What is your hardest life experience thus far?

@samijo719 (1054)
United States
August 8, 2008 2:01pm CST
We have all faced hard times in life. Sudden, deaths, money hardships, bad relationships, etc. What would you say is the hardest experience you have faced and how did you deal with it? I would have to say the hardest experience for was losing my grandpa in May was the hardest experience of my life so far. It was very sudden. He was only 59 years old. I was at work when I found out and my mom was just devasted. Her and my grandpa were VERY close. SHe is still having a very hard time coping. It has made it extra hard because he should still be alive today. The only reason he died was an accidental overdose Methadone. A painkiller he shouldnt have been on, especially for 6 months and mixed with his other medications. It's horrible that doctors are getting away with this kind of thing. WE researched it and accidental Methadone overdose is becoming very common because they are very intense painkilelrs used to get drug addicts of drugs and should not be mixed with most other medications. Anyways, we have been slowly dealign ith the emotions. It's onlybeen a few montsh so it's still very hard...
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@bamakelly (5194)
• United States
8 Aug 08
That is a very sad story and I am so sorry for the loss. It must seem like yesterday to you. About six years ago I had placed my first son up for adoption. He went to very loving parents in which I have met before. I have seen pictures of him and it is still heartbreaking. I have a second son right now who is almost five. My husband who I wasn't married to at the time and myself weren't able to care for a baby at that point in time due to financial stresses.
@samijo719 (1054)
• United States
8 Aug 08
Thank you for your kind words. I'm sorry to hear about your son but you are very lucky you get to see pictures of him still. Alot of adoptive parents are willing to do that so that is great you are blessed with that!
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@bamakelly (5194)
• United States
8 Aug 08
Thank you for your kind words here also. I really appreciate your touching words. It really means a lot to me.
• Malaysia
9 Aug 08
mine was a bit different experience, until the day i married my husband of 14 years i was leaving a lost life. his family did not approve of me. my family was rushing me. i was getting old. every relative were asking when i will be married. my wedding day was not what a girl dream. we just rushed it to avoid anyone stoping it. i cried on my wedding day as i felt his family did not respect my parents. my dad did not smile, my mother was keeping her cool. they were not at my side, as it was like his family affair suddenly. it is not heaven after marriage now... we are not able to have child as we married late and both of us not fertile and we tired of trying, praying and hoping every time of the month but we are learning to adapt to this life.. my sadness of not having my own child will never fade
@samijo719 (1054)
• United States
11 Aug 08
Wow, I'm glad she was okay and grew into a strong woman! You're very strong for having endured all you have.
@SusanLee (1920)
• United States
9 Aug 08
I'm sorry about your loss. Losing someone you love because of a pill is horrifhing. My hardest experiences have to do with my two oldest children, they both, at different times found themselves in situations that were beyond my control. I couldn't step in and help them or fix the situation for them. My helplessness was crushing. All I could do was look to God to comfort me, and then try to comfort them and encourage them and let them know I loved them no matter what.
@samijo719 (1054)
• United States
11 Aug 08
I'd imagine not being help to your children would be a very hard situation to be. I don't have children but I've been in situations where I had lvoed ones going through hard times and wanted to help but it's true sometimes you have to stand back and Give it to God. I hope everything ended up working otu for you!
@cncoke (439)
• China
9 Aug 08
My hardest life experience was that my husband's second operation.I won't forget it for ever.It suddenly happened on the day of 20th April,2000.He had a bad stomachache,and after a while,he couldn't even speak.We sent him to the hospital and had a check.Tomorrow was Saturday,and the doctor on duty saw nothing happened and took easy.But on Sunday afternoon,things went bad.my husband was nearly shocked,then the doctor decided to take an operation on him.He was saved,but he was seriously hurt.one month later,he was out of hospital and went home.But from then on,he was always in low state.
@samijo719 (1054)
• United States
11 Aug 08
omgosh. that is awful. I'm so sorry but I'm glad he made it!
@chtan007 (18)
• Singapore
9 Aug 08
Mine will be seeing my dad pass away infront of me and I can't do anything to help him reduce his pain. Although we all must agree that when the time is up, one have to die someday but it is always very difficult to get with it. Until today, I still feel ashame that I did not do much more when I have the time with him. That's life and we have to get over it and think of the future. There is always happiness infront of us but we might not be able to treasure it until it have left us. Think positive and we will always be happy....
@samijo719 (1054)
• United States
9 Aug 08
I am so sorry to hear about your loss!!
@nicholejade (2430)
• Canada
9 Aug 08
The hardest thing I have gone through and still going through is my back injury. I will have to endure some form of pain my whole entire life. I was in a car accident 2.5 years ago where I rolled my truck 4 times in the ditch doing highway speed (100km). I smoked the ditch pretty hard and that's why the truck rolled 4 times. It has been devasting ever since. I thought my pain at the beginning was bad at the beginning but enduring everyday since then with the increasing pain and nothing helping it is truly a struggle. I hope one day I will be able to go out and have and do the things I love doing like dancing and doing crazy things like bullriding. I know right now I can never do that and it gets quite depressing.
@samijo719 (1054)
• United States
9 Aug 08
Omgosh! I'm so glad to to hear you at least made it out! That is so scary. I'm sorry about your back injury though. :-(
• United States
8 Aug 08
I've had deafs in my family and they hurt and it was hard for me to over come them...as i am very BIG !! on my family and they are very important to me !! I must say the hardist thing was growing up with out a father...My father wasn't trying to be involved in my life !! It hurted so bad because when i was younger he use to come around and see me at my grandma's house all the time . As i got older no calls,no e-mails,no letters no nothing. !! I think this was because of how my mom acted towards him , she use to always talk bad about him to his face and trash him out !!! :( Now My dad and I talk and I love him very very much, he calls me every single day and he often sends money too..which is always a good thing..I dont never throwed what he did or what he has done back in his face as I know its all ways we can improve...Thats why I guess today I am so upset that my ex boyfriend and I aren't a family..(im exspecting a baby november yayyy ) I broke up with him because of some issues i was going threw...So thats why i think its important for fathers to be fathers because kids need two parents...One parent can't raise a child fully !! thats how i feel atleast.
@samijo719 (1054)
• United States
9 Aug 08
I'm sorry to hear about him not being around when you are little but that is amazing that he is there for you now! It's never too late. :-)
@SheliaLee (2738)
• United States
9 Aug 08
My daughter is 21 years old now but when she was 4 months old she had to have open heart surgery because of a severe congenital heart defect she was born with. That was the hardest time of my life, having to watch them put her on a hospital gurney going to surgery knowing that there was always the possibility she wouldn't survive. I was crying and the nurses were crying with me as we watched them take her down the hall. As I said, she is doing fine now but as a parent that was the worst thing I have ever gone through.
@dropofrain (1168)
• India
9 Aug 08
I think what happened with you was a real shock of life. I felt the same when I lost my grandmother. Though she had become old but still she was fit. So it was a real shock for everyone. I think the one with whom you are very emotionally attached leaves you like this makes you very sad in life. I think god should do something about this.