Will He Come Back? What Should I Do If He Didn't?

Philippines
August 11, 2008 8:32pm CST
I wonder if you could help. I was going out with a guy for 10 years. At the start we were madly in love, there was passion, security, everything, although intellectually we were incompatible. I needed friends and other contacts which he resented. He became increasingly jealous and controlling. We lived together but in February of this year I moved out. I couldn't stop seeing him entirely. I was still attached to him. However this August he came round to my house and after a particularly ugly display of emotion he kicked my door. I said I no longer wanted any contact and kept that up for nearly 3 months. He was broken hearted and begged me back many many times. I was as cold as ice and still resentful as to his behavior previously. Over time I softened and thought it might be time to meet up. At the last minute I cancelled and he went out on a pub crawl. Overnight his attitude changed!!! He met someone else who he has been seeing for the last 3 weekends ( even though he hates to admit it). I knew straight away. Now it is me who is heartbroken. I feel that life has come back and kicked me in my teeth and I want him back. I miss him. However after trying to see him and getting replies like he needs "space" I have decided to cut all contact again. What can I do? Will he come back? Or has he just met a newer model and in fact his feelings for me were superficial?
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@checapricorn (16066)
• United States
12 Aug 08
Hi Yohanna, [i]Wow..This is really sad and maybe he was totally hurt when you always ignore his request and this time he really wanted a space to think about it..I am not sure if he will come back but if you love him very much, fight for your love, that is the best a girl can do so that there will be no regrets later on if you will really lose him.. [/i]
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@mstgmagic (126)
• United States
12 Aug 08
he's probably doing that to make you jealous so u can ask him back. That's usually the next step men take to try and get a woman back then they leave the other gurl or at least act like they're leaving them and in the end have 2 gurls.
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@yrayne (76)
12 Aug 08
..well, for me, maybe it would be better if you give him a little space.. however, you could just send him a message saying you are sorry even if you think that you've done nothing wrong.. then tell him you love him and you miss him terribly.. maybe, in that way, he will be the one to contact you.. be positive.. in case, he doesn't return, maybe he's not really for you.. something out there maybe is waiting for you who is much much better than him.. Good luck..
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@slepart (207)
• Philippines
23 Aug 08
No one can tell if he will be back.. if he didn't you must move on.. It is not good to hold on to something that was never yours... be strong and good luck!
@subha12 (18453)
• India
12 Aug 08
in my opinion, its better to say him goodbye. you may be angry with me with your current condition of mind as by any means you want him back. but its life. its tough and painful to forget him. But you have to ignore him. it seems he is fickle minded.