We are different in many ways... still love binds us together.

@maryannemax (12170)
Sweden
August 9, 2008 8:49pm CST
My boyfriend and I have been together for more than a year now. We have a very happy relationship. We have a lot in common but we have lots of differences, too. He likes Pepsi, I like Coca-cola. He prefers to have a cup of tea, I'd rather have a cup of coffee. He sleeps early, I sleep late. He loves watching old films, I just hate most of them. Well, even if we are different in many ways, it does not affect the relationship at all. What are the differences between your partner and you? Do these differences result to problems at some point?
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@lvaldean (1612)
• United States
10 Aug 08
Well lets see where to start? We are different culturally - I am American he is West Indian Bahamian We are different racially - I am Native American / Eastern European he is West Indian for those who don't know what that is, he is Black We are different religiously - I am seeking/pagan/recovering Catholic and he was raised in the Church of God of Prophecy where is Grandmother is a pastor. We come from different generations - I am nineteen years older than him, I am from the boomer generation, saw the 60's and the summer of love! He is a generation X. I am a work-acholic. He is not, he works to live. I am a smoker he is not. He is a night owl I am a morning person. He is a creative person, primarily music. I suppose I am also, but I write. I am a reader, devour books. He would love to set fire to my library. I am a talker, love to talk out everything. He would prefer to simmer. I am a socializer. He is a loner. He loves golf - hate it! We have been together nearly 11 years, married 9 years. Fight like the dickens sometimes but still hopelessly in love.
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@maryannemax (12170)
• Sweden
10 Aug 08
wow! that is a very long list there. too many differences and perhaps, much more left unwritten. but good to know that everything still is fine. keep the love alive!
@lvaldean (1612)
• United States
17 Aug 08
I failed to come back to you because of a travel schedule that kept me away. Sorry. What I didn't say is...we love each other endlessly in part because or our differences but more for our similarities. We have the same core moral standards (high). We make each other laugh. We still after all these years sleep spooned. We love our families. We love God, even if we don't always agree with what that means. We hold each other up. Support each others dreams. Sometimes it is hard. Sometimes we want to give up. We always come back together.
@penny64 (1106)
• Australia
10 Aug 08
I think differences are just as important as things in common in a relationship. My husband and I have been together for almost ten years now. We do some things together, and some things separately. We have been on holidays without each other on numerous occasions, and also been away with each other. We have some very, very different interests, and some very much in common. It seems to work for us.
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@maryannemax (12170)
• Sweden
10 Aug 08
that is the magic behind long lasting relationships, right? the differences and the similarities just work all fine together.
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@penny64 (1106)
• Australia
12 Aug 08
Yes, it's about getting that balance right.
• Philippines
10 Aug 08
My hubby and I are soooo different in so many ways. But the differences are so trivial. Sometimes it does cause petty conflicts but in the long run, it just spiced up our relationship. We dated exclusively for 9 long years and we've been married for 4 yrs now. I hope things will work out just fine between you & ur boyfriend.
@maryannemax (12170)
• Sweden
10 Aug 08
wow! such a long relationship. good for you and good for him. you both deserve each other. just proves that even how different you both are, you can keep the relationship going.
@micci123 (20)
10 Aug 08
My hubby and I have been together for 10 years and we are night and day! He is short tempered,I am laid back, he likes rap, I like alternative. He smokes, I dont. I work out all the time, he likes to sit and play video games, we are so different, but it works for us. WE love each other and yes we fight, but we are good together. You can not control who you love and when it gets tough you cant walk away. Good luck to you and your boyfriend!
@maryannemax (12170)
• Sweden
10 Aug 08
it's natural to have misunderstandings sometimes. but for as long as you love each other, it will be alright.
• United States
10 Aug 08
My husband and I also have some differences in our relationships. It has not affected our relationship at all and now our marriage. Well first our difference is in our race he is hispanic and I am Black. Then he likes horror movies and well me, I'm not much of a fan of horror movies. I love coffee and cokes and he'd prefer to drink water or diet cokes. He'd rather stay up late and sleep in all day while I'd rather go to sleep late, but there is no way that I could sleep in all day.
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@yenwie84 (1345)
• Malaysia
10 Aug 08
My boyfriend and I are having many differences too. He likes to sleep late but I need to sleep early. He likes to eat snacks but I want to keep fit. He likes to stay at home but I like to go for outings. We still cling with each other well,maybe this is called love. We need to accept our partner's differences and weaknesses. That's how both of us can live together. Both have to learn on how to tolerate with each other. Sometimes I will feel angry because of his habits,but because of love,I just forget and forgive. Everything is give and take in a relationship.
@djoyce71 (2512)
• Philippines
10 Aug 08
We have differences also. He doesn't like coke, but I like coke. He's not sweet, I'm a hopeless romantic (LOL). He loves action movies, I don't like them. We have different tastes in colors, etc, but I'm pretty sure that he loves me and I love him still. Good morning.
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@nicholejade (2430)
• Canada
10 Aug 08
My fiance and I have many many differences but it doesn't change at how much we love eachother, respect eachother and just wanna be together. He loves diet dr pepper. However I cannot stand anything diet period. He can't stand alot salads and pretty much every green vegetable out there. But I love vegetables and I truly love salads. He loves watching crime, war, documentaries. Sometimes I don't mind them and alot are intresting but there are still ones that I just couldn't be bothered with watching. But I still watch them of course. These are just a few from the top of my head. There are many many more but honestly I just can't think of any more at the moment. Just because a couple have differences doesn't mean the realationship won't work. My fiance and I are living proof that they do work. And seems to me that you boyfriend and you are as well.
• Philippines
10 Aug 08
well, me and my boyfriend are together for more than five years...We are still together even though we have a lot of different likes... He hates vinegar and ketchup... and I love ketchup and vinegar... He hates studying... and I love studying.. He sleeps early and I sleep late... He loves palabok and I love spaghetti
@maryannemax (12170)
• Sweden
10 Aug 08
i love palabok! you reminded me of it. it's not easy to get hold of that here in sweden. my boyfriend bought me a palabok mix in london but i can't get hold of smoked fish and chicharon. i will surely eat palabok when i get home next year.
• United States
10 Aug 08
My husband and I are the same way but it doesn't cause problems. I have been married to him for 35 years and on 20th August it will be 36. So the minor problems of our differences we just worked them out is all. We love each other and that is what people do. Work there differnces out. I am from St. Louis, Mo. and he is from Paintsville , Kentucky. There is big differences between two entirely way of life. My Mom had even made the comment after we had been married for fifteen years that she was surprised that we had made it that far. She even commented on the two different styles of living. That it is hard to adjust to a person from a different part of the country. But we did it and love each other loads.
@maryannemax (12170)
• Sweden
10 Aug 08
wow! 35 years and are still so much inlove! love really binds two people with too many differences together.
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@bubuth (1816)
• Philippines
20 Nov 12
It is good thay differences of a couple did not affect the relationship. That is a proof thay you.love each other so much and both of you.understand each other. Me and my husband also have differences like, he like to watch basketball shows and I like love stories and horror movies, he love to eat vegetables and I love to eat meat, he like to watch television and I prefer computer. Because of him I start to like vegetables.
• Sweden
15 Aug 08
Me and my husband been together for almost 1 year now.in relationship it doesnt matter if you are really have same things.Me and my husband is really different.He love love old movie i dont but sometimes i watched with him because the movie is famous and also very good one even it is old hehehe.He love to read book a lots,i try to read but i am thinking book is boring and he is not agree with it .He love tea and i hate tea,I love coffe he hate coffee,It really funny because even we had different thing that we like we still love each other so much.I am really lucky to have my husband,He is so nice to me.
@paulsy (1264)
• Philippines
11 Aug 08
My partner and I are also different in so many ways. But just like you, we have a very happy relationship too. Our difference in culture and upbringing has never been a problem between us. I guess it's because we love each other very much. I really believe it's true love. Never in my life did I ever imagine that one day I would be open to accepting and adjusting to someone who is very different from me. More so with him, being the man with principles and beliefs that even his own parents could not change. People around us believed that with all aour differences, our relationship cannot survive. But after more than 2 years now, we have proven them all wrong! He has accepted some of our traditions, though not all, and likewise, I have accepted certain things that I never grew up with. We have never demanded each other to accept what we cannot accept, but we have always been open to each other to explain why certain things should be and should not be, and I have to say, we have such a wonderful and beautiful relationship that is growing stronger every single day!
@neildc (17253)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
11 Aug 08
me and my wife has a lot of different likes, dislikes, traits, etc. just to mention one thing, in watching tv shows. we have a lot in common, but there are some shows that i want to watch and she don't want to. in most times like this, i let her prevail in what show to watch so there will be no arguments. i am a good husband, you know. (neildc @ red/88/1535)
• Philippines
10 Aug 08
Hi friend. I and my husband are really different from each other. But what binds us is our love for Christ. Though we're not compatible, we complement each other. That is why we're still together. What I don't have he has, what he has not, i have. =)
• China
10 Aug 08
it is true to me .i always quarrel with my girlfriend but we still be in harmony after every quarrel because there is love behind us
@izathewzia (5142)
• Philippines
10 Aug 08
I strongly agree on you. Even we have differences, love unites us all. Love is the most strongest feeling. It has no boundaries, no races, no cultures and no economic status. A lot of couples stays together because of love and not because of their differences.
@jalucia (1435)
• United States
10 Aug 08
It's the love and respect of each other's differences that truly bind us together, not our commonality. If you can deal with how the other person differs from you than you've got it made. If you can't than you should let it go. Variety is the spice of life, as long as it doesn't make you gag.
@metalhalo (601)
• United States
10 Aug 08
My hubby and I have been married for a little over 8 years. In alot of senses we are exactly alike. Both completely stubborn, love to make each other laugh and he's def. turned me toward his taste of music. (Rock) Yet we have our major differences too...when we argue, I'm the one running away but he wants to settle it right then and there. He's shown me how to be a stronger person and deal with conflict in a positive way. I think a nice medium ground is lovely. Having some things in common and having differences. I think there's more room to grow when you face those differences.
@Dolcerina (3379)
• Hungary
10 Aug 08
I like talking he does not! In fact we can not talk about the things I am interested in. And yes, it is not easy. But I keep on by him. He likes the action movies, I really hate them. He likes to watch sport chanels I don't. But both of us like the documentaries. I know from the begining, that we are really very different, but I do listen to it, so that it does not affect our relaionship. It does not matter if we express our love to each other. Have a nice day!