Have you ever asked someone why they love you? or is that stupid to ask?

@sharie16 (2213)
Philippines
August 8, 2008 7:10am CST
did you ever do that, or to your own perception, was that a stupid question?
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@kayedanda (1850)
• Philippines
8 Aug 08
I ask it once in while. Its because i need to know what he loves most about me and improve on those characteristics so that he may not find me a dull partner. i don't know why but i always need reassurance from him that he loves me, that his feelings has not changed. maybe I'm just being paranoid, but that's just me ^^
• Singapore
8 Aug 08
haha.. you are not paranoid. Don't worry! It's a very natural instinct of someone to ask another person just to reassure themselves. And I believe that majority of the girls on this planet Earth would have asked their partners at least once in their time together with their guy. No worries =0)
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@sharie16 (2213)
• Philippines
8 Aug 08
yes i also agree with you angelia..since i also do the same, so i think its not being paranoid...and you're right kayedanda that we just need assurance if they really love us...so it wasn't stupid at all i guess..
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@kayedanda (1850)
• Philippines
8 Aug 08
whew! that's a relief :D
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@rocker21 (2718)
• India
8 Aug 08
Its not really stupid to ask rather its just like other questions are. And by the way a very nice question which makes the other feel nice and good, when your partner tells you, expresses you that they love you for this reason that you are their everything
@sharie16 (2213)
• Philippines
8 Aug 08
indeed rocker..its a nice feeling when you hear them saying how much they love us...
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@rocker21 (2718)
• India
9 Aug 08
Yes , its like being on top of the world when some one tells you they love you and tat some one who you love the most!
@sharie16 (2213)
• Philippines
10 Aug 08
yes...absolutely...feels like heaven..LOL
@n30wing (4771)
• Philippines
8 Aug 08
Yes and usually the answer is I find that a questions silly. Cause when your in love you love everything with that person even that person is not perfect.
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@sharie16 (2213)
• Philippines
8 Aug 08
i respect your opinion n30wing...every person has its own view of point in life and in love...Good night! Thanks for the post!
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• Philippines
9 Aug 08
I guess most guys did when ask this question. But It might be silly for you guys. It's important for us girls. Hearing it from the one you love makes us feel we're the luckiest person in the whole world. Makes us feel we're important.
@sharie16 (2213)
• Philippines
10 Aug 08
yes sheenmadness...it really sounds so good to hear them saying why they love us...
• China
8 Aug 08
I never ask my girlfriend weather she love me or not,i think that as long as she love me,i can realise it. best wishes to you.
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@sharie16 (2213)
• Philippines
8 Aug 08
thanks for the post aquarius...at least you feel how much your girlfriend loves you... Happy mylotting!
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• United States
8 Aug 08
Well, I suppose it depends on how it's asked. I consider myself to be a very upfront person and I have asked that. It feels good to hear the resons why my husband loves me. He asks me then in return. We tell each other the great things about one another.I believe in if it's a sked like that it is good. Now, I think that this question could also be something that is asked by someone that might not feel worthy of love or doesnt know all of the good qualities about themselves that they must ask someone else, then thats different. It would show signs of insecurities or a negative self-woth.I have a friend that always asks her boyfriend this and she is very insecure with herself.
@sharie16 (2213)
• Philippines
8 Aug 08
yes it's good to know from both parties how much you love each other...but if it is a daily routine asking your partner that question, it really sounds like you are not contented with your partner's answer or how your partner show you how much he/she loves you...furthermore asking these question always might just turn out that your partner might be irritated on you, or might find another man/woman...
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@towongfoo27 (2989)
• United States
8 Aug 08
Hi sharie16! I don't think any question asked is stupid! The question not asked is. Although it is a worthy question, sometimes I feel it is better to just let things ride, instead of trying to rationalize a reason for love. I say that because some things just are, whether we believe them or not.
@sharie16 (2213)
• Philippines
8 Aug 08
yes...thanks for the post!
• United States
8 Aug 08
Yes, I often wonder. "whats so special about me?" "what makes me different from anyone else?" There are different reasons why you may love someone and of course you want to why out of everyone on this earth you were the pick. It is not a stupid question at all.
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@sharie16 (2213)
• Philippines
8 Aug 08
its good to know the reason why of all we are the chosen one..when we feel insecurities, its good to ask to our partners why and how much they love us, maybe their answer might give us an assurance to the relationship we are in, and forget those insecurities...
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@angelia286 (2029)
• Singapore
8 Aug 08
I don't think that that is a stupid question to ask. Haha, but I had never asked that question to my partner. I believe that my boyfriend loves me, and that is why he is together with me. Furthermore to that, I also trust that he would say that if he wants to, and there is no need for me to ask just to reassure myself. Lol.. I think most people will ask their partners this question just to reaffirm themselves with their partners, or they just love hearing their partners say this, but their partners is lacking in it, and needs the pushing in order to say it! I trust my own instincts and my instincts tells me that my boyfriend loves me, from the way he cares for me, and jsut be there for me. I don't think that I would ever need to ask this question to him just to confirm my standing in his heart. How about you? =)
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@sharie16 (2213)
• Philippines
8 Aug 08
haha..i sometimes ask my boyfriend...well its good to hear sometimes eventhough i know how much he loves me...and eventhough actions speak louder than words, words are still good to hear sometimes from your partner...LOL... but good for you, you are in a healthy relationship that you really can feel how much and how deep your boyfriend loves you, and the same as he does...hope you would stay in tact...GOD bless!
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• Philippines
8 Aug 08
I always do that. I don't think that's a stupid question to ask but every time I ask my husband that question he tend to be irritant.hehehehe... he believes that there's no need to ask, can't I see his gestures. He believes action speaks louder than words. But what I want is to hear his answer just to reassure me. Yeah I know he loves me very much I can feel it. But I want to hear it too and feel it at the same time. hehehe
@sharie16 (2213)
• Philippines
8 Aug 08
yes, sometimes it is good to hear how much they love us, but when our partner gets irritated then we might lessen asking this questions to them...although sounds good when we hear from them how lucky we are for being the pick...LOL...
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• Philippines
9 Aug 08
Yeah that's what I do. Though from time to time I still ask him that same question but I make sure he is in the proper condition and mode as to prevent him from annoying. hehehehe...
@sharie16 (2213)
• Philippines
10 Aug 08
yes...or else he might yell at you....LOL