United States
10 Aug 08
Hello soon to be newly wed! I have been married two years, and its not as easy at I thought it would be. It is great, but its also scary. You have money issues, spending time together, balancing a job and a home life, discussion of starting a family, you name it, any topic that applies to you. If you dont live together allready, you have that adjustment period to getting used to a new home and living with someone new. Our biggest problem starting out was money and a budget. Things got a little out of hand and that is why we fought. Just don't worry about things, talk them out....and use this as a HUGE tip: Never go to bed mad....whatever you do! Take the time and just talk, communicate, and you will be happy forever. Its worked for two years so far with us!