Our opinion please - mom and a teenage boy vs studies and technology

Philippines
August 11, 2008 10:35pm CST
A warm hello to all the mylot moms ... and of course non-moms too. It's a welcome consolation that I've chanced upon joining this site. I am glad to read up on a whole lot of topics that both are of my interest and not. The abundance of archive discussions does though present to me far too many to refer back on and yet the opened topics and views of mother's work choices, food, health, and relationship and all the other goody bits of insights has encouraged me to post... I am eager to know how moms (and dads too) cope with their teenage kids (boys...as I have one myself) that find all the excuses to swing by us parents to get their way at playing Playstation, Xbox or online games instead of doing their studies. I may be running the risk of sounding old-fashioned or out-of-touch or maybe even trivial but do we (as parents) "run against the tide" with teenage kids where fun and games are pitted against their studies? I have heard myself once to many saying "Close that game first son and finish your studies!" Do we present ourselves less loving when we constantly remind them to study first or can we persevere in believing that they do not take their studies for granted as they may profess? Or is there something else? Tell me your opinions...
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@sunshine4 (8710)
• United States
12 Aug 08
I am a mom of 3 teenage boys. My oldest is 19 and has graduated from high school. My other boys are 16 and 14. I guess I am just lucky with this topic. When they get home from school, I always have something there for them to munch on before dinner. Then I ask them if they have homework. They tell me what the homework is. If I see them playing the playstation or on the computer, I ask if their homework is done. I don't ever nag them about it. They should be responsible to get their work done or they pay the consequences at school. I have found that not nagging and just reminding them that they might want to get it finished before it is too late, they always get it done on their own.
• Philippines
13 Aug 08
Hi Sunshine... "Lucky" when you have 2 more than I, is an understatement I think, but I do believe that children are a blessing with all their idiosyncrasies. Some parents may just turn out to be more challenged than others. I appreciate your shared insights. Happy posting!
@lyzabelle (1669)
• Philippines
12 Aug 08
As always teenagers need the guidance of both parents. Addiction to online games is a bad habit. Studies is no longer their top priority. However to balance everything we must give them at least one or two hours to play. This is called compromised. We cannot get what we want unless we give them what they want. I think this is only fair to all concern.
• Philippines
13 Aug 08
Hi Lyzabelle... Thank you for your insight. Compromise...sounds mighty fair to me. To have been young once and remember saying "I won't be like this to my kids when I grow up." when we got reprimanded for seemingly trivial fun things then, seems mighty hard to equate now that the ball is in my court. Fun...discipline...hmmm...