How can I stop my husband from smoking?

@kayedanda (1850)
Philippines
August 8, 2008 11:17am CST
I know he smokes even when we were still on the early stages of our relationship but now, it's getting in my nerves. He stinks after he had a smoke and kissing him is not as much enjoyable as it used to be. I am also worried for my baby who might be affected by his habit. I tried telling him this but it seems that he's way too addicted to it that he cannot stop. I don't know how else to tell him that I want him to stop without us ending up in a fight. I am so confused.
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8 responses
• Indonesia
10 Aug 08
Just say exactly what you said in this myLot. Just express your true feeling about him smoking, explain him the danger to you, himself, and his baby. If he keeps doing that, then what can you do more? At least, you have said it to him. In daily life, you can show him your dislike by taking your baby to other room when he is smoking, or refuse to be kissed before he wash away the smoking smells from his mouth (but say it gently).
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• Indonesia
11 Aug 08
Oh my....what can I say more? what can you say more? I guess you could just continue to do that. After all, It's for the best of you and your baby. But deep inside my heart I really hope that he eventually realize about his bad habit. My pray for you.
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• Philippines
11 Aug 08
Good day... I've seen people who wouldn't quit for any reason even if their health and the health of those people around them are at risk because of their smoking, it is just isn't good enough reason for them to stop. I guess you should really impose for ho to stop for his and more importantly to you and your baby's health. Smoking is hazardous no question about it tell him to seek consult for quitting and if he doesn't then the next step to take is your decision. You could stay with him until you and your baby get sick or make rules about smoking around you and your child or even prohibit him smoking inside the room or inside the house. It is really your decision.
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@pearl1003 (671)
• Philippines
8 Aug 08
make him pay you 20 pesos each stick he lights up... tell him it's not good for his health and it's not good to you and your baby too... My mom who is 51 years old smokes until now and she promised me on her 50th birthday that she wil stop. Well, i told her to add 20 pesos each stick she smokes to our monthly budget. funny coz she's not doing it, but then she's trying to stop coz of me nagging her about it over and over. Try it to your hubby, it might work. My mom says she's gonna stop smoking when her first grandchild comes out... and that's anytime next week! haha.... I wish she'll really stop this time.
• United States
8 Aug 08
You really can't stop your husband from smoking.. Its his own choice thats he smokes... So it his will to stop.. My husband and I are both smokers i really don't care if he smokes.... I won't make him stop untill i get pregnant thats when i will put my foot down about it...
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• United States
8 Aug 08
Sorry, darlin'. You can't. My husband tried for more than 40 years to get me to quit. Finally, I just made up my mind that I had to do it, and I have'nt smoked since las Hallowween.
@Refugee (85)
8 Aug 08
i'm afraid that's impossible,unless he would like
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@ravinskye (8245)
• United States
8 Aug 08
Well, you can tell him your reasons and ask him to stop, but unless he wants to stop there is no making him. My husband smoked when we got together but he knew that I didn't like it. He tried to give it up because I complained about it. It worked for awhile but he ended up smoking again and was doing it behind my back which caused more problems for us. He wanted to quit though so we worked on it together. I gave him all my support and he slowly cut down each week until he didn't need them anymore. He's been smoke free for 3 months now. I've very proud of him. If you husband wants to quit he could talk to a doctor. My dad is trying to quit, he got a doctor to prescribe him a pill to help. I think it is called Chantix or something like that.
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@misty99 (736)
8 Aug 08
I think it would be very hard to make him stop it.He may not smoke in front of you but at your back he'll be smoking like h.....My mom was a smoker since i can remember.She stopped for a while and came back with smoking again.She has it until her last heart attack-we partly blame her being smoker or maybe it's really her time-who knows.Back to you......tell you husband that secondhand smoke is dangerous as well,your kid could get ear infections,can catch bronchitis/pneumonia.Maybe you could print out some articles how smoking can affect his health,your health and the baby's health.Wish you luck!