Would you try for another baby after losing first one?

United States
August 21, 2006 9:18pm CST
I lost my daughter last year from diagnosis called Septo Optic Dysplasia. My husband and I want to have 2 more if we can but we are scared. What would you do?
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@oresal (1351)
• El Salvador
31 Oct 06
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Sorry to hear that, but definetely, the worse u can do is get all depressed and sad, ur not trying to replace the first one, but u dont need to stop at one. Go ahead
• United States
31 Oct 06
Thank you for your response. You are right, Im not trying to replace my daughter, I always wanted to have 3 children so I cant just sit and think about what if all the time.
@ozkid92 (550)
• United States
30 Oct 06
Septo is quite UNcommon, so there is a very small chance any other children you have may get it.
• United States
31 Oct 06
Thank you for your comment. Yes it very uncommon and not that many doctors know about the symptom. With the blood work from my daughter, ( havent done our blood work yet), doctors thinks I dont have to worry about having another mentally challenged child.
• Netherlands
30 Oct 06
I'm sorry you lost your daughter. When you want or dare to trie mayby you can go to your doctor first. He or she can tell you about the risk and help you from the begining to the end. I hope you can make a dissicion together.
• United States
30 Oct 06
Thank you for your response. We talked to the doctors and they think we are going to have only 4 to 6 percent of having a diable children. We are talking about trying for another one soon.
@MrsFrizzle (1964)
• United States
30 Oct 06
I think that as long as you are working with your doctor and he says it is okay why not. You seem like a wonderful mother and you loved it why not do it again.
• United States
30 Oct 06
Thank you for your response. Doctors tells us that we shouldnt have another baby with disability. We are talking more and more about having a baby again.
• United States
22 Oct 06
i'd take a few months or so to heal (emotionally), or i'd wait until i was absolutely comfortable with trying again.
• United States
22 Oct 06
feb07mommy- thanks for your response.
@amiksinha (1961)
• India
5 Oct 06
Sorry to hear this. But u shd plan for another one or u can adopt one
• United States
22 Oct 06
amiksinha- thanks for your respond. I didnt use the tag so I lost my discussion. We do plan for another and thinking about maybe next year or year after next.
• United States
23 Aug 06
I know it probably hurts a lot to have lost a child, but there isn't any harm in giving it another try if you feel comfortable.
@vtheman (23)
• United States
23 Aug 06
Yea I would but I really would probably not want to at first but probably after a few days I would.
@rainbow (6763)
22 Aug 06
only you can search your hearts for this, the memories of your daughter are precious and will always stay with you. A new baby would bring you new memories and a chance for happiness. I would try again, love is strong and although it's scary I would say well worth the risk. Be brave. I will ask the Angels to watch over you.
@ram_ravi (406)
• India
22 Aug 06
It is really to forgive thing like this and forword .But this is life and time doen't came back ,we have to progress with the time . So don't be scared and go forword to have a baby.My wishes are with you.
@swolecat (1278)
• United States
22 Aug 06
What are you scared of... just do it
• United States
22 Aug 06
If you and your husband want more children then when you are ready, try to have another one. Don't push it too soon. Also remember that Septo Optic Dysplasia is rare. You had a very special daughter. I am very sorry for your loss. I wish that I could send you peace.
@swolecat (1278)
• United States
22 Aug 06
When did you have the baby
• United States
22 Aug 06
I know its hard things happen for a reason and im so sorry. my son has a heart problem they said by the time he is 5 he will have open heart surgery he will be turning 6 in nov hes doing good right now. So just keep on praying and it will get better i promise.