Dilemma For A Two Year Old.

Grandma And Her Baby!!! -  This is a picture of my middle sister and her first grand child.
@Rozie37 (15503)
Turkmenistan
August 10, 2008 8:49pm CST
My sister is a pre-school teacher and her grandson was put in her class this year. I think it is the cutest thing in the world. At home he calls her "Nani," and calls her the same thing in class. The problem is that she want the other kids to call her teacher Doris, but when they here her grandson calling her Nani, they start calling her that too. My sister is attempting to teach him to call her Nani at home and teacher Doris at school. I told her that he is too young for something that complicated and pretty soon, he just won't call her at all, LOL. She said that he has almost got it. But I think that it is too confusing for him. What do you think would be a good solution to this dilemma?
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• United States
23 Aug 08
I am wondering if there is a chance that your nephew can be put in a different preschool class. I think they need to be with someone else then their Nani's or family they are close with. How is your sister who was going to move to Atlanta? did she get moved and are they all doing well?
@Rozie37 (15503)
• Turkmenistan
23 Aug 08
I think that my sister enjoys having her grandson in her class too much to transfer him out, it is totally cute to me to though. My older sister and her family are just starting to settle into a routine in Atlanta. She seems very happy and I am happy for her. The thing about her though is that she will say that everything is fine, until something really bad happens or you go and visit her, then you find out the truth. She does a real good job of staying positive in spite of her circumstances and I have come to respect her for that. I say that as long as she is happy, I am happy for her.
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• United States
1 Sep 08
I am glad your sister seems to be happy. I really hope all stays that way for her.
@Shaun72 (15968)
• Palatka, Florida
11 Aug 08
That is cute. I agree it is is to confusing for him at such a young age. I am not sure what dilemma for her to take. It seems a little hard to explain to a 2 year old why they have to call you one name at home and another at day care. I feel bad for your sister.
@Rozie37 (15503)
• Turkmenistan
12 Aug 08
I know it is hard for her. You feel good when you are able to teach your grandchild in a professional setting and I know that she would never play favorites. But the parents may have a problem with their children calling her Nani, as if she is their grandmother too.
@Shaun72 (15968)
• Palatka, Florida
12 Aug 08
That is very true also. That has to be hard trying to explain to him about this.
@Polly1 (12649)
• United States
11 Aug 08
He will get it, two year olds are so smart. I think its cute if all the kids called her nani. I have lots of kids that call me gramma. I hear the word gramma and answer to it. My grandchildren friends call me gramma. Everynow and then I will hear "hi Brandons gramma", I have no idea who the kids are, but I say hi. I am known by my grandkids, its cute though. I have so much fun being a gramma. The little ones are so special.
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@Rozie37 (15503)
• Turkmenistan
12 Aug 08
I know what you mean, they are innocent little treasures. My niece's and nephew's friend's use to call me Auntie Rosie and it was flattering to me. I believe that my sister is just worried because this is a professional setting and it could upset the parents.
@Polly1 (12649)
• United States
12 Aug 08
A friends little boy used to call me Uncle Vickie, his mom had lots of "boyfriends" "Uncles" she didn't have many female friends or Aunties. So he figured I was an Uncle, I loved it. I lost touch with them over the years, he came to see me after he was grown. He wanted to call me Auntie, I told him I liked the Uncle Vickie.
@wachit14 (3600)
• United States
11 Aug 08
This is not very unusual for a child. I have worked with kids for many years from two to eighteen. I can tell you that even elementary school children have, at times, called me "mommy". I doubt the teacher is that concerned about it and, at the most, will probably just correct the kids. Eventually toddlers will begin to discern between a teacher and a relative and will correctly identify each person. Until then, I wouldn't sweat the small stuff.
@Rozie37 (15503)
• Turkmenistan
12 Aug 08
Well, my sister is the teacher and she does not feel that it is appropriate for the students to call her Nani, just because her grandson does.
@checapricorn (16066)
• United States
11 Aug 08
Hi Rozie, I have also friends who are teachers and their own kids are with them...Kids just imitate their classmate as calling "teacher" or "miss" and my friends are also telling their kids at home to just follow the classmates, I know the grandson will just adopt it, it will not be abrupt but in the long run, he will understand it!
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@Rozie37 (15503)
• Turkmenistan
12 Aug 08
I just don't want this to cause him any harm or confusion. It seems like a small thing, but when it comes to children, you have to be very careful.
@faith210 (11233)
• Philippines
11 Aug 08
Hi Rozie37! haha..That is so cute! Personally, I wouldn't really mind if all the children in class will call her "Nani" because I agree with you that it will be confusing for her grandson to teach him otherwise. I just hope the school wouldn't be that strict and just allow the kids to call her "Nani" until the time that they can understand the proper way to address a teacher. Take care always..God Bless!
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@Rozie37 (15503)
• Turkmenistan
12 Aug 08
The thing of it is, the parents my have a problem with it also.
11 Aug 08
Hmmmm it is a difficult one as he is so young. Perhaps a good compromise is they all call her Nani Doris? My friend and I taught a short project with pre-school children and it included her son. It was so difficult as he played up and disliked the attention other children got from his Mum. I think it is going to be hard for your sister to get all the children to call her teacher Doris, as they've started calling her Nani. I like the idea of making it into a game, and perhaps rewarding your son at home if he calls his Nani 'teacher Doris' in class all day?
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@Rozie37 (15503)
• Turkmenistan
12 Aug 08
Making it into a game is the easiest thing for him. Anything else would put too much pressure on him. I hope that she is able to work it out so that everyone involved will be alright with it.
@maddysmommy (16236)
• United States
11 Aug 08
Nani Doris sounds so cute, I don't think I would mind being called Nani Dori considering they are only two years old. It would be hard for him to change since he only knows her as Nani. Maybe when he gets a little older it would be easier to explain to him the difference.
@Rozie37 (15503)
• Turkmenistan
12 Aug 08
I am sure that it would be confusing for all the kids if she told them not to call her something that they are already use to calling her. She may have to continue allowing them to call her that. Just to keep it simple for everyone. She would need to talk to the parents, however.
@GardenGerty (99481)
• United States
11 Aug 08
I think that all the kids should call her Nani Doris. I hope she is as dear to them as a grandmother. I agree, that is a lot for a two year old to get a handle on. I always hated it when kids called me "teacher" and I told them that teacher was a job, and Heather was my name. I know, it is only my opinion, but I think it would be so cute to have them all call her Nani Doris.
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@Rozie37 (15503)
• Turkmenistan
12 Aug 08
I think it would be cute too, but the parents may have a problem with it.
• Singapore
11 Aug 08
a solution for this problem can only be done if the kid understands what he is taught about the difference in home and school. but i don't think that u will force the child to do so. since he is two years old and the other kids in the class are also about the same age nvm this issue. thats what i think.
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@Rozie37 (15503)
• Turkmenistan
12 Aug 08
Just as long as no one forces him to say one or the other, everything will be alright.
@jonesy123 (3950)
• United States
11 Aug 08
Oh boy, that will be difficult to learn at that age. I had a kid in my class whose uncle was our teacher for two years. Now we were 9 and 10 around that time. He still addressed him occasionally as uncle Anton (Anton being the teacher's first name) and had to be reminded to use Mr. and the last name. It will be very difficult for the little one to differentiate between at home and Nani environment and school and teacher Doris environment. He is simply too young. She can try reminding him but when she finally has him 'trained' he will be ready to move on to the next class, lol. I don't think there is much else she can do.
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@Rozie37 (15503)
• Turkmenistan
11 Aug 08
I was just thinking that maybe she could turn it into a game. It just seems cruel to expect him to remember what to call her and when.
• Philippines
11 Aug 08
Better stick on teaching her to call teacher Doris (my namesake). My two year old daughter is already in school and she calls her teacher "Teacher Alma". When I teach her something at home, she calls me "teacher mommy".
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@Rozie37 (15503)
• Turkmenistan
11 Aug 08
I do not think she wants him to call her teacher at home. This is her first grandson, so I know that it is very special for her. But teacher mommy sounds real cute, I like that.
@modmommy (44)
• United States
11 Aug 08
I had the same thing with my own daughter. She was in a preschool class next door to me. We had some inclusion with my class. She would come in to see me everyday and she called me "mommy" of course. It was not an issue because we explained to the other kids that I was her mommy. They adapted to us, we didn't need to change anything.
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@Rozie37 (15503)
• Turkmenistan
11 Aug 08
Oh, I think that this would be much easier. Explain it to the other children. I will call my sister immediately and suggest it to her. Thank you so much.
• United States
11 Aug 08
That is a tough one. I wonder if the parents would care if the kids in the class called her Nani Doris?
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@Rozie37 (15503)
• Turkmenistan
11 Aug 08
I don't think that my sister feels it is appropriate while she is at work. Besides, she is only 41. When he was born, she was only 38 and I teased her mercilessly. She just doesn't look or act like my idea of a grandmother. But she is good at it though.
@Foxxee (3653)
• United States
12 Aug 08
I was in the same situation a few years ago. My mom was my daughters teacher for a week and then the preschool decided to move my daughter because they didn't think it was a good idea to have grandma and granddaughter in the same room. It was hard for my mom to actually do her job. She has other kids to take care of. So I think the solution would be move your child to another classroom. I'm surprised this daycare/preschool is allowing it, some are really against it. But you will soon realize that your son and even Nani will both be better off. And I also worked in the same school as my mom and I was with the older kids and once my daughter moved up to my class, I lasted 3 days and then decided it was to hard on me to teach the other kids because my daughter always thought she could get away with things. Can't have favorites in this kind of situation. So I asked if she could be put in the other class or if I could be moved. THey ended up moving me with the 4 year olds and had another teacher take over my class during the time my daughter was there.
@Foxxee (3653)
• United States
12 Aug 08
My mistake about the child being your son by the way... :) I'm sure you get what I was saying though...
@Rozie37 (15503)
• Turkmenistan
12 Aug 08
I completely understand what you are saying and they may end up having to do that. But I know my sister's character and that is no way she would ever play favorites with her grandson. If anything, she would be more strict with him than the rest, because she would expect him to know better.
@suspenseful (40316)
• Canada
11 Aug 08
I do not like the idea of children calling adults by their first name. I would ask your sister if perhaps they could call her Mrs. Doris or Miss Doris or Mrs. or Miss her last name. Even though it might seem to make her friendlier, children do not need an extra buddy and they would think she is just having fun with them rather than teaching them how to do finger paints and cut outs or learn the alphabet. So go with the title, of Mrs, or Miss along with her first name or her last name. Familiarity breathes contempt was a good saying for a reason.
@Rozie37 (15503)
• Turkmenistan
12 Aug 08
As far as I know, teacher Doris is what all of her students at the different schools have called her. Things have only become difficult since her grandson is now in her class.
@Island_Geko (3760)
• Canada
11 Aug 08
I know where I am from if a Child is related to the teacher in an form the child is not allowed to be in the class due to possible favoritism conflict......In many cases it also helps teach the child more indenpendence to avoid any family member. THe only thing I can suggest is to teach the child that in class "Nani" is called Teacher and that (like a little game) she should only be called Nani at home not in school for it is their secret Name.
@Rozie37 (15503)
• Turkmenistan
11 Aug 08
I was just thinking that it should be made into a game also. So it will not upset him. Now I know that my sister would never show favoitism for her grandson on purpose. But I also remember that she enjoyed him having a male teacher also. He is a very clever and smart kid and is more likely to obey a firm male voice. She says that she has a yellow chair that she sits in to teach the kids their numbers, when she gets up to do something, her grandson will sit in the chair and attempt to teach the kids their numbers. So maybe he is expecting favoritism by trying to get away with things that he knows he is not suppose to do. But I know that my sister will stay on his case about that.