Do you review your behaviour and wish you had not behaved like that?

@naseeha (1385)
India
August 12, 2008 5:39am CST
When i am in a good mood i always think of my actions and debate with myself whether i did was right or wrong. Or whether there was a better way to have tackled the situation. Sometimes I feel that what I did was right and there was no other option but at other times i feel i had not behaved right. Then i try to find out why i behaved like that and i try to avoid behaving the same way again although i am not always successful.. But i am not always so good.. I have my days when i feel like a devil and do all sorts of things which are definitely not good and dont care about it at all..As i told you, when i am in a good mood i try to understand myself.. I try to make myself better.I have changed some aspects of my behaviour by this method of reviewing my behaviour. Do any of you do that? Has it helped you in any way?
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@Rintis (646)
• India
12 Aug 08
I always think about my actions and behavior. Just Like you I do wonder if I was right or wrong. Whenever I realize that I acted wrongly, I feel terribly guilty and ask God to forgive me. Some times I even go and apologize to the person I hurt by my behavior. I believe analyzing our actions is a good idea as we know where we have gone wrong and avoid it from happening again.
@naseeha (1385)
• India
13 Aug 08
Wow i appreciate it that you are able to apologize to the person who was hurt. I am never able to gather the nerve to apologize to the person concerned...
@Rintis (646)
• India
13 Aug 08
Yes it is very difficult to say sorry, but once said it makes me feel great.
@padma84 (98)
12 Aug 08
I do indulge in retrospection sometimes.But not too deep.somewhere in the corner of my mind I resolve not to encounter a such a situation. Thankfully Iam a person who let go things as they are hoping that the adding years would mellow me(!!!!!!!!!!!!!???????????)Anyway we are human beings... We do have the devil and angel in us.Can't always be angelic , can we?
@naseeha (1385)
• India
13 Aug 08
yES we cant always be angelic.. Time also mellows us and the situations we face also moulds us and our character. Its just that i would like to curb my tongue which sometimes lashes out at unsuspecting victims..
@subha12 (18453)
• India
12 Aug 08
yes i do. when sometimes i think i should not have behaved that way. but its not always so for me. i sometimes get headstrong and think what i did was perfect.
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@naseeha (1385)
• India
13 Aug 08
YES subha sometimes i too feel like that.. I feel so adamant and headstrong at times that i will never admit even to myself that what i did was wrong.
• United States
12 Aug 08
You should really just live in the momemt. Sometimes decisions require thought, but most of the time you should go with your gut feeling. You shouldn't dwel on what you did instead just realey on your heart to have lead you in the right direction.I wish you great luck in you conquest to inprove yourself !.!.! ** ** ******** ******** ****** **** ** ANGEL
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@naseeha (1385)
• India
13 Aug 08
Thank you angel. I like to change myself for the better and this is a good way to do that.. Yes Its true that we have to get on with life and rely on our heart to lead us in the right direction.Its just that if the same situation arises yet again i should behave in a better way..Thanks for posting.
@riyasam (16578)
• India
12 Aug 08
oh this happens to me most of the time.when i am in a foul mood,i do a lot o things which i regret later.so now whenever i am in a foul mood.i try deep breathing or going for a walk.
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@naseeha (1385)
• India
13 Aug 08
Nowadays i too am trying to apply this technique. When i get mad at something or somebody, i try to read a book or listen to music to divert myself..
• United States
12 Aug 08
Sometimes when I am in the heat of reacting to something, I don't always analyze what I am about to do or say before I act. This isn't necessarily good because it may offend, hurt, or annoy someone I love. Afterwards, when I have calmed down, I do think about how I could have responded and I apologize if I feel that I was wrong. I admit sometimes I can get a bit melodramatic and that really doesn't help the situation. From now on, I try to calm down and reflect on what is happening before I react. It sounds easy, but it is actually hard.
@naseeha (1385)
• India
13 Aug 08
Yes planning your actions and thinking it out before it happens is a difficult thing. But if you make mistakes, you can learn from them and try not to repeat them again which is what i do..
@acevivx (1566)
• Philippines
12 Aug 08
It's not a matter of whether i am in a good mood or not. I usually go over my behavior during the day just before i go to sleep at night. The reason I do it is to review and analyze if the decisions i made, the things i said or my actuations were the proper and tight things to say and do at the time i said or did them. Of course there are some things I said or did or the manner i did or say them that i regret sometimes but more often than not, while I admit i could havce done better or in a different way, i don't really regret it or dwell on the mistakes. I just take note and try not to do it again.
@naseeha (1385)
• India
13 Aug 08
Its good to review your actions everyday.. But i do not have time for that.. But Yours is a good philosophy..
@dpk262006 (56170)
• Delhi, India
12 Aug 08
It really sounds nice and interesting that you can review your own behaviour. For me, it is not that easy. When I feel that I did not behave in a nice manner with someone, I do think it over. But I try to reason out myself that may be at that point of time, I was right. I did the right thing, at that time, according to the circumstances. Sometimes, it so happens that I cannot hold my emotions and may say something sarcastic to someone, but later on, I do feel bad about it. I try to improve upon myself, as much as possible. Lastly, when I find that I cannot improve upon certain areas or traits of my character - I make myself understand by remembering these words - 'No one in this world is perfect, everyone has plus and minus points, as well'. So if I commit any folly, I can excuse myself on this ground..........LOL! Very good post!!
@naseeha (1385)
• India
13 Aug 08
I liked your response very much deepak..Yes youre right.We are human beings prone to error and so we can excuse ourselves..
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@dpk262006 (56170)
• Delhi, India
13 Aug 08
Many thanks for agreeing with me. I was just thinking after writing the response, whether I could answer your question properly or not........LOL!
@aendzie (571)
• Philippines
12 Aug 08
I do review my behavior....lol, and I ended up regreting for what I've done, though I try not to coz I believe that what had done has done, no matter how bad it is or good, when you've done it, there's no turning back. But still I would analyze my wrongdoing, and try not to do them again. I believe that our behaviour can sometimes bring us into trouble but then we just have to choose when to lose it or shut it.
@naseeha (1385)
• India
13 Aug 08
Yes it is true...
@maryannemax (12172)
• Sweden
12 Aug 08
Just like you, i usually am in a good mood. There are times when this good mood of mine turns me into an annoying girlfriend. There are days when I talk and talk to my boyfriend without knowing that i am becoming so irritating already. he ofcourse won't tell me that but I can notice it in his actions. That's when I start reviewing my behaviour and wish that i behaved in another way.
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@naseeha (1385)
• India
13 Aug 08
Yes it makes it worse when the other person is so understanding and does not even point out your mistake. When the other person accepts your behaviour it makes you feel ashamed of yourself... tHANKs for the reply..
@luvjabb (58)
• United States
12 Aug 08
Always ,I often wonder If I said or did the right thing. I try to be honset but I dont want to hurt anyone doing so.
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@naseeha (1385)
• India
13 Aug 08
yES thats the whole point.. WE cant always be right, But our being wrong should not hurt somebody unnecessarily..
@shana123 (2096)
• India
12 Aug 08
I cant just predict the mood of mine when i would review myself.. sometimes i will be totally down and i would keep analysing myself where i went wrong , why am i behaving so bad to people and showing my attitude towards them, and sometimes when im in a good mood i do think back what made me so appy and why not always happy like this..!!! This will always give me one reply that im a adamant in things, if i want it i want it i cant give up as it will affect my self respect for example if i asked my mom not to buy me somthing she shouldn't if she does buy a dress or something which i dont like i always try not to wear the dress at all by telling some lame escuses.So many times the problem is with me and most of the times my reason to be adamant was good so why should i feel its better be like this. people who accept me stay with me or if they hate let them walk away...!!!
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@naseeha (1385)
• India
13 Aug 08
Its such a simple issue about the dress. But what i was thinking about when i started this discussion was about getting mad at people at the slightest provocation. Where the situation could have been made pleasanter by staying cool. wHEre somebody is hurt by our behaviour when we could have avoided it... WhAt about such situations shana?
• Philippines
12 Aug 08
Good day... I usually self-reflect after a bad day or after a bad decision. I always think what if my head is cooler, would the outcome somehow be better? If I took the time to analyze and let reasons rather than arguments take precedence would it make the situation better, these are the questions I debate with myself.
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@maryannemax (12172)
• Sweden
12 Aug 08
Self-reflection is one best way of learning from our mistakes. We think about the wrong things we've done, reflect about it and learn about it. Then, we always try not to do the same mistake again. Self-reflection helps us become a better person.
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• United States
12 Aug 08
The way I look at myself is that I have made the decision. I cannot go back and undo what is done. But if I could do it over what would I change? I try not to think about it too much because I then feel like I made the wrong dicission and somthing bad will come out of it. I just tell myself to be confident in the dicission I have made and let it go. Everything always works out the way God intended it to anyway. Have faith.
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@naseeha (1385)
• India
13 Aug 08
Its not about decisions Jess. I am talking about how we behave in certain situations... If i understand that the way i behaved in a particular situation was not right, then i try not to repeat the same mistake again.
@dragon54u (31617)
• United States
13 Aug 08
That's happened to me many, many times! I try to learn from it but quite often I put my foot in my mouth and engage my mouth before my brain.
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