What do you do to fit into your church?

@Arkie69 (2156)
United States
August 8, 2008 6:37am CST
Are you free to speak your mind and act the way you believe you should in your church? Do you find yourself holding back? Do you find yourself needing more than what you are getting out of your church? Be honest and express your true feelings about your church.
8 responses
• United States
9 Aug 08
I attend a pretty big church, so it is basically many little churches within a church all regulated by the politics of the larger. I have to say I have felt at home and welcome there, but I have felt outside and alone there as well. It all depends on the day and who I run into. It is hard to build good foundations there because people move from clas to class, from one worship sevice to another. SO it changes on a regular basis. No one is completely free to speak their monds at any church, but I have stepped out on al imb a few times.Things I just could not bite my tongue about any longer. I did feel a little heat when I did, but it subsided rather quickly. I'm not sure of your intentions on this topic...so what are you getting at here?????
@Arkie69 (2156)
• United States
9 Aug 08
My point is people that go to church don't have the freedom they need to serve God the way He intended us to. You have to be very careful what you say and do or there is always someone ready to pounce on you and point out how you are wrong. We all need total freedom to serve God the way He teaches us to and you are not going to have that in most churches. I just got tired trying to serve God man's way instead of God's way. I finally just gave up on churches.
• United States
9 Aug 08
Yes. I agree with you. I haven't given up on churches tho. I can't reach anyone if I seclude myself. Plus its a good way to fellowship and network with people and find those with a similar belief system for support.
@Arkie69 (2156)
• United States
21 Aug 08
Edgyk,If we truly serve God the way we should it is real hard to find anyone that will agree with you. Your teaching just doesn't seen to fit in anywhere. I'm not in the business of trying to lead Christians. I figure it's my job to lead people to God that don't already know him. I mostly work one on one. I grant you it can take you to some strange places. It may be a bar, a gambling house or any other place people go that need to know God. If you can fit into a church enjoy it but don,t make the mistake of trying to serve God man's way.
@guybrush (4662)
• Australia
9 Aug 08
Many years ago when I used to go to church, I found it wasn't a good idea to speak up. I DID speak up eventually, because I found something to be incredibly hypocritical - and then I didn't go back. I would never belong to 'organised' religion again, as I find human interpretation of the Bible to be mostly self-serving. Having said that, I respect everyone's entitlement to their own beliefs and have friends of many religions. It's entirely up to us to believe whatever we wish.
@Arkie69 (2156)
• United States
9 Aug 08
I agree with you on everything but one point. You said; "It's entirely up to us to believe whatever we wish". I believe we should concentrate on believing what God shows us to be truth. Most Christians are believing whatever they wish and I believe that is a lot of our problem. God's real truth is the only thing that will get us where we need to go. Less and less of God's real truth is being taught in the churches. Far too much of the teaching is aimed at the adults. This must be or the adults will stop paying to keep the doors open. The adults carry the check book so the Christian teacher must keep them happy.
@guybrush (4662)
• Australia
9 Aug 08
Yes, this is true - assuming we all believe in God. Many don't, or worship gods other than the Christian one. Others are Pagan or atheist - so what I meant to say was that everyone should be respected for their own beliefs.
• Philippines
8 Aug 08
for me, being inside the church means getting to know God more and knowing His plans for me, and what life would i need to live for.. i think you need to check out www.esoriano.wordpress.com try it my friend, my questions were answered there, all were directly answered from what the bible says..
• Philippines
8 Aug 08
as to what speaking freely, i believe when speaking in truth, you have to speak it out loud, especially to those who is doing wrong regarding God's teachings, as it was written in Isaiah 58:1 "Cry aloud, spare not, lift up thy voice like a trumpet, and show my people their transgression, and the house of jacob their sins." even Christ tells something about speaking of the truth, in matthew 10:27 "What i tell you in darkness, that speak ye in light: and what ye hear in the ear, that preach ye upon the housetops." .. so with regards to the teachings of the bible, as long as your telling the truth of Christ's doctrines, then you have to speak it clearly..
@Arkie69 (2156)
• United States
8 Aug 08
tin_cierva, Wouldn't you much rather have God in person show you what His plan for you is than some man in the church? We actually have that choice now. A good working personal relationship with God is not a "One size fits all". God will teach and guide you to do one thing and me something else. With God our teaching is very personal. I need slightly different information than you do. I may also need it presented to me slightly different that you do. I believe differently than you do so to get us both on the right track He must give is different information.
• Philippines
8 Aug 08
Of course, no one here I suppose who be able to "speak what he wants" in a church, I mean we have to behave accordingly when we are in there. As far as I am concerned, I am free to express myself in some degree in a sense like talking to my churchmates and my pastor about things I don't understand, I mean I have to be honest on things that I am not in comformed with like for instance my stand on some doctrines I believe contradictory to what i have studied, believed in and embraeed ex. tithing. But I have to see to it that I express it in a manner not offending to them, I have to talk to them and tell how I viewed it to be no longer necessary or practiced, they respect me on that though, however, my beliefs doesnt necessarily means that it is already accepted generally. No big deal to me though.
@Arkie69 (2156)
• United States
8 Aug 08
There is the problem right there I was trying to bring out. You said; "But I have to see to it that I express it in a manner not offending to them". Is this the way Jesus taught? No it is not. Jesus spoke the truth and could have cared less is it offended someone. We should do the same and you are not going to do that in any church I know of. If you teach the first 4 books of the New Testament exactly the way Jesus did you are teaching the truth. No matter what we are doing I say do it like Jesus did and you will not go wrong.
• Philippines
27 Aug 08
I am ok with my church, i have learned so many things there. We have freedom to express and ask questions at the right time and places.
@rmuxagirl (7569)
• United States
21 Aug 08
What I do to fit into my church is I get involved. I go to the ladies meetings, I help out with youth functions, I go to Bible study and I helped out at the church summer camp which I'm doing again. I don't find myself holding back. I feel comfortable in my church and I get everything that I need from it. We are doing more and more to meet more needs of the community.
• Philippines
18 Aug 08
I feel very welcome by the church. I always look forward to our fellowships. As for me, I need not do something extra-ordinary to fit in. I just have to be myself and be align with everybody in confessing our faith.
• India
8 Aug 08
As a Roman Catholic I do feel the need for greater interaction between the priests and those attending mass .... but that doesnt really happen .