Phew...It was negative!

@foxyfire33 (10009)
United States
August 8, 2008 5:24pm CST
I can't say we're out of the woods yet since it may have been too early to test...I bought the kind that can detect pregnancy up to 5 days early but her cycles are really off from switching and going off birth controls so much over the past few months....but stepson's girlfriend just took the HPT I got her and it was negative! I got her a double kit so she can take another in a week or so if the symptoms don't go away, just in case this time was too early. I'm relieved because of the drama a positive result would have caused...but here's the weird part. I asked her if she was happy, she said "I don't know kinds, I was kind of hoping I was pregnant." WTF!!! This is the same girl that told me just this morning that she'd agreed to an abortion to keep stepson happy! And now she wishes she really had been pregnant? For what? I don't understand...I'm just glad she's probably not pregnant because I don't think either of them know what they want. Maybe they've had enough of a scare to be more careful from now on though. Or she'll get it through her head that he's still a jerk whether she's pregnant or not and break up with him for good.
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@Erilyn (3020)
• United States
9 Aug 08
Foxy, I don't want to burst your bubble or be the bearer of bad news, but just as a heads up, you might want to take her for a blood test to be sure. The reason I say that is when i was preg with my daughters, I never showed positive on a urine preg test. I was 4 months preg with my second daughter and the test I took showed negitive. I had to have a blood test to show positive. My oldest daughter i didn't show positive until I was 7 months preg on a urine test. For some reason my body did not release the hormone that would show on a test.
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@foxyfire33 (10009)
• United States
9 Aug 08
Ugh...I know. I wasn't that bad but it took a full month to show up positive with my oldest son so I know how that goes. I keep telling her that one negative doesn't mean anything for sure, especially with how she is feeling. She's going to retest in a week and talk to her mom abot seeinmg a doctor after that.
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@Erilyn (3020)
• United States
9 Aug 08
I think that is a great idea hun. Taking her to the doctor would definitivly answer the question for good. And if she isn't then she can discuss a form of birth control that would work better for her.
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@sedel1027 (17855)
• United States
8 Aug 08
Congrats (I hope!). I know you don't need a grandchild running around right now. I hope this puts a good scare in here and she is more careful. Maybe both of them will get their acts together.
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@foxyfire33 (10009)
• United States
8 Aug 08
No, we really didn't need another litle one running around regardless of who it belonged to. We would deal with it if it happens but would rather it didn't. I hope they learned something out of this anyway!
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• United States
8 Aug 08
I hope they learned something also. Young people play this game all the time and then reality hits them between the eyes and they have to grow up real fast.
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• United States
8 Aug 08
maybe she liked the attention that she was getting? im not saying she had planned it or was making it up for attention but since she was getting attention anyways maybe it made her feel more important?? well lets just hope they figure out the right way to handle this subject from now on!!
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@foxyfire33 (10009)
• United States
9 Aug 08
I hadn't thought of that...I suppose it is possible. Maybe she wants a reason for stepson to get it together and commit to just her or look like a total jerk for not committing to her and a pregnancy "seems" the the perfect solution. Ugh...teenagers!
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@sweetdesign (5151)
• United States
8 Aug 08
Well that is certainly a relief sort of cause she still could be pregnant. She needs to see a doctor at any rate cause of her symptoms. they are both immature children playing an adult game. She probably never wanted to get the abortion in the first place and just agreed to it to please the stepson. She needs to get away from him.
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@foxyfire33 (10009)
• United States
9 Aug 08
Yes, she definitely needs to get far away from him! I'll still be edgy about this for the next few weeks until we can know 100% that she isn't but hopefully we can all at least have time to get a better plan if she is.
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@Opal26 (17690)
• United States
9 Aug 08
Poor foxy! There's never an end to the drama! I wish you could take yourself and YOUR family and run far away from these losers! You need some peace of mind This isn't you problem. Where is his father in all this? Why does it become your problem. Doesn't she have a mother? I pray that she doesn't end up being preganant. Those tests are pretty accurate these days. I had a girlfriend who swore she was pregnant. She knew she was because all 4 times before she was! She looked like she was preganant, felt like she was but she wasn't. Every test, including drs. test said no! Don't worry, at least your stepson is smart enough to know he isn't ready to take care of a child.
@foxyfire33 (10009)
• United States
9 Aug 08
Oh where to start...His father knew everything but not until things hit the fan last night. He promised to get involved if we found out for sure that she was pregnant. Her motheer felt the same as the rest of us and was really trying to be supportive BUT stepson played his headgames and girlfriend did not go home to her mom (or on their family vacation this weekend) like she was supposed to. So it wasn't really all my problem, it was shared by all of us just in different ways. I'm not so sure that I would consider stepson very smart right at the moment but at least he can admit he's too immature to be responsible.
@checapricorn (16066)
• United States
9 Aug 08
Hi foxy, Great to hear that....I know it will disturbing to handle the situation if it was positive and I agree with you, they are still young to face bigger responsibilities so hopefully it is really 100% sure that she is negative and they will be careful next time!
• United States
9 Aug 08
Well sounds like the parents need to get the girl tested for good and quickly. I think she need to be put on IUC, or Mirena it be a good idea. Or ask the stepson to break up with the girlfriend unless she pregnant then he will need to get a job to pay child support.
@Sherry12 (2475)
• United States
9 Aug 08
I was reading your other discussion about your step-son and his girlfriend. I'm glad she isn't pregnant. I agree with you, it doesn't sound like either of them is ready for a baby yet. Hopefully this will have scared them both enough to be more responsible.
@Jenaisle (3803)
• Philippines
9 Aug 08
WEll, these kits are sometimes not too sensitive. You'll have to retest, Yes it may be too early yet. Ater a week and it's still negative then it is already confirmatory. If she is positive then perhaps she wants it also. Why don't you have a heart to heart talk with her. She might welcome a child and this child might be the blessing they've been waiting for. Good luck.
@us2owls (1681)
• United States
9 Aug 08
This girl sounds somewhat of a dizzy brain. I am glad the test was negative and I sure hope it stays that way. Just think what a poor innocent little baby would go through with these two. Good luck and happy testing - lol
@irishidid (8563)
• United States
9 Aug 08
Don't be too hard on the girl. I'm not surprised she was kind of hoping she was pregnant, but I don't get having an abortion just to keep someone happy. Pregnancy tests are pretty accurate these days. When I had my first there were no home pregnancy tests and I had to go to the clinic where I was told the results were negative. Nine months later my negative pregnancy test was born. A big negative 9lbs 9 1/2 oz.
• Philippines
9 Aug 08
good for you and your family. But your stepson's girlfriend is really weird. I read your other post but I dont know what to say so I did not respond to it, but I am really glad it was negative because I feel sorry for the baby if he will be aborted. So anyway, what's with his girlfriend. One time she likes to be pregnant and then abort it then be pregnant?! Hmm.. Maybe she is just having hormonal imbalance.